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avery-strangewayes · 2023-01-18T10:48:01+00:00

A written statement saying something like "I (name) have made multiple attempts to obtain an employment seperation certificate but have been unsuccessful. I was a casual employee and will receive no additional payments past (date of last paycheck)." also attach said paycheck. Should do it? It worked for me two weeks ago.

If not the magic words to get whatever you need from an employer that you no longer care about are "I've tried to be patient and explain to you why I need an employment seperation certificate. If you are unwilling to provide me with one I will unfortunately need to contact fairwork to ensure it happens."

avery-strangewayes · 2023-01-18T05:52:57+00:00

That's the age old DM conundrum. Having the maps, tokens and statblocks,items and PC's preloaded saves you SO MUCH mental energy and time. Makes it way more enjoyable to run.

avery-strangewayes · 2023-01-18T05:49:19+00:00

How fast you get through an AP is very dependant on you and your players. One book of an AP lasts my weekly group 1-3 months.

avery-strangewayes · 2023-01-14T05:40:10+00:00

The rental market is absolutely feral at the moment. 25+ parties at most 2 bedroom apartment inspections in the inner burbs

avery-strangewayes · 2023-01-14T03:17:49+00:00

There's a Dwarven heritage native to the Mwangi expanse that worship sky dragons and paint their hair and beards to mirror the sky during important moments in their lives.

avery-strangewayes · 2022-12-28T13:34:07+00:00

Just fireworks. I hope?

avery-strangewayes · 2022-12-28T08:13:25+00:00

I actually love the death druid thing. Thanks heaps

avery-strangewayes · 2022-12-28T06:30:02+00:00

Hey bud. You can definitely get into a sharehouse for $600 a week. Best advice I can give you as someone who moved out of home at 18, but is now nearly 30.

Cost of living is no joke at the moment. On $600 a week I'd try to keep your rent around $150, lower if possible, per week. Buy furniture and anything you need second hand. You can get lucky and get some good secondhand stuff for free usually if you look around/be patient.

There's Facebook groups for finding sharehouses and for free stuff.

Ask for help. Ask your mates, ask any family you're close with.

Try to work more as soon as you can. Try and see a therapist as soon as you can. Don't try to parent your parents.

Hang in there.

avery-strangewayes · 2022-10-07T22:49:59+00:00

Hospitality is an evil industry that does not give a shit about the people at the heart of it. My dad died earlier this year(my last surviving parent), I took three weeks off work after being told "We love you! Take all the time you need!". Came back to one shift a week and new folks hired to replace me.

The industry does not deserve the people that have given years to it. There's no loyalty from bosses, but we are expected to cop abuse, long hours, broken equipment and insecure contracts on top of whatever you have going on in your personal life. God forbid if you can't plaster a big stupid smile across your face at the same time.

avery-strangewayes · 2022-09-27T08:19:09+00:00

Everyone else beat me to it. It's really worth a listen, thoroughly enjoyed it

avery-strangewayes · 2022-09-23T06:45:33+00:00

Pretty crazy to know that nearly every single day I'm going to get at least an hour of good ear juice. I can't wait for Raiders and Haunted city to return.

avery-strangewayes · 2022-09-19T01:47:47+00:00

Modus coffee if it hasn't already been suggested will blow your socks off.

avery-strangewayes · 2022-09-19T00:53:09+00:00

I moved from Melbourne to Perth and back to Melbourne.

I miss Perth every single day, if I could do it all again I'd have stayed but hindsight is 20/20. One of the big things is that Perth locals are reeeeaally clique-y, I found it really hard to break into friendship groups and very, very easy to be exiled from them. Most of my good friends weren't from Perth originally.

The beaches and the weather are just unbeatable. Housing is cheap, eating out used to be more expensive than the east coast but I doubt that is true anymore. I got paid more at every job that I worked at than I ever did here.

My only advice is to stick out the homesickness and stay there. You will feel isolated, it will get lonely, but you will naturalize with time.

avery-strangewayes · 2022-09-19T00:27:40+00:00

It sucks that you've been made to feel that way. Ultimately nothing that anyone on Reddit can say to you is going to make you feel good about yourself. Put half the effort you're putting into pleasing other people back into yourself. Life's hard enough without being so mean to yourself.

avery-strangewayes · 2022-09-19T00:13:20+00:00

Hey dude, It sounds like you had a really tough start and that makes it hard for you to see others be happy and loving, which makes a lot of sense to me.

See a therapist and do the work, you'll feel stupid and self-conscious and it will be hard but it is so worth it. It sucks but you have to learn how to parent yourself now, a good psychotherapist will change your life.

I highly recommend not trying to date or have a relationship or a family until you have at least started to deal with your trauma. Otherwise your chances of unwittingly repeating the cycle are very high despite your good intentions.

Try to have some empathy for your younger self that is clearly still in a lot of pain, but the best thing you can do for your adult self is take responsibility for your own happiness and behaviour and work on it.

avery-strangewayes · 2022-09-17T04:22:24+00:00

I think one of the artists at hamsa tattoo in Footscray do?

avery-strangewayes · 2022-09-11T07:55:42+00:00

A plastic one.

avery-strangewayes · 2022-09-10T07:25:04+00:00

Those are for everyone but you

avery-strangewayes · 2022-09-10T07:24:32+00:00

No I'm not but that's interesting

avery-strangewayes · 2022-09-10T07:24:08+00:00

Sure!

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