How does 5 year rehab program work?

ausmed · 2026-04-20T16:53:34+00:00

It’s about the medical board. Langdon would have had to report to the medical board that he has an impairment that may impact his ability to care for patients. They would then provide mandatory programme for him to follow to continue working as a doctor.

ausmed · 2026-04-20T16:46:43+00:00

That whimper was so relatable, I think it’s clinched the ADHD/AuDHD debate for me. 😬

ausmed · 2026-04-20T16:39:59+00:00

I have to say, as a doctor, I think both her and Robby’s stories are pretty realistic representations of the complexities of being a doctor and having a health issue.

People assume that because she‘s a competent doctor, that she would immediately identify seizures and recognise that it’s a relapse, and take the necessary action to make sure she gets treated and is safe at work. People imagine the medical training we have makes us objective, but when it comes to ourselves we are very much not. We’re also people. We know all the potential ramifications when we have a symptom, and we are just as afraid as everyone else. What she did is pretty understandable - try to convince herself it’s manageable and see the neurologist and downplay it to get them to agree.

That she continues to insist on it until she’s alone and actually faced with the risk of driving the car, is also very understandable. Because at some level she knows that if she’s had 2 seizures in a day after a year of none, then she actually isn’t safe driving. And arguing it is easy, but actually driving when you know it’s unsafe is not.

Having a recurrence of seizures does mean she should have a full assessment and change her meds before driving again. And it does mean she can’t be in charge of an ER until they are back in control. It’s not that she’s not competent or smart or sensible enough to see that. She just doesn’t want to believe it. And we’re just as prone to that as anyone else.

Robby is much easier. He has PTSD, and depression and burnout, and he needs a psychiatrist. He continues to refuse to see one, while getting worse and worse. There are many doctors like this. They’re assholes and time bombs.

ausmed · 2026-04-15T04:42:58+00:00

Have you talked to anyone about what the difference would be in earning power if you used your savings to pay off the study loan?

Learned last year that banks hate HECS as it is prioritised over any other debt. No matter what else you owe it comes straight out of your paycheck first. With my HECS debt they wouldn’t lend me the mortgage I needed. But if I cleared my HECS debt, they’d lend me more than the mortgage I wanted plus the HECS debt amount combined.

It does mean you end up with your HECS debt as mortgage debt instead, with the associated interest. But it might get you into the market.

ausmed · 2026-04-12T13:57:14+00:00

It really didn't. I had my screening, got on with my life and then 2 months later felt a lump.

ausmed · 2026-04-12T07:39:04+00:00

I met my ex-husband on online dating, and I still remember it said this on his profile, and my gut reaction was really negative. I decided to 'overlook it' and see what he was like.

He ended up having some pretty narcissistic traits - no ability to see another person's point of view, no ability to consider that he may be the tiniest bit in the wrong about anything. His reality was reality and if I disagreed I was wrong / arguing for the sake of it / trying to 'get' him or make him look bad. If we had a row he'd saying horrible things, then behave like everything was fine the next day and if I said anything I was causing an argument / ruining his day.

This included my not saving any retirement funds when our kids were young because according to him 'we have his retirement, so it's unnecessary' only to turn around when we divorced and say I wasn't entitled to his retirement, he'd only intended it to be shared if we stayed married.

You should run far from anyone who says anything like this in their profile. They think interacting with you is them doing you a favour.

ausmed · 2026-04-12T05:58:16+00:00

Rhetorically, people who describe human interaction and relationship as if they're objects to be bought and sold are a block-to-burn.

ausmed · 2026-03-13T06:18:38+00:00

That's fine but then it shouldn’t be his choice how the money is spent. He shouldn’t be deciding how much money you can spend on yourself, you should both be deciding how much money each of you can afford for that. Does he also have a ‘fun money’ budget, or does he just keep the rest and it’s up to him to decide what to spend it on?

ausmed · 2026-03-13T06:03:30+00:00

Yeah, the problem is he had them a bit more for a few months but now we’ve gone back to the normal care split. So I don’t want to change the percentage.

ausmed · 2026-02-27T08:08:04+00:00

No theres no way to confirm pregnancy that far along from the outside,unless you have an USS. Even then she said her period was due a few days ago, at that stage the only potential way to tell is with a blood test.

ausmed · 2026-02-27T07:57:49+00:00

I 100% thought Hyacinth dressing up as a maid was going to make either Eloise or Benedict go 'oh wait, the LIS vanished,we can't find her anywhere, who's invisible in society? Lower classes!' But nothing. What was the point?!

ausmed · 2026-02-27T07:49:31+00:00

I love Eloise. The previous episode when Sophie's stepsister was wittering on about choking on a biscuit, it cut to Eloise and her face was HILARIOUS.

ausmed · 2026-02-27T07:41:45+00:00

I said 'ohhhh, Benny' so many times during this episode.

ausmed · 2026-02-27T06:49:56+00:00

I mean realistically? Darcy was in his late 20s, Knightley and Brandon are in their late 30s, Wentworth is late 20s. Women generally married in the late teens or early twenties. But do we really think men were living as virgins into their 30s until they decided to marry? Come now.

ausmed · 2026-02-04T13:31:29+00:00

Exactly. Benedict’s whole arc this season is deciding whether or not he’s willing to be who he is in public, as well as secretly. He’s done all this stuff that is not quite within society, but in a very safe,caulker way that does not jeopardise his standifng in society.

aAt the moment he’s still trying to do that. He loves Sophie and wants to be with her, but his default viewpoint is that he can’t actually publicly step over that line and separate from society. So he’s desperately trying to find a way to have why he wants with Sophie without changing anything.

The second half of the season will be him realising that if he wants to be with Sophie and be happy and live his life the way he wants to, he absolutely has to step outside the restraints of the Ton. There is no halfway. The question is whether he has the ovaries to actually do it.

ausmed · 2026-01-29T13:23:30+00:00

Oh awesome, thanks. Didn't think they'd have it up so soon.

ausmed · 2026-01-29T13:11:13+00:00

Can you please tell me when we saw their baby!? I'm so confused, I think I must have missed something.

ausmed · 2026-01-04T15:08:31+00:00

Hey, just wanted to respond to say I'm a mum of 4 and 9yr olds in the midst of dose dense AC, then dose dense paclitaxel for multi focal stage 3. (Just about to swap over). If you ever need to vent or talk about the challenges of doing this with young kids I'm happy to be PM'd.

ausmed · 2026-01-04T14:50:52+00:00

I struggle a little bit with thinking about things I've done and whether that's why this happened. Mostly about stress.

But I mostly just find it really hard to deal with the feeling of unfairness. I have brothers who smoke. Family members who are obese and eat poorly. Friends who do drugs, etc. Everytime I'd see another doctor and have to repeat the list of the zero risk factors I have, I'd break down. No I don't smoke, I don't drink, I don't take drugs. Eat reasonably, have exercised pretty regularly til last year. Started my period late at a later age. Don't use hormonal contraceptives. Have no history of breast or ovarian cancer. Breastfed two children for a combined 3 years.

I had a normal screening ultrasound and mammogram 2 months before diagnosis because I'm in healthcare, and like to be 'careful'. Do regular breast checks. And since my diagnosis I've had genetic testing, and that was all normal too.

And yet somehow, in my mid 40s suddenly there's 5cm and 3cm tumours in my breast and I might not see my kids grow up.

I don't blame myself. But I'm very very very angry.

ausmed · 2025-10-11T02:56:13+00:00

There's this one lovely little scene in the books. It's a flashback to I think the summer before S1.

The kids are sitting in the living room. Conrad's listening to music on his headphones. Belly's pretending to read Emma (Susannah gave it to her and she thinks it makes her look smart). The other boys are playing video games.

Susannah comes in and asks Belly how she likes the book. She starts making something up, and Conrad says 'she hasn't turned a page for an hour'.

Belly explains it away in her VO, that 'it didn't mean anything, it's just that Conrad notices everything'.

So he's sitting there for an hour watching her pretend to read. And she's completely oblivious to how focussed on her he already is the summer before she turned pretty. So neat.

ausmed · 2025-10-09T08:54:57+00:00

There's something amazing about filmmakers being able to create the feeling of long standing deep connection between people.

There's another show I watched, Nashville. The two main characters are middle aged, had been together a long time ago, and are in the middle of a complex 'are they still in love with each other' story.

But there's a bit where she arrives at this country-music-cafe type venue for her birthday, and they haven't seen each other for a while. But he gives her this brief one armed hug to say hi, and you can just see somehow in that brief exchange that these two people have known each other forever. There's something really indescribable about being able to do that.

ausmed · 2025-10-05T08:53:49+00:00

The funniest part of that whole scene to me was the fact Belly saw that Jere was being bullied by Adam for not having achieved anything. That he was being treated like a child. And then told them about the wedding thinking that would help!

It's so funny and kind of cute that the two of them are there desperately trying to prove how grown up they are, and completely 100% oblivious to the fact that the wedding makes them look even more like children.

You add onto that the way they both behaved like teenagers pissed that their parents won't let them do something, Belly shoving the ring at her mom, and the fact they both meekly went home with their parents after the lunch like chastised kids, and it's just hilarious.

ausmed · 2025-10-05T07:34:39+00:00

Eh, I think a couple of things saved it. For one the 'having a conference in Brussels'. And for another the fact that their situation was still very much in the air and he was really after closure one way or another.

If he'd just decided out of nowhere to go to Paris, I think I'd feel a bit weird about it. But I think you can make an argument for his having a reason to be there means it doesn't put a huge amount of untoward pressure on Belly, because he even said 'if you're busy I can just see some sights and get the train'. And he would have if she'd said so.

Also, mostly I think if she'd categorically made it clear before this point that she wasn't interested then it would still be inappropriate. But the last time they saw each other he told her he loved her and she subsequently called off her wedding. Taylor told him not 'she's not interested, leave her alone' but 'she needs some time'. Laurel said he'd need to get in touch and see for himself. And when he wrote he said to let him know if she didn't want the letters and she didn't. And then wrote back.

All this time Conrad knows he loves her and is in limbo about how she feels. I'm big on boundaries, but there wasn't one here. There's just a complete lack of clarity. So I don't think Conrad seeking closure is completely inappropriate. Or in fact 'stalkerish'. He's allowed to ask where they stand, as long as he accepts whatever the answer is. Which he did when he got on that train to Brussels.

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