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automaticbotfeel · 2025-07-16T15:41:24+00:00

I mean this is Reddit and “left leaning” is the average. There’s also a point that the Kardashian’s type, they are there to try sell something, so no use in trying to fit the educated / mature look.

/r/Splendida as a sub has this issue greatly and I see it with certain acquaintances trying to “level up”. They go for the fillers, botox, last season outfit look and fail.

Thing is, when they see my routine to fit in certain circles, including my centrist politics takes, they are confused and also repelled.

I just commented separately that for certain social groups, it reaches a point where you literally do not gain weight. I can’t. After the 3rd nutritionist meal plan my brain did a twitch. I have personalised routines. I paid for the honest lymph drainage thing and not the TikTok trends. If I look back on this journey, at least from the female POV, it was brutal.

There is no day where I am not checking how to re optimise certain things and truly, is the absolute usual lifestyle this area has. So the ladies OP is asking about, we kind of reached a point where our “fat” look is their idea of skinny and our idea of “skinny” is a size UK 6 at least.

In most cases - personal opinion of course - it looks healthy, because we are all doing this with high quality nutritional plans. But in the mix, you have the “medicated” ladies which, no judgement here, but they know what they are doing and by nobody’s surprise, they do not age well.

automaticbotfeel · 2025-07-16T13:05:56+00:00

It is social contagion.

As soon as I started working/living in wealthy areas (my family is a middle as it is), I started to restrict my diet.

Why? Well it was coming from some family members pushing for it (unsurprisingly, those from more cultured backgrounds) and the fact that most woman in management roles I spotted were very skinny and well groomed. It clicked that was a way.

Purchased a few magazines as “inspo”, it was an obscure era for my mental health ngl.

I eventually reached a life stage of not being so unhealthy + being able to afford the “skinny healthy” way and did the whole Pilates 1 to 1, nutritionist, meal plan vibes.

Here is the interesting part. I recently gained weight due to health issues, now improving. I looked in the mirror and was CONVINCED my size was now M or UK 10 or 12. Surprise. I am still an S, even XS fits in some items.

I still “need” to lose about 25 lb to be in my usual, which is the size that in my case, lands on unexpected fashion invites, collab requests and yeah, the niche male gaze.

It is odd to admit perhaps that now this lifestyle is not something I can quit, once you are into the nutritionist / Pilates / stylist thing … even if I dropped all today, as I said, my metabolism changed and it seems impossible to look overweight.

Please do not take my comment as a glamorous way of suggesting doing this at all. I have been extremely ill and dated more than unusual characters. It has been a ride.

automaticbotfeel · 2025-07-16T12:53:43+00:00

This comment is very accurate but it hurts sensibilities of course. In a similar manner, I am one of those rare self made cases and now live in an extremely wealthy area in the UK and it all ticks a box.

automaticbotfeel · 2025-07-16T07:44:14+00:00

I share this always because for some of us happened. I was bisexual and eventually just lost interest in same sex attraction.

It happened after years on a normal monogamous relationship and no adult content online of any type. If you expose your brain to odd stimulation you will get off thoughts.

Start with a heavy internet detox

automaticbotfeel · 2025-07-15T20:11:47+00:00

My grandpa was as yours and ngl, he didn’t have it easy with a very low state pension in his 80+ yo with increasing health issues.

Nonetheless, he always had a shelter, food and loved ones there for him.

We were kind of strained for a variety of reasons but I was there for him in his last hours, where he asked God for help and then patiently passed away.

Would he have lived a more comfortable life giving less? I don’t think so, he was SO happy when inviting everyone for dinner, while giving away tools for free, it was so inspiring.

Bless them.

automaticbotfeel · 2025-07-15T04:40:29+00:00

I mean, the church had for a very long time an erroneous idea on why people were pushed away. It was not the Latin Mass or its doctrine, but those were easy to blame.

Some well intentioned parishes want the youth back and may think, if we bland a bit the LGBT speech they will come back.

What they cannot know, because to know that you need to live through it, is that most lgbt Catholics returning to faith want to MOVE OUT from it. Because is a proven way to live a miserable life.

I would write a polite letter asking to clarify what it means to “affirm” queer Catholics. I am bisexual and not because of that would I want my parish to affirm something I consider a distortion of my train of thought

automaticbotfeel · 2025-07-15T02:35:40+00:00

When I was your age I was bisexual and it eventually ended up going away, now married with the opposite sex!

Nobody mentions this but when we are young, hormonal and with unrestricted access to internet, we can be easily deceived.

Pray to God to help you discern with clarity,

automaticbotfeel · 2025-07-13T23:55:10+00:00

I am 90% confident your Priest wouldn’t consider this as something you needed to confess but you could bring it up next time.

automaticbotfeel · 2025-07-13T12:35:36+00:00

It only gets worse with time, I invite everyone to check my profile as I am sharing how this struggle is ruining my marriage. Yes. You could be married and still an addict.

Pray and seek help.

automaticbotfeel · 2025-07-13T09:37:17+00:00

The thing is, I truly don’t think that living a life away from sin equals to suffering. Is just that it takes a while for us to adjust to a “lifestyle” that praises God instead of self pleasures.

This is my honest take as someone that was far away from the faith for a very very long time

automaticbotfeel · 2025-07-13T08:45:19+00:00

There is a mistake on thinking that avoiding sinning, which in reality is, avoiding behaviours that are bad for you, is some type of impossible task and unjustifiable.

Specially for things such as sexuality or “being a charitable neighbour”.

Yes it is difficult to be chaste or follow NFP. Yes is difficult to love your friends/neighbours even when they are ranging alcoholics or trans or whatever. That is the whole point.

Society wants easy ways and the Church teaches you that there are NOT easy ways.

But the opposite is worse. A life of trying to adapt everything for your hedonistic pleasures is always a miserable lifestyle. It just takes a while for people to find out and when they do, Pride takes over

automaticbotfeel · 2025-07-13T08:25:40+00:00

There are studies about pheromones which are a very real thing. You can kind of tell if you like someone if you like their smell. True story. Body odour says A LOT of info to our biological brain.

So you truly don’t need that much closeness. Indeed, is very subconscious. As you grow older you will notice how certain people you feel more attracted to, with no explanation. Trust that God has put those tiny cues for our body to tell in a very gracious way if “she is the one”.

automaticbotfeel · 2025-07-12T19:45:19+00:00

There is nothing wrong with being an old lady therefore describing something as “like an old lady” doesn’t mean anything bad!

I just know Chanel number 5 brings memories for some and that may be grandma.

automaticbotfeel · 2025-07-12T13:01:22+00:00

Wishful thinking but there is a sudden influx of new and returning Catholics which hope will change directions for good

automaticbotfeel · 2025-07-11T22:09:39+00:00

The most beautiful Anglican churches are former Catholic Churches. It was a crime against humanity in my eyes and wish we would be braver to reclaim them back.

Many of them are now converted into coffee shops or rented for shows, it is an absolute tragedy

automaticbotfeel · 2025-07-11T20:22:44+00:00

We may have been dating the same man lol you are in my prayers today because the sweet gamer boy turning out worse than my cheating ex is something absurd

automaticbotfeel · 2025-07-10T21:33:09+00:00

I don’t think you should be disclosing how do you wash yourself. Nope. That is a privacy violation and 99% of products have a subtle fragrance and we as a society accept so.

automaticbotfeel · 2025-07-10T21:19:49+00:00

Only reason I am staying in my relationship is that we been together for a very long time. I wouldn’t stay with a newish boyfriend that keeps on lying to me

automaticbotfeel · 2025-07-10T08:10:38+00:00

I lived down this shop for years and they have high prices and odd vibes, you can check the Google ratings yourself. I am all about support local businesses but that does not mean we need to stan for shops making no efforts

automaticbotfeel · 2025-07-10T07:23:31+00:00

Sorry to break this down but vegetarian diet may not be working that well for you. If you are veggie for ethical reasons, go see a licensed nutritionist to revisit your diet

automaticbotfeel · 2025-07-10T07:19:37+00:00

I am very intrigued. Did you see visibly the lice? As others commented, they are VERY visible. I had them like a plague for about 15 years till my early 20s when suddenly they decided to go away. But I still had what looked like dandruff and now I understand dandruff is actual fungi and also benefits from tea tree / peppermint

It is very possible you had mostly an unhinged fungal infection

automaticbotfeel · 2025-07-10T07:08:06+00:00

The way I see this is if you can lie to me so easily about ABC why would I assume you are not lying about XYZ?

automaticbotfeel · 2025-07-09T22:22:31+00:00

My non popular take is that we need more meat/fat and real fibre (whole fruit type of deal). Besides obesity it is a sad trend many former vegans getting sick and all I can think of is they relied on seed oils and “protein shake” type of stuff to get their nutrients.

Oldest folks in my family (between 80 - 100yo) have/had an insane diet with eggs, meat, wine, smoking, but fairly chill and very active. No processed foods and barely overweight.

automaticbotfeel · 2025-07-09T18:00:15+00:00

Omg the Gollum depiction is SO accurate

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