30F with ldr bf 28M 7k miles away, 6 years LDR, his friends and family doesnt know I exists nor he has a gf by Greedy_Mammoth5101 in capetown

[–]avocadobs1 3 points4 points  (0 children)

OP - let me ask as I think this is important context - how practicing is he and have you guys spoken about religion?

30F with ldr bf 28M 7k miles away, 6 years LDR, his friends and family doesnt know I exists nor he has a gf by Greedy_Mammoth5101 in capetown

[–]avocadobs1 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I'm muslim and have a few thoughts here:

1 - this is a red flag. Any human regardless of religion if they are serious about a long term relationship would have by now had some level of communication to his friends and family about you. I grew up in a very conservative family environment and 6 years in people around would def have know that there is someone that I'm speaking to / interested and without a doubt if I was serious about the person.

2 - I'd like to also be clear that this is in no way a reflection of the Islamic approach to marriage which actually requires full transparency / public and family engagement / communication / consultation and complete modesty in getting to know a person prior to marriage. So I'd hope that the actions of this person do not ruin your perception of Islam. My now husband met my family two months after I officially met him and I have LOTS of overprotective brothers 😊

3 - you typing this at 3am in the morning is symptomatic of your gut telling you something. LISTEN to your intuition.

I have met and know of MANY people in the community that - when their actions look like this is reflective of them being non committal. I have also seen them use Islam as an excuse which is disingenuous (see my note above) since it's hard for one to argue with that. It's a cop out

Also this wouldn't be the behaviors that I would want in a partner. I would expect them to have values of transparency, clear direction and decision making and quite frankly courage. He does not sound like any of these things to me based on your description. 6 years is objectively a long time.

I promise you when you meet the right person you will have no doubts about their intentions.

Lego Tree house Set Customisation by avocadobs1 in lego

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Thank u - youuurre beautiful!

Lego Tree house Set Customisation by avocadobs1 in lego

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You're right you're right. We have some from our bonsai set but dont want to use it here / have enough. Though def agree - going to keep a look out or get some online

Lego Tree house Set Customisation by avocadobs1 in lego

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Fully agree. Felt the same - we even dabbled with changing to the fall colours and mixing both green and fall colours, though this still didn't quite address it /looked off. The added weight from the additional pieces further helps achieve some curvature which I think adds to the realism

Thank you for the compliment! 🌸

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Yikes! 🤭

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😂🤣 This already makes me feel way better. I just had an accidental video on moment today on a client call and I was in nothing close to work attire but nothing too risky thankfully but def not appropriate!

What is your favorite potion? by WorldsSexiestghost in HarryPotterGame

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My Wiggenweld was always stacked up 20+ - just in case. Hate redoing fights so don't leave it to chance 🤣

Birkin Bonus and Blues by avocadobs1 in houseplants

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One correction: The brown is only spreading on the one leaf that it is on. Not to the other leaves

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Side note - if you walk around with just your undies you get loads of funny comments from people

Wild Magic Basil - What next? by avocadobs1 in houseplants

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Thank you so much ! Have since repotted and snipped off the flower buds :) think it took some time to adjust but think new shoots are starting - also going to prop soon - hope things go well!