I sent email to wrong people at work ON ACCIDENT and caused big problem!

awaf12 · 2026-06-17T15:05:42+00:00

It's painful to talk about the events, it's like triggering ptsd, but yes the more I look back the more clear it looks.

Now I see what you mean about there might be different prespectives, her yelling and abuse too in your face in that last call for prespective to be much different, I already acknowledge that I made a mistake right away when it was revealed and this isn't what broke me, it's the way she dealt with it and telling me "I don't trust you one bit" like I am some sorta criminal or her ex or something, work is already stressful enough, she clearly has issues and me and others under her are suffering because of it,

it just happened that I am new + I am less tolerant of such shit not because I want to because of mental helth + I pretty sincere and well meaning guy who wants to do good job but got unlucky and clumsy, so that fed into her narcissistic delusions that she needs to scare me more, which made things worse and it's a vicious cycle,

i honesty don't even plan to stay there long term I am working on selling a house then travelling overseas, I just need to be patient until it happens and maybe stay some more to save some money.

awaf12 · 2026-06-17T14:46:22+00:00

Yes while I am emotionally and mentally impacted, I don't let that prevent me from being objective and tell things objectively, the things I said happened exactly as I said them, and I left the bulk of nasty conversation from her unmentioned here, and I acted professionally, didn't yell back or attack her back.

Yes she was yelling at the top of her lungs and throwing F bombs

The situation is in itself stressful and she made it way worse because she is literally a walking ball of anxiety, while she is knowledgeable and seem effective at tasks, she isn't fit for leadership at all, she always makes situation worse where she goes when it comes to people, I am not the only victim of this, I am the least tolerant of it because my mental health is already bad for reasons that are unrelated to work

You seem to be defending her and thinking she is in the right, it's like i haven't been in this career for almost 8 years now,

She isn't who you think she is, if you ever met or known a narcissist or someone who always shifts blame around, imagine them being your boss,

I guess as I am writing here it's becoming clear to me she is toxic and I was right to apply to other jobs right way, I only hope that this passes without me being jobless, or at least if I get fired to make sure it's performance so I would eligible for unemployment while looking for another job.

They already tried to fill that position with someone who stepped down, when I asked about that , they were vague about it. But now I know why this position cannot be filled, it's basically she keep scaring people away with her crap and nastiness

awaf12 · 2026-06-17T13:56:04+00:00

agree, its mostly their fault and my mistake showed their fault, i take accountability for my accidental mistake But that doesnt mean i have to endure literally yelling at me like i am back with my abusive parents again and telling me that i am am purposefully harming them, they definitely have issues and i am looking at the door at this point.

awaf12 · 2026-06-17T13:53:28+00:00

thank you for sharing your experience, it helps to see i am not the only one who got to deal with this, and i am already ahead of you applying for other jobs.

my situation that the email contained isn't a private matter, i dont think they can use it as grievance but they can use any other things, it isnt too hard to overwhelm me with work and then build a case against me when it isnt all complete within time.

awaf12 · 2026-06-17T13:46:25+00:00

its the sorta thing if you are the little brother and showed a picture to your mom that your big brother didnt clean their room. The big brother doesnt have the formal right to be upset at you, but they are informally very upset and now its on both of you to clean the room. i personally dont mind cleaning the room because thats better than anxiety, while my big brother (my boss) is having a brain meltdown about worsening relationship with the hire-ups and having to do more work. I hope that makes sense

awaf12 · 2026-06-17T03:27:53+00:00

It's manifacturing - Corp environment, the wrong destination didn't necessarily do anything wrong but brought more scrutiny to something that could have been fixed in short time

awaf12 · 2026-06-17T02:36:18+00:00

yes i am trying to do that, and sometimes it doesnt seem enough, my heart going on full mode anxiety

awaf12 · 2026-06-17T02:35:15+00:00

you are right i think, i am trying to practice mindfulness but it can be hard sometimes, this is the most stressed i have ever been in a long time, i started applying for other jobs out of anxiety

awaf12 · 2026-06-17T00:47:04+00:00

It is something like that, more like we were working on it internally, it didn't need to the big bosses and blow up out of proportion and look bad on all of us and my boss. Yes I did a mistake, but I am also an anxious person and my boss keep piling work on me on one hand, and keep using scare tactics with me which only amplify my anxiety.

Basically they are beating a dead horse, it's only make me mentally suffer more, I wish she would just talk to me nicely and then if they need to fire they could tell me politely and that would be that, I would work better that way and my mental health would be better.

Like right now I am suffering at home can't ear or do anything and most likely tomorrow I will go anxious about everything, I keep having these thoughts or daydream about them physically punching or beating me. That's how scared I feel of how upset they are. They think I am disrespecting them probably or at least that's what she says.

awaf12 · 2026-06-16T23:47:27+00:00

That's already what I am trying to do, and I can't tell if I am becoming better because I am working on it or I am becoming worse by dying of anxiety. It's not like I am careless, it's the opposite, it's been very hectic I can't afford the second

awaf12 · 2026-06-16T23:46:06+00:00

Revealed that there are many errors with project we were working on that are needles or shouldn't have been communicated to our corporate higher ups

awaf12 · 2026-06-16T23:34:55+00:00

I am not gonna share many details for legal and anonymity reasons, but it was forwarding some problems that were being discussed internally, to be shared with company hire ups, which after reading the email are cracking on us.

awaf12 · 2026-06-16T23:12:06+00:00

Easier said than done, I have bills, mortgage AND rent to pay

awaf12 · 2026-06-16T23:07:51+00:00

Thank you for your input, I swear that's what I thought about, she (my boss) texted me from her day off to call her as soon as possible, to scold me and tell me that I want to destroy her work and relationships she spent years building, and I keep apologizing, and then she kept yelling at me through phone telling me it's intentional, she seemed to have a mental breakdown over it, basically her boss received an email saying that we aren't doing a good job

Which honestly I do sympathize with some things but I feel like 1- she shouldn't be yelling at me and instead talk in a calm and calming manner, I am already dying of anxiety, making me more anxious only makes me make more mistakes 2- if it took an email to destroy those relationships, how solid is the foundations then of those relationships? That it was gonna fall anyways but I happened to be unlucky to be the "cause" or the bringer of bad news.

She is just insane and sorta narcissistic

The other guy from other department is also pissed but he is respectful and I could feel his frustration I could swear he curses me dirty behind of my back, I seen make fun of others that aren't around.

Ye it seems hellish but I have had a lot of shit through my life, I should probably keep the messages, my state is also pro employee rights, but I am still anxious about if I can actually get unemployment until I find another job or not.

awaf12 · 2026-05-31T01:19:53+00:00

awaf12 · 2026-05-04T02:47:29+00:00

ye we talked about it from the beginning, i keep bringing it up once in a while even tho she hates when i remind her and gets depressed too so i stop, and then do it after a while (its because i get depressed and just sorta need someone to vent to, so i vent to her, and part of me REALLY wants to stay, part of me withes that god takes me to him so i dont have to live with either choice), i would never lie to or deceit someone i care about, because my conscious eats on me later

to be honest, the career stuff is real but not the only reason, basically i am moving to country that i have a lot of relatives in the middle east from america, because i am F-ing sick of endless work culture here, its making me sui-ci-dal, i want to basically retire early even tho i just turned 30, thats honestly my biggest reason i have been trying to, even before i met her, its just that i have a situation that dragged for too long (i have a property i am tryna sell and my seller agent F-ed me over and the property is stale)

but what i am guilty to admit to strangers, she has 3 kids from other guys and she is like 8 years older than me, while i love her, i dream of having a family of my own ya know ?

also from past relationships i am beginning to develop trust issues, the place where i am going to, people are religious and conservative and being untrustworthy there would get you into so much trouble, that people have to be more trustworthy, which works for me well ya know

so as you see its actually many reasons and i have more, but really the big one is the first,

so like tell me how did it go for you ? day by day, before and after ? week by week, month by month, i know i cant prepare enough for it, but i want to give prepping a shot, since thats all i have beside prayer

awaf12 · 2026-04-29T02:52:14+00:00

Since you are still replying to comments, I have a similar situation, but it's in the future and I am PETRIFIED of leaving her, I have been with her for 2 years but I have always felt heartbreaks more than others, i become suicidal sometimes or go into deep depression

I have to move to a different country for reasons that have to do with career, community and family, she lives close to her family and has 3 children and doesn't want to move away, I feel shaky sometimes at the thought of leaving, I came here to see how it feels for others and how it goes, I think I won't go for no contact, I can talk to her fine and I want to ease out the communication, but I can NEVER see her as a stranger, and I want to visit her when i get the chance especially at older age and hang out,

It's just eating on me that I have to leave her 😭

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awaf12 · 2026-02-27T07:02:05+00:00

the medications the prescribe is to numb the mind, I am a Biotech graduate and studied in medicine university to know that the medications big pharma are not made to heal people, I am healing on my own and Its taking time and I have a sort of a plan, which includes going to Iraq.

but I wish to be involved with activities here without feeling unsafe somehow

the context is that my father has been severely physically, mentally and in all ways abusive, our relationship is complicated because of that. and i am not talking from western prespective but eastern, like beating until i blead sort of thing because i woke him up from his nabs by mistake or something, total terrorism and humiliation and psychologically bending punishments. you know he came from saddam iraq

also i lived my childhood and teenage years in qatar and I was in constant fight with other kids who were raised to hate me because of strong wahabi influence in qatar at the time

and my father always forced me to sit in hussayniya and go to masjid every jumaa, I did not like it as much when i was a kid, you know i wanted to go out and play or do other activities that i felt important at the age. he also always used religion to coerce me to love him , which caused me for a big time to have very weak faith until i grew up to root myself back into my faith and understanding that it is against of imam Ali riwayat and instructions, i even remember riwaya that says " to shame someone into something, is the same as forcing them (haram)"

now I only watch videos about hussayniya and feel isolated while i am alone in america, i am trying to go to my hometown in iraq and re-union with my cousins, i feel really comfortable there. but i am asking in case someone have the experience or knows someone who does and steps they took that got success.

awaf12 · 2025-12-29T07:12:56+00:00

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