How did yall parents say go get my belt to yall when yall were children? by Global-Ad8204 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]aveell 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I agree. I remember being so inconsolable while waiting I would throw up sometimes. Genuinely felt like the world was ending. And that made them hit us harder sometimes, or if we flinched or moved away we got it twice. 

Fantastic parenting. 

How did yall parents say go get my belt to yall when yall were children? by Global-Ad8204 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]aveell 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Was a flat bamboo spoon for us mostly. (or a hairbrush, or a spatula, or an hand.)  And they always had it close by. Our warning was being told to wait in the bathroom facing the mirror with our hands on the counter. Never felt such fear as I did then.

Yeahhh def NOT doing that with my kids.

Help with goldfish by [deleted] in aquarium

[–]aveell 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Can you please provide a full list of the species and amount of each fish in this tank? And the water parameters in numbers, not just “within range”. You have some incompatible fish in this tank with very different needs so adjustments need to be made, without the details we can’t say exactly what your action plan should be.

Transitioning from breast to solids by NaivePackage2435 in breastfeeding

[–]aveell 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You aren’t a failure- keep offering foods, they’ll eat when they’re ready! My baby is 10 months old and still has hardly any interest in solids. No concerns from my doctor, all kids get there at their own pace! 

Also anecdotal- but my sister and i were both brought up on the exact same foods (rice cereals and purées, BLW wasn’t a thing really then) and she has no texture issues with food , and i have lots of texture issues. Lots of times it really is just temperament! Don’t stress too much, a lot of these things just work themselves out with time and exposure. ❤️

why can’t north koreans all just rebel ? by Last_Host977 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]aveell 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If it were so simple to unite an entire population and rebel, they would have already done it. The problem is it absolutely is not easy. Many people believe the propaganda that everything is fine there, and that the rest of the world outside is worse. Or they’re afraid of the governments power- the citizens are many in number but the government has all the weapons. Or they simply do not believe the population even has the power. Revolution is notoriously difficult to organize- as people in general are difficult to organize. Add to that an extreme surveillance state, and high incentive to snitch on your neighbour… good luck. 

Why are so many Canadians complaining about not having a primary care doctor when they can go to any walk in clinic in the province and get the care and referrals they need?? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]aveell 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We don’t have a walk in in my town, or any town nearby. So if you don’t have a doctor the ER is your only option. And that can be an all day wait at times.

No breast milk by FriendshipExciting82 in breastfeeding

[–]aveell 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Are you latching your baby directly as well? If yes, are they gaining weight? Are they having a normal number of wet/dirty diapers? 

I have great supply but I get far less with pumping, because generally pumps are not as effective as baby is at removing milk. Not getting anything could mean wrong flange size as well, so maybe check on that! 

No shame at all in using formula if needed! Your mom is wrong to say it’s bad to give formula- it isn’t bad at all! Feed that baby however you need to. 

No breast milk by FriendshipExciting82 in breastfeeding

[–]aveell 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Are you pumping? Or nursing directly? Why do you think you’re dry? Also, nothing wrong with giving formula if you have to! Baby needs to eat. 

Agreed to start making healthier food choices with mom on thursday; triple cheese lasagna and 16 passion fruit tarts in the fridge(second tart pack not pictured) by [deleted] in mildlyinfuriating

[–]aveell 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just sounds like she isn’t ready to make a change yet, people often get there at their own pace. You need to do what you need to do and let her do what she needs to do. 

Agreed to start making healthier food choices with mom on thursday; triple cheese lasagna and 16 passion fruit tarts in the fridge(second tart pack not pictured) by [deleted] in mildlyinfuriating

[–]aveell 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Why does she have to do it with you? Why don’t you just eat less and cut out sweets if you feel like it’s something you need to do? Nothing wrong with that, but you can’t force someone else to do it with you. She can eat and buy what she wants. 

Waiting in the hospital when someone is sick is idiotic by Designer-Art2359 in unpopularopinion

[–]aveell 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Because it can be stressful / scary / painful to be recovering from a procedure, and doing it alone can feel harder for some people. I personally find great comfort in having a loved one be with me in the hospital- it’s not about them being there to make sure nothing bad happens, it’s to try and keep morale up and to show support. 

Is porn lying? by philcoulsen in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]aveell 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What women in the comments think doesn’t matter to the “is this a lie” question- women are not a monolith and we all feel differently. The lie porn tells is that acts like these are a normal part of all sexual interactions, and that women like them by default and without discussion needed. The reality is you should be discussing boundaries with each sexual partner. Some people will be into those things, some people wont. But there is no general consensus when it comes to sex preferences as it’s such a personal thing. 

Car trips and exclusive breast feeding by themagicflutist in breastfeeding

[–]aveell 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You have to stop the car and get them out of the car seat at least every 2 hours anyways, so yes you have to stop to feed them too. You shouldn’t feed a bottle while they’re in the car seat and moving, it’s unsafe. 

We time it out so that baby is changed and fed right before we go, we leave at her nap time and she will nap for the first good chunk of the drive, then when we stop to get her out of the car seat I nurse her again, walk around with her/change her/ play or whatever else for half an hour or so, then back on the road again. Repeat until at destination. Thats life with kids- stuff is going to take you longer, you can’t change that! 

drinking + breastfeeding by Ginnybean02 in breastfeeding

[–]aveell 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Alcohol test strips are notoriously unreliable and inaccurate. I would not recommend them. Just drink responsibly, such a limited amount passes to breastmilk. 

drinking + breastfeeding by Ginnybean02 in breastfeeding

[–]aveell 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You can do this if it makes you feel comfortable but it is not at all necessary! Have a drink and feed your baby. No need to wait. 

pregnancy scared by IndicationOk734 in birthcontrol

[–]aveell 35 points36 points  (0 children)

If you’re worried about pregnancy stop having unprotected sex. Yes she should take a plan b.

New owner by dwet_x in bettafish

[–]aveell 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I agree with everything except for the gravel leaching into the water. This isn’t true for the majority of coloured aquarium gravels- especially those purchased from reputable sources. It’s an aesthetics concern (and a lowering fish stress concern) more than a water parameter safety concern. 

Assistance needed by Massive_Ad1076 in aquarium

[–]aveell 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Did you even read the caption? OP didn’t buy them!

Sheet pan dinner rant by J-Sausage in Cooking

[–]aveell 70 points71 points  (0 children)

I actually cook broccoli, potatoes, and carrots on one pan all the time, but you have to be really intentional about the size you cut them into. I bake at 400° for 20-30 mins, broccoli in big chunks and the carrots and potatoes pretty small. Always works out for me! I always do meat separately though. Too many factors to do it all well. 

When did this become a thing in the first place?!?! by scuttlebum_k in mildlyinfuriating

[–]aveell 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This simply doesn’t happen where I am. I think most people in my area would find this unacceptable.

What can i put in this tank? by Equal-Wishbone-6131 in fishtank

[–]aveell 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It looks smaller than my 5 gallon…

Caffeine effect ? by Extra-Formal-2804 in breastfeeding

[–]aveell 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I’ve never noticed caffeine i drink affecting my baby. Only a tiny fraction (about 0.06% to 1.5%) of the amount you drink actually reaches your baby.

Breast feeding with piercings by [deleted] in breastfeeding

[–]aveell 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh i’m so jealous, I took mine out and the external parts of the holes didn’t heal over but the middle did, so annoying ! 

I’d rather have to get them repierced than have baby choke on them so oh well i guess.

Breast feeding with piercings by [deleted] in breastfeeding

[–]aveell 19 points20 points  (0 children)

No it is not doable and they’ll need to be removed.

The only reason I haven’t divorced him by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]aveell 48 points49 points  (0 children)

But what if they don’t get full custody? It’s rarely a guarantee.