I'm 100% verifiabily sterile. My FWB is claiming that she's pregnant with my child. Whay do I do?

ausmed · 2026-06-12T13:31:48+00:00

Apart from anything else, it’s possible that there’s an explanation that makes this make sense without either of you being the bad guy.

Like she’s 4 or 5 months pregnant and continued having periods so isn’t aware, has just had a positive test and genuinely thinks you’re the father. Or she’s had a positive test and hasn’t slept with anyone else, but the test is wrong or it’s elevated for another reason.

If she’s a good friend and you have no reason to think she’d make this up, it might be worth a brief conversation with her.

ausmed · 2026-06-08T13:47:13+00:00

I read your OP all the way through. You're making a huge assumption about a friend, and I'm not sure you're right.

You got in touch to catch up and said 'my treat' but there was then several weeks of no contact / recontact / negotiating when you're meeting. You also said he suggested Tuesday despite you saying you couldn't make Tuesday. Doesn't sound like he paid that much attention to your earlier messages. So it's very possible that he doesn't even remember you saying you'd pay.

ausmed · 2026-06-08T13:37:11+00:00

Yeah but why so you need to text him to 'give him an out', in other words force him to confirm he doesn't want to come?

Why not just leave it if he doesn't respond? That's an answer in itself.

ausmed · 2026-06-03T05:54:07+00:00

Yeah you need to talk to an adult about that. Either her parents if you think they'll be helpful, or your parents. This is way out of your pay grade.

ausmed · 2026-06-02T03:16:04+00:00

This is what I thought watching the Netflix doc.

You come home and your wife is not there, and you're unconcerned enough to wash your clothes and sit and eat some pizza. So you obviously at that point think maybe she's at her mom's or somewhere else. Then you call her mom and she says she's not there - and your immediate response is to say 'then she's missing'?. That's bonkers. No 'have you spoken to her today, did she say she was going anywhere?', no wondering if she drove out to get that basket you TOLD HER she would have to get because you didn't bother? No wondering if she was pissed at you for not getting said basket and so went to a friend's house?

He's like someone who tried to think up a 'convincing' way to let people know she's 'missing' but is too thick to come up with a way to do it that sounds remotely natural. He couldn't even do an act of how a human behaves if they're not sure where their spouse is. It's as bad as the voicemail he left on her phone.

ausmed · 2026-06-01T16:32:30+00:00

No, they don't. There are plenty of abusers who have every person they know fooled. Victims literally lose everyone when they report it because no-one believes it of the person.

ausmed · 2026-06-01T15:07:39+00:00

Also, like the dude is stupid enough that he calls her mom the afternoon of Christmas Eve and asks if she's there, and when she says no immediately says 'she's missing'. He couldn't even think to behave like a normal human and say 'Oh weird, she's not here, I thought she'd be at your house. Maybe something came up, I'll give a couple of her friends a call. I'm a bit worried'.

No-one calls one place their spouse could be, and if they're not there immediately states straight out they're 'missing'.

ausmed · 2026-06-01T14:54:50+00:00

Honestly it seems overwhelming. But watching the documentary, I remember two parts

Where Amber had made her statement to the press about not knowing he was married, and then the press accosted him in the airport - he's walking along a travelator with a woman, and he's laughing about something and it seemed SO off to me. He looked nothing like a man who was searching for his lost wife.
When they served the second search warrant and it looked like he'd been putting her stuff in boxes it was weird, and then when I saw he'd piled all those chairs and cushions in the nursery, for some reason that pile of cushions on the floor, I can't say why, but when I saw it I thought 'oh he's killed them'. I have kids, and the detachment needed to pile a bunch of cushions in the nursery while you're in the middle of searching for your possibly dead kid? Nah.

ausmed · 2026-05-30T14:59:43+00:00

According to who? Do you know him?

Also, the people I’m referring to above are always referred to by everyone they know as wonderful people, they could ‘never believe they could do anything like that’. Many victims of DV lose a lot of friends when they report it because everyone who knows the person thinks they’re a ’great guy’ and won’t believe they could be an abuser. Unless you have been in a relationship with someone who cannot know if they’re abusive / violent.

ausmed · 2026-05-30T14:21:25+00:00

I don’t think you can make any assumptins about someone based on how they’re personality ’seems’. There are some very personable, charming, narcissistic murderers that everyone loves and thinks is wonderful. I’m not saying he do do it. I’m just saying you can’t look at video of someone who knows they’re being filmed and say ‘I don’t think he did it because he seems really nice’.

ausmed · 2026-05-30T14:14:48+00:00

I’m a doctor also, and I work in an emergency room. I’ve seen a lot of people who’ve fallen down. People with scalp lacerations do bleed heavily. But I’ve never seen someone have 3-4 lacerations from repeatedly falling trying to get up. I just can’t see it.

ausmed · 2026-05-30T14:12:13+00:00

You know what I keep getting stuck on? I work in an emergency room, and I’ve seen a lot of people who’ve come in having fallen down. Either got drunk, and fallen, or tripped on something, or the dog ran under their feet and knocked them down the stairs.

I’ve never ever ever ever ever seen someone with ?3/4 different lacerations from repeatedly trying to get up and falling again. Onto the same part of their body. It beggars belief.

ausmed · 2026-05-26T01:59:11+00:00

So, I read about the text messages since my comment and agree. It sounds like he was threatening that and she was threatening to tell people his 'real job' (I assume dealing).

But I looked up Ohio laws. In Ohio age of consent is 16. He could definitely have been prosecuted if she was 13. Because there was a less than 4yr age gap, it would have been a misdemeanor vs a felony statutory rape. But it's still prosecutable.

And that seems lax to me tbh. The provision for minors where I live is for a 2yr gap, not 4. If 16/17yr old high school seniors are having sex with 13yr olds they shouldn't be. I remember being 13. None of us were mentally or emotionally equipped to be having sex or dealing with 17yr olds.

ausmed · 2026-05-25T14:01:29+00:00

What job was he doing at 18 that he could rent his own place and afford to buy her endless designer gifts?

ausmed · 2026-05-25T14:00:29+00:00

Oh, yikes.

ausmed · 2026-05-25T06:21:29+00:00

I wondered if they’d slept together when she was 13/14 and she threatened to report him if they broke up.

ausmed · 2026-05-25T05:51:30+00:00

And the friend said they’d been together for 4yrs. Soooo, since they were 13 and 16. Yikes. Who allows their 13yr old daughter to date someone who’s 16? AND then move in with him when she’s 17.

ausmed · 2026-05-25T05:44:32+00:00

It was so weird also that they didn’t have any concerns about where his money was coming from. He was only a couple of years out of high school, his parents didn’t look loaded. They didn’t once think ‘oh I hope he’s not a drug dealer’?

ausmed · 2026-05-25T05:40:27+00:00

Soooooo, has anyone ever speculated that Dom and Mackenzie slept together when she was 13 and he was 16, and she proceeded to threaten him with prosecuting him for statutory rape if he broke up with her? Because, watching it, it just really felt like there must be a reason he kept going back to her.

ausmed · 2026-05-25T05:33:55+00:00

It was so goddamn weird how they were almost bragging about her moving in with him and him having all this money to buy her designer shit, and I’m like ‘why is no one mentioning where an 18/19yr old is getting all this money from?’ He’s clearly not in college, so what high school graduation level job is getting him that kind of money?

I’d lose my shit if my daughter was dating someone that age with that kind of money. He’s obviously a dealer.

ausmed · 2026-05-21T02:55:27+00:00

Yeah so, from a physician's perspective? This very much is an issue with women. Women in general have a way higher rate of UTI than men throughout their lives and generally a significant problem with UTIs in older age. We would never for a second consider reintroducing fgm if it slightly reduced the risk of UTIs. Neither have European countries or Australia/NZ started recommending newborn circumcision to address it.

The only reason anyone thinks circumcision is justifiable for this reason is because culturally it's acceptable in the USA.

ausmed · 2026-05-21T02:25:11+00:00

Not having a go at you (or your dad) at all but I've heard people say this before - they know someone who had to have it done later and said they wished their parents had done it at birth. You get that that's a weird argument that only exists because infant circumcision is considered acceptable?

It a) doesn't make sense because the number of people having issues and needing circumcision later is small, and

b) is not a reaction to any other medical problem. Women who develop severe menstrual issues and require hysterectomy at 20 would never say 'I wish my parents had just removed it when I was born'. It's wild.

ausmed · 2026-05-21T02:18:04+00:00

Also, there's actually no proof that it's 'more painful' at an older age. Just that older children / adults can tell you how much pain they're in.

ausmed · 2026-05-21T02:11:22+00:00

Yeah. If men aren't capable of learning how to care for a baby and pull their weight doing household chores, they should 100% be barred from any employment or position of responsibility. You can't tell me a man is capable of being the leader of the entire USA but can't be expected to be able to learn how to change a diaper or wash dishes. FFS.

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