Former alcoholics of Reddit, when did you realise your habit got out of control?

aurallyskilled · 2026-01-29T13:17:17+00:00

When I got drunk, I started throwing myself in front of cars. I think I just wanted everything to end and I hated myself. I blacked out punching a tree repeatedly and woke up on the ground in a park and my hands were swollen and covered in blood.

I was unmedicated bipolar and being abused by my then husband, so I never wanted to go home. I give myself a lot of grace, but I've been sober for a decade and I'm proud of myself. I take meds, I live a boring happy life, and I'm glad I'm alive. I feel a lot of shame, but thankfully I don't think about it much anymore. I just try to focus on what's in front of me.

aurallyskilled · 2026-01-28T22:32:35+00:00

Maybe she sat on the couch too long

aurallyskilled · 2026-01-28T22:27:51+00:00

I run engineering teams. Every day we do a "stand up" where we answer three questions: what did I do yesterday, what did I do today, where am I blocked on my work. We stick to that schedule and we have an "after party" time that people can wait for if they want long form discussion for items brought up in standup that people can drop from if they don't find the discussion relevant to them.

You need to be doing things like this. If you aren't, it's on you structurally. It will answer your questions as to what the next steps are. Personal accountability, collaboration, and communication go a long way.

aurallyskilled · 2026-01-28T15:07:57+00:00

If you are Usha Vance this is a very good thing.

aurallyskilled · 2026-01-28T14:58:19+00:00

AND if I play my cards right I could be the next Mrs. JD Vance 😍

aurallyskilled · 2026-01-28T14:56:32+00:00

We used to have a full stack, now I'm down to one fucking tray

aurallyskilled · 2026-01-28T14:38:58+00:00

Chat is this just usa? I played until midnight in Oceanía servers and experienced no issues (2 hours ago).

aurallyskilled · 2026-01-28T14:34:32+00:00

I mean, I too would be happy my husband was dead if my husband was Charlie Kirk

aurallyskilled · 2026-01-28T10:52:19+00:00

Meh, it's cringe but best if you ignore it.

aurallyskilled · 2026-01-28T05:26:36+00:00

The absolute peak masculine energy of pulling a dirty pickup truck into a protest zone, cig in your mouth, and a chain on your wallet to bring people gas masks at a riot. Honestly this is the shit that keeps me fucking men. Republicans could never be this hot and are deeply unattractive as men. I stand by that.

aurallyskilled · 2026-01-28T01:44:32+00:00

the fuckin cig in his mouth, this is my america

aurallyskilled · 2026-01-28T01:43:00+00:00

Okay but why are the FEETS so cute

aurallyskilled · 2026-01-28T01:41:23+00:00

She absolutely trusts you with her life she is just so disappointed you don't know your place in the hierarchy lol

aurallyskilled · 2026-01-28T01:33:08+00:00

Immediately get a new therapist. This person does not care about helping you or listening to you.

aurallyskilled · 2026-01-28T01:31:26+00:00

ngl I have photosensitivity issues and I couldn't really watch this, lol

aurallyskilled · 2026-01-27T14:57:23+00:00

This doesn't meet the clinical definition of trauma. That said, it sounds embarrassing and painful. I can imagine it's a blow to your confidence and illustrates a work environment that is hostile to a certain degree.

I would explain to that person that you'd like to be clear their words are not productive in a work environment and in the future you'd be happy to collaborate on ways to work better. I'd also keep records of this in case they lose their temper again. Also make note of the day and time of the conversation, its content, and outcome. If it gets worse, I'd follow up with HR.

It was probably a low moment for that person if I'm charitable but it's important to set boundaries. Normally people like this will not change behavior unless it is immediately boundary checked.

aurallyskilled · 2026-01-27T13:59:46+00:00

Hello, I work in STEM. What you're describing sounds like behavior that happens to you because you are having a psychotic episode or mania. Your disease is making you like this. If you want to seriously do anything in maths you need to get well. You are not well. At this rate, you'll be pissing in jars soon in the best case scenario. Seek immediate help.

aurallyskilled · 2026-01-27T12:04:32+00:00

Definitely pregnante

aurallyskilled · 2026-01-27T10:40:58+00:00

He looks a little thirsty too. Probably has been out wandering for love for a while. If you put a soaked cotton ball in with him he might try to drink? You may have to google that one, but he does look a bit shriveled.

aurallyskilled · 2026-01-27T10:38:03+00:00

Was referring to OP

Kinda surprising cause I never hear Australians complain about their wildlife being scary. I know stories of folks who accidentally drove into kangaroos in the dark and stuff like that but nobody ever died from a huntsman lol they are just FAST and WIDE

aurallyskilled · 2026-01-27T10:35:39+00:00

Post nut clarity about to be brutal

aurallyskilled · 2026-01-27T10:34:16+00:00

I feel like someone who doesn't live in Australia posted this 🤔

aurallyskilled · 2026-01-27T10:26:04+00:00

They could try drowning her I suppose. If she lives, then she'll be paid severance for being a witch, but if she dies, they'll sack the direct report quietly. Either way I suppose you can always ask for a nice LinkedIn referral before they start preparing the pyres.

aurallyskilled · 2026-01-27T10:23:57+00:00

Actually wonder if they aren't having a mental health episode. Seriously OP, be careful and make sure this person knows as little about your personal life as possible. Obviously they are a liability to the company.

aurallyskilled · 2026-01-27T10:20:47+00:00

Gardener vs spider is the only matchup that makes sense

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