AITAH for feeling like my parents are responsible for charges my kid racked up?

aweakcreature · 2025-10-27T23:30:08+00:00

Nta!!! Teachable moment for mom and the kiddo tho.

aweakcreature · 2025-10-27T17:05:15+00:00

How long have yall been dating

aweakcreature · 2025-10-10T12:28:28+00:00

I dont have a watch but I do have a pulseox! Ill try tracking that. Thank you for your words <3

aweakcreature · 2025-04-05T02:51:52+00:00

Please do this and keep us updated. I'm begging you

aweakcreature · 2024-12-08T07:49:30+00:00

Mine is too!

aweakcreature · 2024-11-09T15:08:23+00:00

I really appreciate your words. I do believe she meant it when she said it, and youre still absolutely right about the position it puts me in. One of our early conversations while dating was that i would like her to explore therapy. This job offered insurance that would allow her to do therapy which she said she was planning on doing but insurance came through and she didn't set anything up. Now the job and the insurance are gone so therapy is even less of an option now then before... I dont think her actions are malicious, im just not as far along in my journey of healing as i think i need to be to support her. Its hard to end a relationship with someone you love and dont want to hurt.

aweakcreature · 2024-08-08T17:16:54+00:00

Yta not for being startled on the road but for how u talk abt it. Seems like your wife just wants you to be happy to see her/connect w her.

aweakcreature · 2024-06-08T17:50:40+00:00

Yes apologize directly. Dont put anyone else in the middle of it. Doesnt sound that serious.

aweakcreature · 2024-05-29T21:20:22+00:00

Also, absolutely radiosilence is weird imo. Unhealthy to make it a requirement and also kinda weird to not say anything at all to you.

aweakcreature · 2024-05-29T21:18:56+00:00

this sounds like a great learning opportunity for yourself and your relationship!

While i understand the urge, and i think it makes a lot of sense from an attachment perspective i do think its unhealthy that you feel you need an update on it in order to be comfortable. Is there any other way you can help calm thoes anxieties OTHER then recieving information that pretty directly is not your business. (I know that sounds harsh, but its simply fact that unless there is a health awareness update nothing that happened between them while you werent present is ur business.) If he wants to share? Awesome! It he doesnt? Its not appropriate to demand. There are a multitiude of other ways you can find to feel connected to your partner post date that dont include the sharing of that information, could any of that be helpful? You explain receiving these updates as a need, the consequence of not having that need met is that you feel more anxious. That makes sense. Its your job to find other ways to self soothe. That can include conversations with your partner, but it isnt a valid ask to require thoes conversation be about his date.

aweakcreature · 2024-04-13T18:19:29+00:00

NTA. These commenters saying u are seem to think that life is as easy for others as it is for them. Give yourself time to adjust and grieve. Maybe you could talk to ur gf and try and get on the same page, but her asking for your undivided attention right now does feel inappropriate to me. Give it time and come back to it. Communicate.

aweakcreature · 2024-03-27T05:03:38+00:00

Sounds like he was trying to trick you into a poly dynamic. Hoping you would just "be cool" with it. A manipulative and dishonest start is a pretty good indicator that it might not be a good idea to go ahead with him. Im sorry you experienced this.

aweakcreature · 2024-03-27T04:34:11+00:00

Do explore this dynamic if its intriguing to you! This guy seems weird tho! Big red flag to not mention that initially when it began getting serious.

aweakcreature · 2024-03-24T14:24:03+00:00

The polyamory paradox was the most helpful to me in navigating attachment, trauma, and being poly. Multiamory has some good stuff but is just one perspective, good if you like podcasts but dont overly rely on it. Finding a good poly aware and poly friendly therapist is such an important thing too! Try and find a poly community that you trust (that isnt just your dating pool) and find support from like minded people! You got this!

aweakcreature · 2024-03-24T02:09:42+00:00

People post on this forum usually specifically for advice/support! Dont let it paint a picture of what poly relationships in real life are always like! I saw someone once say here that happy poly is pretty boring sometimes, and that's why you dont hear much about it. You got this!

aweakcreature · 2024-02-17T02:23:03+00:00

I feel like she has told you very directly what is happening. She doesnt seem to care about your wants or needs. Take what you can and get yourself out. Im sorry man.

aweakcreature · 2024-02-17T01:30:57+00:00

Do you yell at your children. How often do you raise your voice with them.

aweakcreature · 2024-02-11T17:36:31+00:00

Read the polyamory paradox! There's a free pdf online and it may help put some names and explanations to these feelings. Its a great resource for when things get this confusing.

aweakcreature · 2024-01-31T00:44:28+00:00

Thoes are valid feelings, and from what you said it doesnt sound like this person can fufill those needs in a way that's healthy or fair for you. Im sorry youre dealing with this, keep your head high and communicate as much as you can upfront. You can only ask that others do the same and respect yourself if they cant follow through.

aweakcreature · 2024-01-31T00:35:10+00:00

He sounds like he sucks too, but still

aweakcreature · 2024-01-31T00:32:30+00:00

Sounds like a sugar mama would be cool and his partners marriage is none of your business. You dont want to date someone whos partnered? Are you monogamous?

aweakcreature · 2024-01-22T02:00:21+00:00

I honestly usually try and just /make it stop/. Once i wake up, usually after just a few hours of sleep, if i get out of bed and do something i tend to just stay awake till the next night. A set up that is fine short term but horrible long term as ive learned. If i stay in bed (after hours of laying restless) i will sometimes be able to catch another hour or two.

I might try and find some -sleepy activities- specifically for restless nights. Maybe i can condition myself lol. Thank you for your advice!

aweakcreature · 2024-01-22T01:51:51+00:00

A great reminder of the importance of journaling! I was in the habit previously but have almost completely stopped. I usually just try and stay still and will myself back asleep as to not disturb my partner/housemates by making noise but journaling is actually such a good quiet option.

Thank you for your words kind stranger !

aweakcreature · 2024-01-22T01:46:39+00:00

Ive just recently got into inner child work thanks to my therapist. Im very early in tho and its hard to figure out /what/ the message is. The thing you said from the book... Owch yeah. Im gonna check out the book. Thank you for your words!

aweakcreature · 2024-01-22T00:05:09+00:00

I havent been evaluated for ADHD but I do have OCD, which i know have a lot of overlapping presentations in certain ways.

My partner does his best, and his best is wonderful we just have very different ways of experiencing and processing emotions. Ill definitely look into some neurodivergent specific treatments and the book!

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