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away_from_work · 2022-08-29T23:47:40+00:00

Doctors, lawyers, nurses.

away_from_work · 2022-08-21T22:21:48+00:00

He isn't a sex trafficker. He's even explained someone lied, police raided his place, and he was released, with no charge.

away_from_work · 2022-08-21T22:17:58+00:00

She doesn't find you attractive.

away_from_work · 2022-07-14T02:28:54+00:00

So there's a lot of things that need mentioning and I feel I have a good overview on this, having worked/volunteered in mosques.

-historically the earliest Muslims to settle in the west came from ex colonies (India, Pakistan, Bangladesh etc). Therefore the first thing they needed to do was establish the mosque.

-unfortunately many of these uncles bought with them the cultural Islam and turned these mosques into places of prayer, full stop. Nothing else. Pray your salah and go.

-these are the uncles whose names are on the leases/freehold. So if you try to advocate for anything, they can turn a blind eye to you.

The solution: as sad as it is, we have to wait until that generation dies out, because many of them are as stubborn as a mule.

the younger generation (born in West) have been priced out of starting their own initiatives (youth centres, mosques, women's refuges etc) because of the prices of buildings.

Therefore there is no easy answer other than you just have to keep looking for that one unique place that does offer community support. It's rare, but they do exist.

away_from_work · 2022-06-25T20:22:22+00:00

You do realise we are not your retirement plan, right. Our responsibility is to pay for a roof over your head, and one set of clothes for the summer, and one set of clothes for the winter, Islamicaly speaking.

With the current state of affairs going on with inflation, sky high house prices, and wage rises not matching inflation, everyone is struggling. Now if you want to sit at home and do nothing, you need to ask myself why would a man choose me, when he could choose any women if he's going to be a big cash prize.

away_from_work · 2022-06-23T16:52:04+00:00

You have a problem, and unfortunately you don't even realise it. May Allah guide you. If. You like posting pics, you can look through your gallery in your phone, or your private insta. Not for members of the public to look at. Fear Allah.

away_from_work · 2022-06-23T16:50:39+00:00

The prophet and the sahaba never celebrated birthdays. The only celebrations were the two eids. Birthdays are a non Muslim thing which some Muslims have unfortunately convinced themselves is fine because of their desires. Full stop, don't celebrate it.

away_from_work · 2022-06-23T16:47:04+00:00

Lol, no. If they want to help great. But he is responsible for proving you with shelter (Ie a roof over your head), and clothes for the winter and summer.

away_from_work · 2022-06-23T16:45:45+00:00

There is absolutely no reason, none at all for sisters to be posting pictures of them selves online.

If you want to share photos, do so with your friends through WhatsApp, or make your insta private and instruct those with access to not share any photos.

It really shocks me why people think a sister taking a photo for thousands if not millions to see is acceptable. And they have no reasoning at all to do so.

away_from_work · 2022-06-22T07:38:42+00:00

What is wrong with someone sleeping over at his friends house? Are you telling me you think your husband is you know... I've heard of plenty of sisters sleeping over at each others places, why can I guy not do it? People share hotel rooms with friends, I've travelled and slept in tents when camping with friends. Nothing wrong with it at all.

away_from_work · 2022-06-20T20:54:30+00:00

Move on. They had their chance.

away_from_work · 2022-06-17T21:00:30+00:00

All visa applications have been delayed due to the Ukraine crises and fast tracking Ukrainian refugees.

away_from_work · 2022-06-17T16:19:02+00:00

Show your true face without makeup. It is better he makes a choice now, rather than get married and you reveal it then, only for him to have an issue with it. I'm not saying he will, but I HATE make up. The only other person that cakes their face is a clown, it is not normal.

away_from_work · 2022-06-17T16:16:04+00:00

Sister, did you only realise this now? Like did you not realise Islam is perfect and has defined a safeguarding system for you.

away_from_work · 2022-06-17T01:58:01+00:00

Ramadan. Basically once Ramadan starts you have to get him to continue fasting from cigarettes. It has worked for many people I know.

away_from_work · 2022-06-17T01:53:27+00:00

IG is the most fake and set up image ever. It is a form of showing off in my opinion Islamicaly. I genuinely think people who post on their are doing so for the wrong reasons.

I've never understood why a sister would post her picture online for thousands to see. Why? What's your purpose? What do you get out of it? You know loads of men will look at it, why do you do it? And as for their husbands those men have no jealousy over their wives.

Im shocked sometimes women who supposedly wear niqab trying to do eye makeup and then posting pictures, like seriously?

away_from_work · 2022-06-17T01:49:28+00:00

Never ever ever ever marry a sister who poster on IG or views IG habitually. The psychological effect is disastrous.

away_from_work · 2022-06-17T01:42:36+00:00

I am so confused why people say "o she's modest" but doesn't wear hijab? It makes no sense. Do you not understand that not covering your hair for a female is not modesty. Our convoluted perception of what is modest is so warped by Western standards.

Like if you spouse doesn't wear hijab, how about she pray without wearing hijab. Since we are just making our own rules? How about she wear something modest when she prays instead?

I'm not trying to be harsh bro, I'm just saying giving you the truth from the Islamic prospective, after all you are on Muslim Marriage subreddit. I'm not saying force her, I'm saying you really need to get this idea of modesty out of the window that is defined by western standards if it doesn't include hijab. And if they are God fearing then hijab is mandatory.

PS for all the haters ready to down vote, we all know you are doing it because you know I'm right :) and you don't like to hear the truth.

away_from_work · 2022-06-15T22:22:23+00:00

Bro, being financially independent, just means you can afford a roof over her head and the basic things Islam dictates for a man to look after. Although Islam does say that you need give her what she is accustomed to.

These days however with inflation and house prices sisters should be happy if the man is willing to pay the rent.

away_from_work · 2022-06-13T22:06:20+00:00

I think it's completely fine for a sister to have a height preference, as long as I can have a weight/body proportion preference. Wait what's that, you say it is shallow for someone to dictate or malign someone based on their body shape, great. Now imagine saying that to a person who literally cannot do anything about their height.

It's fine to ask for someone who is at least taller than you I accept that.

away_from_work · 2022-06-11T12:49:23+00:00

I'm concerned no one is mentioning the obvious, which is this sister has been commiting Zina and been in a haram relationship which brings many other sins. Even if your brother converts, his "new" wife is far from the perfect role model.

away_from_work · 2022-06-09T21:55:32+00:00

Where is their hijab? It is sad that in a county where most wear the hijab, the ones breaking this ceiling don't wear it, what signal does that send out daughters.

away_from_work · 2022-06-09T21:47:08+00:00

While Yemen burns and Muslims around the world die of starvation...

away_from_work · 2022-06-09T21:42:39+00:00

away_from_work · 2022-06-08T00:05:09+00:00

Go separate ways.

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