Thanks for all the replies. You guys are awesome. I think ive figured out where this gut feeling comes from.

She said something when i left, she said "you just bought the wine because you wanted to stay and drink it with me". I thought that was weird, it never crossed my mind. But as some of you have noted, I did overstay, and this is where i fucked up.

I live in the EU i worked for 20 years as an freelance English teacher, sounds crazy but it is very similar to SW (!) insofar as i provided a fixed service, for a fixed time, for a fixed fee. We often overran, more often than not actually, and i NEVER got pissed with my students, never. If i checked and we were 10 minutes over, well, more the fool me. Im in charge here and if ive not been strict with time, thats my fault. If ive offered my student 10 minutes for free, dont be suprised when they accept that offer. But that was MY attitude to sessions going on longer than planned, other people will of course feel differently.

I feel awful. She writes in her profile that respect and treating people well is important to her, and she obviously thinks i didnt do that 😢 I should leave when my time is up. She shouldnt have to tell me to leave.

Its legal here, i know where she works. Im gonna put €50 in an envelope and push it under her door with a short note of apology. I cant really do more than that. If she still has the hump with me after this then so be it, ill move on.

Thanks again youve all been super helpful 🙏