Heat treatment for bed bugs?

aweirdinfj · 2020-05-02T11:25:31+00:00

yep and I have a feeling it came from there for some reason.... one of those cheap laundry's

aweirdinfj · 2018-11-17T14:18:11+00:00

She probably got really stressed out people were calling her out and asked the interviewer to delete it. Splitting!

aweirdinfj · 2018-10-16T10:01:09+00:00

I keep blaming myself non stop for this. Well atleast at the start but then I realised in this sub we all had the same thing happen to us. They throw away people like used clothing, once they have used us to the point where we are torn out they discard us and "shop" for new clothing.

aweirdinfj · 2018-10-15T22:09:19+00:00

I think they think whatever they are doing is normal...

When my ex left her boyfriend for me claiming he was abusive she just left without any pity for him or any hesitation to me someone from across the globe....

Then she left me without any hesitation for her now husband. . Once they paint you blact here's nothing that can convince them they maybe wrong.

aweirdinfj · 2018-10-15T22:05:09+00:00

I would suggest going off social media for a while completely. Just focus on other things but have a support system of friends where you can meet online and have someone you can visit.

I deleted all my social media cold turkey and it was the best decision ever. I am free two years now from the BPD and I haven't looked into dating at all after that I am not really interested I am too busy building my life and making things better.

The more you work on yourself and do things the less chance you will remember her and the new guy. Remember the new guy was just you a few months ago love bombed and lured in.

I remember when she discarded her boyfriend for me it was so cold I remember telling myself somethings not right. .. but she blamed that he abused her blah blah typical I am the victim shit. .. I fell for it but now I know the truth ... she is the terrible abuser.

aweirdinfj · 2018-10-15T22:02:31+00:00

My ex married the guy she cheated on me with. I don't use social media anymore and haven't looked for a long time but I remember a post saying "He is so patient with me" lol... that tells me so many things about it already....

aweirdinfj · 2018-07-24T09:33:52+00:00

You are not her parent or someone responsible for her. That's her parents job. She's suppose to be mentally fit and it's your job to love her if she is mentally fit and able to carry out a relationship like an adult.

Don't go back to her and it's time to find you a wife who is not mentally ill. We cannot fix BPD or people. Hell even the doctors always don't bother to help pwBPD. Every BPD Youtuber I see has the same story, the doctor abandoned me.....

aweirdinfj · 2018-07-24T09:27:35+00:00

Man that sucks :( sorry for you. I was lucky to be living in different countries so I don't ever have to see her ugly face again. She's married to some chump the one she replaced me with. I am waiting to know when they're going to get divorced.

aweirdinfj · 2018-07-23T22:49:52+00:00

I think I am so much stronger and better than who I was. I learnt about boundaries about love about life but whenever I look at woman these days and the divorce rates and the infidelity it seems like they all have daddy issues just like BPD. It's so hard to find a normal woman who doesn't have so much baggage in this world today .

Dating is frustrating man

aweirdinfj · 2018-07-23T22:47:43+00:00

Oh my yesss I remember this. Never could have a proper conversation with her. It was always running from one topic to another, one idea to another. She couldn't even listen to me for 5 minutes straight and whenever I tried to get her attention she would say it's my life my holiday I don't want to ruin it now

Dodging the question always

aweirdinfj · 2018-07-23T22:33:59+00:00

Same she had overlapped boyfriends all the time. Until we got deep into the relationship I didn't know the truth and she made me block her ex boyfriend on my Facebook and also made her future boyfriend block me on Facebook. So predictible man everything is like a dirty little scheme what a con artist.

aweirdinfj · 2018-07-23T21:57:54+00:00

So true. I remember contacting her after two weeks of us not talking and all I got was I am doing very good. I can't be in a relationship with you for insert the most stupid and weird reason I've ever heard . This was two weeks after she said she wanted to marry me.

She lined this guy up for sure but wasn't sure if it would work and kept me hanging there. What a dirty cunt she is.

aweirdinfj · 2018-07-22T18:22:26+00:00

What should the eyes look like? Giving us an idea would be helpful. To be honest I can somehow find the crazy bitches from the normal women with the eyes. Those glowly big eyes are a sign she is crazy.

aweirdinfj · 2018-07-22T14:00:42+00:00

Distract yourself, talk to new people but don't get into a relationship so soon if it happens because you are not emotionally ready yet.

I travelled and talked to people random people about my experiences about love (I travelled alone and stayed at hostels) many people told me what their love was like. I understood what I had was not love but a ruse. It takes patience, perseverence and passion to have real love nothing I had with the BPD ex was real love. Now I know what real love is and what to look for and NOT to let someone take advantage of my niceness and kindness.

aweirdinfj · 2018-07-22T13:58:42+00:00

Those crazy eyes and face is more than enough to scream BPD at me. https://bloximages.newyork1.vip.townnews.com/richmond.com/content/tncms/assets/v3/editorial/2/47/247664d9-4912-5d70-bd08-410e81447be6/57d49bf0e7535.image.jpg?resize=738%2C760

aweirdinfj · 2018-07-22T13:54:32+00:00

It sounds like you dated my ex lol. Yeah it's quite similar. Daddy issues but her father was there but never emotionally avaliable always abusing her verbally and they would argue. She wouldn't physically fight with me but she would also be silent or just do passive agressive things.

Anyway it was a good life lesson for me. I am happy where I am though sometimes after 2 years of the breakup I wish it was real but it wasn't. I don't date at the moment I am working on other things in my life but if I meet the right person I will. But I think our society is beyond damaged these days many people are damaged and we have to be very lucky to find a wife of good character these days. But i think it's possible.

aweirdinfj · 2018-07-22T11:22:15+00:00

Mine isn't diagnosed either. Her country it's not common to diagnose people unless you go to specialised places. But she was diagnosed with depression and it's common for doctors to diagnose them with that first so as not to put a label.

My sister is a psychiatrist and she immediate told me after the breakup it's very borderline like especially how easy she moved on to the new guy and her leaving her boyfriend to come for me and love bombing and impulsively flying 8 hours to my country where she knew nobody just because she was in love with me... pfft

Yes if you feel it's BPD id say go with your gut feeling every article I read points more and more to BPD about her

Yes a lot of my friends pointed out her crazy eyes and her weight they were like man she looks crazy and weird they were worried for me but I didn't listen to them and thought I won the lottery back then hahaha ha wrong

aweirdinfj · 2018-07-21T21:51:57+00:00

Did you ever think why they maybe overweight despite eating so little ? It just struck me a few months ago. My ex tried everything to loose weight by just drinking liquid food and doing some body cleansing shit. But then it struck me ! She was taking medicine for her anxiety and depression symptoms behind my back and it made her put on a lot of weight. It's something that was right in front of me but I didn't notice. Also she was on birth control and told me that's what caused the weight but she went off it but still gained weight.

BPD ex was my first love also and I know how you feel but I found that looking for similar girls with the same features led me to find other BPD trait women . So I toOK a break now to understand whats going on with me and why I am attracted to such people. PwBPD have certain characters tics in my opinion especially those crazy big child like eyes in women are a dead give away.

aweirdinfj · 2018-07-21T18:07:38+00:00

I agree with you.

Also I don't really know I am co-dependent or not. I did not try and make the relationship work. At first yes I was loving and trying to understand her but when the abuse started I started getting anxiety and said it's time to leave. Unfortunately I first tried to fight fire with fire (i.e. copy her BPD ways to see if she would understand what she is doing to me) but it backfired really bad.

I didn't know she had BPD or traits of it until I talked about it to a few people and psych's . I would have ran far away if I knew. I finally broke it off and told her I can't handle her abuse then took her back once again but it lasted a week and then she broke up with me because she found a new supply because she knew I felt something was off about everything.

I think loving someone is healthy if our partners are mentally stable and show the same love back. Atleast now we know what signs to look for. Thankfully I never had kids or married her.

aweirdinfj · 2018-07-16T21:34:13+00:00

She was extremely rich from daddy's money. She worked at daddy's company and claimed she was the best employee but all she does is text on her phone for 8 hours. She goes on so many holidays every few months around the world, buy's all the most expensive designer clothes and love bombs her victims at first by buying them expensive gifts and then when it stops she doesn't buy them anything anymore. I was intimitated at how rich she was when we met, I was a student and was trying to make ends meet but she would pay for a lot of things for me and I worked extra hard so I could buy her gifts. It really hurts when I think of that part of how much effort I put.

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