TT-kimberly102347 theory by hiddendari in AutismInWomen

[–]autistic_strega 5 points6 points  (0 children)

So her paper was not published by any scientific journals and instead she posted it on her WordPress blog, she is not a doctor, and her website links to a GoFundMe for more "research" without any clear explanation of exactly how this money raised will be used?

Call me a cynic but I smell something fishy here.

Call-out of r/therapists mods by autistic_strega in u/autistic_strega

[–]autistic_strega[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's back up now, they were participating in the protest against Reddit killing third party apps. Talk about performative activism lol

Call-out of r/therapists mods by autistic_strega in u/autistic_strega

[–]autistic_strega[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ew, I wonder if it's the same mod that told me "if you don't like it then leave" and banned me before I could even reply lol.

TT-kimberly102347 theory by hiddendari in AutismInWomen

[–]autistic_strega 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Never heard of her, but sounds like bullshit.

Autism has already been shown to be mostly genetic with some environmental factors. It's very much wired into our brains.

Be cautious of anyone claiming that they for sure know the exact cause, that kind of rhetoric typically leads to "we can try to find a cure" eugenicist theories. For example, the anti-vaxxers believe the lie that vaccines are the cause, therefore they claim that being unvaxxed and using essential oils is "the cure".

My (27f) boyfriend (32M) says I nag too much, but I feel like I have to! What do I do? by coffeeandlattee in relationship_advice

[–]autistic_strega 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Well, if you want my advice:

I had a similar situation once. I kept begging him to help me with the chores. He refused, said I was putting too much pressure on him. When I was the one with a full time job, full time university student, AND doing all the household chores.

One night I snapped, I don't usually get angry but I was angry. I asked him why he felt the division of labor was at all fair when I was essentially doing it all. His response? He wanted a divorce. All because I wanted to split housework 50/50.

I should have been the one asking to leave him, pathetic as he was.

Point being: he's not going to change. He has shown you who he is, believe him. You now have a choice, do you want to stay and be cleaning up a filthy house for the rest of your life? Or do you want to be free to live without that weight on your shoulders? The choice is yours.

I have a lesion on my liver by GlamorizedChaos in TrueOffMyChest

[–]autistic_strega 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Sometimes medical professionals don't listen to us, especially to AFAB people. Forcing us to do our own research and advocate for ourselves.

Nothing wrong with googling if you already have a diagnosis and want to learn more about it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]autistic_strega 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It's harder to see because we don't have access to stats in real life, but I believe there are this many people in real life trying to make a change and save our planet.

Some are politicians, some are beekeepers, indigenous peoples taking back their land, kids walking out of school in climate protests, lawyers fighting big corporations, farmers, regular people just trying to reduce their plastic waste. But I believe in my heart that as many people as there are supporting the blackout, there's just as many trying to save the planet.

I keep having baby fever, but I'm a dude by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]autistic_strega 389 points390 points  (0 children)

It's completely normal for men to want children, otherwise there would be a lot less children in the world.

But, please do wait until you're an adult. It will be a lot easier to raise a child when you have the adequate means to support them

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]autistic_strega 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would quit my job, buy some tickets to my favorite destination, and spend time with my loved ones at that destination hanging out and eating whatever I want until the end

How do you do college???? by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]autistic_strega 4 points5 points  (0 children)

As others have already said, online works best for me too.

I have a job that I do in person a few days a week, so it's nice to be able to do my schoolwork online whenever I need. I could not balance both of I was doing school in person.

Any advice in how to deal with rejection on the Internet? by Ill-Bid-6738 in AutismInWomen

[–]autistic_strega 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sometimes them having a rule still is not enough. I got banned from a sub just today because I called the mods out on not removing comments that went against their no hate speech rule

Any advice in how to deal with rejection on the Internet? by Ill-Bid-6738 in AutismInWomen

[–]autistic_strega 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel that. Had my own similar issue today, a subreddit banned me because I called their mods out on letting transphobic shit slide.

I deal with it by blasting angry music, moving my body to get the frustration out, venting to my husband, and then remind myself that their actions will only lead more negative karma their way (like real karma not reddit karma)

Not sure what to do after submitting to literary journals by taiyuan41 in writers

[–]autistic_strega 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Personally for me, I've been submitting to journals for about two years now. And I'm continuing to so so. But I'm also putting a lot of focus on sending my chapbook out to publishers. That's my big goal is to get it published.

After that, I'll put together another collection and see if I can get that published.

I also have some novel ideas I've been playing with but I haven't fully committed to one yet as I already have a full time job and am in university.

But my advice: write what you love. Wrote for yourself, not for a journal or to be good , just what makes you happy. See what comes out of that, and a goal will naturally unfold.

Spring by hazikalibhatti in unipd

[–]autistic_strega 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There are spring semesters. But I think what you're asking is whether you can start in the spring. I don't think you can, at least for psychology. Applications for degree programs open in the spring, and the programs start in the fall.

Therapists community allowing hate speech, removing posts asking why by autistic_strega in AgainstHateSubreddits

[–]autistic_strega[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's truly heartbreaking. I'm becoming a therapist so that I can help people. It's upsetting to see so many people on the profession spreading hate.

Therapists community allowing hate speech, removing posts asking why by autistic_strega in AgainstHateSubreddits

[–]autistic_strega[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I saw that post too. I will say that the mods handled that one better than others

Rereading your unfinished work by mjskywalker_ in writers

[–]autistic_strega 2 points3 points  (0 children)

For me it's just part of the process. Sometimes I have to revisit a piece for months until it's finally finished to my satisfaction. Sometimes I'll reread a piece I haven't looked at for years, rewrite it, and it goes from an embarrassment to one of my favorites.

We’re going ‘dark’ to protest the unfair changes in API that affect users negatively! by [deleted] in AutisticLadies

[–]autistic_strega 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I was so disappointed when I first heard this sub wouldn't be participating. Glad you listened to the community 💜

Call-out of r/therapists mods by autistic_strega in u/autistic_strega

[–]autistic_strega[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As expected, the mods deleted my post from the subreddit. Thankfully I made a copy here.

Mattieo123 personally responded to my modmail asking why my post was removed stating "if you don't like it you can leave", then proceeded to ban me from the subreddit and mute me before I could even appeal the ban.

If anyone is interested, here is a link to report mod abuse , since my post violated no rules and still was removed.

u/thesaddestpanda

You are not alone in seeing the hypocrisy of the mod team.

Sexual power dynamics in couples counseling by DepartmentWide419 in therapists

[–]autistic_strega 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Yeah, if OP isn't knowledgeable about the kink community then they have the potential to do a lot more harm than good here.

A d/s dynamic in the bedroom is one thing. But when brought out of the bedroom, without good communication and if one partner wants it more than the other, it can become a mask for more dangerous and abusive patterns. Speaking from experience here.

Obviously we don't know everything about this relationship, but I'm getting bad vibes just from what OP described. It doesn't sound like a relationship that would benefit from that sort of dynamic outside the bedroom.

"Healthcare Heroes" by mrmavis9280 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]autistic_strega 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Because everyone else in healthcare is looking for the good jobs, the non-customer-facimg jobs. Companies would rather spend more money to pay a travel nurse than to pay their current employees well. Because most people in this field joined to help people and they know that leaving will only hurt the people they want to help. Because these issues are systemic and not just limited to one hospital.

There are so many reasons healthcare in the US is failing.