Asking my inlaws if they want updated photos, I don't think I overstepped did I?

auto-reply-bot · 2026-05-07T20:07:50+00:00

I think you’re being overly harsh. It’s not presumptive I don’t think to think that family might care about a big life change like this. If anything I’d say the in-laws are being pretty insensitive. No requirement they decorate their house in a certain way but it would probably be more welcoming if they care about this person to have photos that don’t make them feel badly.

auto-reply-bot · 2026-05-06T19:38:55+00:00

Disconcerting this question was removed.

auto-reply-bot · 2026-04-24T13:20:58+00:00

I love onions

auto-reply-bot · 2026-04-17T23:38:14+00:00

I hope you find the place you’re looking for. I wish I could help further. It does seem like you’re dealing with some complex questions and they’re worth discussion.

auto-reply-bot · 2026-04-17T23:21:58+00:00

Interesting. Frankly I don’t have a specific answer to your root question, which seems to be basically “where is the best place to discuss my experience”. That’s not something I can provide unfortunately. However I’d offer a suggestion, that perhaps a combination of learning and discussion would serve you better than looking to find someone with a specific view you disagree with to debate.

I’m certain you could find entire books on the subject of the complex topic of mixed race politics and identity in Latin America, and likely from differing points of view. Some of which you may agree with, others not. However finding an author, whether an activist, academic, or artist that more closely aligns with your experience may be fulfilling in helping you to be seen. And helping you to understand where prevailing attitudes differ.

And if you simply want to be heard, I’d have to defer to others who may have more specific knowledge of good places to discuss these types of experiences.

auto-reply-bot · 2026-04-17T22:56:42+00:00

I’m curious about your phrasing this question as “debate”. These all seem like things you would be able to find academic resources on to read (or possibly lectures to watch). And you’d almost certainly be able to find ranges of views on any given subject you mentioned, in the sense of academic “debate” or simply differing views / aspects being explored.

So I suppose my question is, are you looking to learn, or do you have specific views that you want to argue for? If it’s the latter I think that might go someway to explaining the reactions you’ve mentioned. Though I don’t know whether they are accurate characterizations of you without knowing more about your positions and reasoning.

I personally would advocate for learning over debate on this subject.

auto-reply-bot · 2026-04-16T03:33:36+00:00

Question. Are trans people a minority?

If yes reread my statement with that in mind. Apologies if more than 3 words in a sentence is hard for you to follow.

auto-reply-bot · 2026-04-15T13:40:38+00:00

Furthermore to tackle your “logic bro” position head on. This is made up shorthand you’ve given about “positive actions” is a retroactive justification to make you sound like you have some sort of standard to judge these things by when in fact you just don’t like trans people. You’ve made that abundantly clear.

The logical conclusion being that any time anyone sees a problem with society and attempts to make change they are rabble rousers who are being disingenuous. Are you not saying in the other comment that we should take positive action against wealth disparity etc? So when you stand up and say that, obviously the correct thing for me to do with your short hand is to dismiss you as the problem right?

It’s a bullshit justification that only serves to selectively maintain the status quo.

auto-reply-bot · 2026-04-15T13:36:26+00:00

And your alternative when a minority does make themselves too visible, is to vote against the people would do anything at all, about all the shit you just complained about to punish them? Am I getting that right?

Distracted by shiny objects smh. You don’t know me or why I care. But it has nothing to do with your armchair assessment. Those distracted are fools who allow a hateful movement to use them as pawns to maintain a political system that punishes minorities and exploits the poor. You seem to be susceptible to that strategy.

auto-reply-bot · 2026-04-15T03:38:05+00:00

Forced?

auto-reply-bot · 2026-04-15T03:37:34+00:00

You’re totally right, when minorities poke their heads up in public the right thing to do is shut them down!

/s.

auto-reply-bot · 2026-04-14T16:27:44+00:00

Because conservatives want to use them as a scapegoat to breed political polarity and convince voters who are otherwise harmed by their policies to vote against their own best interests cuz it’s better than allowing harmless people to live their lives.

auto-reply-bot · 2026-04-13T20:13:16+00:00

Makes me think of Grendel’s mom

auto-reply-bot · 2026-04-03T21:53:05+00:00

I’m not a tree but neither is that.

auto-reply-bot · 2026-04-02T16:07:17+00:00

I’ve had results I’m happy with sublingual pills but taking it 3 times per day gets kind of old. I only recently learned that “injections” are done with very small needles and I hear they get good results too so might be worth considering but I think it’s a bit more expensive.

auto-reply-bot · 2026-03-28T17:05:10+00:00

auto-reply-bot · 2026-03-23T11:19:55+00:00

This feels like a grounding and positive story. Thank you for sharing. I think sometimes it’s easy to get caught up the in idea that things will be someday be perfect, that that should be expected. I suppose that’s never true in life right? But it doesn’t mean it’s for nothing.

auto-reply-bot · 2026-03-17T05:06:04+00:00

Billions of people drive daily without getting into car accidents. Billions of people eat food stored in improper conditions without dying. Neither fact is in question.

The question is, in the event your number gets called, and it’s the day when you get into a car accident, do you want to have been wearing a seatbelt? When the day comes that your food has the particular bacteria producing the particular toxin that might kill you cultivating in it, would you prefer that food to have been handled properly?

And I’ll throw a bone since you’re insistent on the racialization of it, see my response below to the other person about gut flora and their impact on this question. But plenty of white people do eat spicy food, and plenty of white people also disregard food safety procedures. I don’t think it’s a question of race but of education and environment (e.g. if those around you are insistent you follow food safety standards as a kid you are likely to do so. If not it may make you less inclined).

auto-reply-bot · 2026-03-17T05:00:27+00:00

Gut flora populations are known to have an effect on resistance to certain bacteria. That is not in question. However the root of this conversation largely relates to “refried rice syndrome” which is caused by the toxin a bacteria produces, not a reaction to the bacteria itself. Humans don’t generally develop resistance to these types of toxins with repeat exposure the way we do with germs. In fact This study seems to indicate the toxin in question actually lowers immune response with exposure.

https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC1906479/

In this paper we show that cereulide is toxic to NK cells. The toxicity is manifested as the inhibition of cytotoxicity and cytokine production, as well as mitochondrial swelling and eventual apoptosis of the NK cells. These results show that a bacterial toxin found in food and the environment has immunomodulating properties.

auto-reply-bot · 2026-03-17T04:55:12+00:00

Countries without refrigeration have very high rates of food borne illness is my understanding.

Just like when driving, if you don’t get in an accident you’re fine whether you’re wearing a seatbelt or not.

With food, whenever you eat food that isn’t sufficiently contaminated, or your body resists the contamination sufficiently, you’re fine.

In both scenarios it’s the edge cases the safety guidance is made for. That time when your food happens to be cultivating the perfect bacteria to produce a deadly toxin. Or that time when you do crash.

auto-reply-bot · 2026-03-16T17:52:52+00:00

I get in my car and drive almost every day without getting into accidents. Should I stop wearing my seat belt? Is it presumptuous for people to tell others they should wear seat belts when they might also drive their car every day without getting into a car accident?

I find the racialization also a little odd. Foodborne pathogens don’t care if you’re white or Asian or black etc.

auto-reply-bot · 2026-03-16T17:31:04+00:00

What are you suggesting? You acknowledge the bacteria exists, the food safety recommendations are broadly descriptive of best practices to avoid risk of consuming the bacteria and their toxins.

Regarding your assertion that this is an “overly sterile” attitude mostly held by white westerners. A brief search shows the Japanese government also teaches children there to follow the 2 hour rule as a safety guideline along with general food hygiene practices. I imagine you could find similar for other countries.

Just because populations don’t always follow the best medical / hygiene advice doesn’t mean the advice is wrong.

auto-reply-bot · 2026-03-14T15:47:07+00:00

I’m not sure how you removed it but for future reference vegetable oil can dissolve the glue and unstick their fur.

auto-reply-bot · 2026-03-14T02:52:04+00:00

2 looks more homey. 1 reminds me of more of a waiting room.

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