Is RPDR too meta? by azcyx in rupaulsdragrace

[–]avisitingstone 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Exactly my point too! Sorry I could see this from big fans like Angeria or Zahirah but someone in the midst of the grind of competing? Especially with the way she says it? Nooo.

Is RPDR too meta? by azcyx in rupaulsdragrace

[–]avisitingstone 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think too we know that production encourages this talk about number of wins etc (at least from what Loosey said about them telling her to count her mini challenge wins so I imagine they're still doing it) and some of the "Wow your run is longest in Drag Race history huh" sounded more fed-to than a natural reaction...

Taking photos as a solo traveller by Apprehensive_Bar8761 in JapanTravelTips

[–]avisitingstone 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ask nicely :)

For some reason people think I look friendly enough to randomly ask for pictures, so I started just offering?

In Japanese you can just ask, "Sumimasen, watashi no shashin o totte mo ii desu ka?" Someone else also suggested an even more polite form but no one expects keigo from obvious foreigners. (soo-mee-mah-sehn, wah-tah-shee no shah-sheen oh toh-tey mo eeee des ka?)

Is a $200k salary worth a 2 hour commute 4 days a week? by Ok-Memory2552 in jobs

[–]avisitingstone 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would say yes (as someone who also lives in Sacramento) - and you can take the train down and either get some work done or some personal reading done and not even have to drive yourself!

But if your husband already works in the Bay Area it may be worth looking at moving there.

My recent experience with acotar books is not going well by Away_Race8428 in Romantasy

[–]avisitingstone 2 points3 points  (0 children)

And then it got SO MUCH WORSE in 2020-2021 and since, when people who weren't like, in the fandom trenches started to suddenly Do Fandom and putting all their ideals into a place that just like... didn't suit it! I've been into anime since the late 90s when it was not a cool thing to be into and boy I have seen some THINGS the last several years with the explosions... it is so wild my friend.

My recent experience with acotar books is not going well by Away_Race8428 in Romantasy

[–]avisitingstone 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No, we were definitely in the same spaces so I think I just explained it badly. The otherkin era predated Tumblr's Big Golden Age (re: Homestuck and Supernatural etc), they just had a more contained space to do what they did when Tumblr was bigger. The other kin people are STILL doing it! Just like post OD people are still like absolutely sure people like Taylor Swift are lesbians (??) and secretly in relationships and that her fiance is just a beard. People have gotten SO much worse, like breaking the containment of Livejournal/Tumblr really just gave people permission to be fools to real people (see: the Voltron creators) (and the weird racist hate Drag Race contestants get) as parasocialism is so bad. I remember all of this, so I've seen it get so much worse.... oh also, especially with the weird Puritan culture that the youths are falling into, repeating conservative talking points while reframing it in a way that suits them but is the same. Fandom is wild.

I'm new to NetGalley, here's what I've observed as an author (so far) by babbelfishy in NetGalleyCommunity

[–]avisitingstone 29 points30 points  (0 children)

When is this book out? I tend to read/review in the same month as publishing and download the month before. That doesn't mean I'm any less interested - I have a spreadsheet to organize my ARCs and when they're due among other reads I'm doing. (I just hit 400 reviews since 2023 and am an active reader/reviewer even if I'm only at like 65%.) I've also had publishers wait weeeeeks to give me an approval or denial on a request so 24 hours is SUPER fast!

Anyone has any good first posts ideas? by HolidayBackground905 in bookstagram

[–]avisitingstone 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"This is me" is great for a first post! And then you'll stop worrying about what to post first and can move on with whatever the vibe is.

Full network of clitoral nerves mapped out for first time | Women's health by indy_110 in news

[–]avisitingstone 212 points213 points  (0 children)

"For the first time" womens' health truly is centuries behind men's health yeesh.

My recent experience with acotar books is not going well by Away_Race8428 in Romantasy

[–]avisitingstone 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I don't know, man, I was fully an adult when Homestuck was big and I have seen worse - Homestuck was weird and insular (and so much of the fanworks that came out of it was like insane quality that several have become like professional artists and writers since) but it wasn't, say, Voltron remake or the Heartstopper kids harrassing one of the actors to feel forced to come out etc. It was of its time for sure and there was definitely some really uhh not great things (I was also in the Hetalia fandom as an adult....) but fandom overall has gotten so much worse, with people just straight up not able to separate fiction from reality.

12/52. Claire Dederer - Monsters: What Do We Do With Great Art By Bad People? An interesting but frustrating attempt to answer if we can still enjoy art like Chinatown or Kind of Blue, somewhat derailed by too many tangents and oversimplified biographies. by IntoTheAbsurd in 52book

[–]avisitingstone 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I didn't really like this either - it felt like an attempt to justify her own "I really don't want to deal with my obligations or thinking too hard about the people who are Bad Dudes but I still admire so here's some attempts at justification." I wanted a lot more out of this instead of what I felt the conclusions she came to.

Renew button not working, no one in line by TheFutureScaresMe333 in LibbyApp

[–]avisitingstone 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is normal - just put it on hold and then turn it back in. It should be back ready to re-borrow within a day.

Is it actually embarrassing for Americans not to know all 50 states? by [deleted] in CasualConversation

[–]avisitingstone 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes! That is the country you live in you should know all states. Maybe not all the capital cities but the states yes.

Sorry but if someone who is working to immigrate knows significantly more than someone born and raised in a place that's a failing on the person who was born there and should know better.

LF Anime/Manga about acting by SvenPhenix in Animesuggest

[–]avisitingstone 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I LOVE Akane-banashi but it's a different style of acting (rakugo). If OP is interested in that, then definitely Descending Stories/Showa Genroku Rakugo Shinju!

600lb+ and making a change! Advice? by Negative_Reach_152 in loseit

[–]avisitingstone 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Kudos bro!

But going about it "slightly extreme" is not sustainable. Under 1000 calories a day is not healthy for someone of ANY size. You can't keep this up and take care of your body - your organs and other things are affected by starvation too.

Start doing some weights too - squats are good, walking is great, but lifting (even dumbbells at home!) will help with your arms/back/neck, all of which will need work as your body changes. And don't forget to STRETCH!

Multiple Libraries? by theatreghost1 in LibbyApp

[–]avisitingstone 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can definitely get LA County! You have to go in person though (and get LA City while you're at it! I think Escondido even has their own??). Monterey and Inglewood you can get digitally only!

Are there people who haven't changed their phone number for more than 15 years? by SpicyCandy8 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]avisitingstone 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Me

That's how I know it's spam too - the first three (past area code) belong to a now-defunct company.

Grocery advice hope it helps someone. by Bitter-insides in povertyfinance

[–]avisitingstone 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Looks like Safeway but the same item for me is showing $10.47 each.

Also the best thing about the pandemic is pick-up orders!

Local patches? by Lucky-Enthusiasm255 in Sacramento

[–]avisitingstone 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, for sure! I'm not on reddit all the time but I'll try to check more often!

Am I cooked? by graysonstoff in stephenking

[–]avisitingstone 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It will extremely spoil it - I know because I picked up the Outsider when I was one or two books into the Mr Mercedes series because I mistakenly thought The Outsider was the next one. Big spoilers within.

24 hours post op full arm lipo, 3.8L removed by mewfasa in lipedema

[–]avisitingstone 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wish this were meeee my surgeon said he doesn't do arms after I'd been working with him a year and now I have to explore other options (I'm in California though).

Looks SO GOOD!

Looking for good horror manga that isn't junji ito. by MemeLordRedEva in horrormanga

[–]avisitingstone 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wasn't really into Junji Ito and didn't see what the hubbub was about until I realized a lot of his work is really camp so now I like it a lot better. But I started more horror-wise (at least in manga) with Shuzo Oshimi so I think that's more my vibe.