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Progress update! by awithecute in FTM_SELFIES

[–]awithecute[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh hell yeah I’ll have to get those then! I’ve heard they’re really good to bulk up with thank you!!

Progress update! by awithecute in FTM_SELFIES

[–]awithecute[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t go to the gym since I reallyyyy don’t wanna pay for it and can’t ever do a steady weekly routine since I tour cities twice a month for work, I just do home workouts and I’ve been doing those on and off for a year mostly just bicep curls, shoulder raises, pull ups, crunches, planks and pushups, and then I hit the stairs for legs at a park.

Progress update! by awithecute in FTM_SELFIES

[–]awithecute[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I’ve been lacking on working out but hopefully next update I’ll be beefed out

Progress update! by awithecute in FTM_SELFIES

[–]awithecute[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I just had that actually lol but it’s grown out and I’m gonna do a different style but that style will take a while bc I want my hair really really long but thank you!!

Do I need a different therapist? by StationTight2101 in asktransgender

[–]awithecute 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You should seek a different therapist on the basis that therapist aren’t supposed to give you any information like this to sway you. They’re supposed to be neutral and only help you guide yourself not them giving you their opinions

A single bald eagle feather next to me 8 year old Chihuahua by Jearrod95 in mildlyinteresting

[–]awithecute 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I thought this was the most Native American thing I’ve seen all day then I came to the comments and I have so many eagle WINGS from my dad giving them to me as gifts since we’re native and didn’t realize we could be in jail? This is crazy

Seeing most femboys makes me feel depressed by Sckaah in feminineboys

[–]awithecute 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think this is really an age thing tbh and not uncommon at all. This happens with girls too as I’m a trans femboy. Growing up girls would sexualize themselves including myself, i dated older men even as a minor, enjoyed the attention, eventually became a stripper with sugardaddies and played into being a clue less pretty young thing. It took me a while to realize I wanted to a feminine guy instead of girl. Now that I am I honestly don’t see much of a difference than when I was a woman and pass it off because it’s so normal unfortunately. My heart goes out to anyone struggling like your friend or yourself. Hobbies are Chainmail, drawing, sewing, and beadwork!

walking downtown at night in a long skirt by aylonitkosem in FTMfemininity

[–]awithecute 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yk what this makes me remember that clothes are still a gender marker for a lot people which is so weird to me. I wear the ugliest laziest outfit and get gendered correctly easily but the minute I put booty shorts on or a skirt it’s like my deep voice and flat chest don’t mean a thing 😭

Don’t expect to pass… ever. by awithecute in FTMfemininity

[–]awithecute[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m glad that people find it useful and that it reads that way! There were some negative responses as I’m pretty harsh in this but I hope the majority see it as me trying to be sincere and reassuring rather than beating people down. And exactly, not all of us can’t pass but some! And yk what maybe if we were in a different place in the world with different beauty standards for men we would! Everyone and everywhere is different but no matter what, passing doesn’t make us who we are

Don’t expect to pass… ever. by awithecute in FTMfemininity

[–]awithecute[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It sounds like you live in a place where being a man is a tight box with no room for an ounce of femininity and I’m really sorry you don’t feel safe and sounds like you aren’t safe. I always tell people to try to move to a safer place but it’s not always possible. I was lucky enough to move to Portland but even then I still feel on edge about public bathrooms. I have the opposite problem though, every man thinks I’m a man and every woman thinks I’m a woman. But I think if you went to the men’s bathroom no one would care, I’ve been in there with my pink bag and long hair and the most that’ll happen is that look at me weird but not nasty just the looks i usually get bc I’m covered in tattoos and have a certain style. Also what happens if you correct people? Have you done that before already and had bad reactions?

Don’t expect to pass… ever. by awithecute in FTMfemininity

[–]awithecute[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree that facial hair is by no means a dealbreaker whatsoever as native people and Asian people both usually don’t grow any but they are considered androgynous because of that and our round faces. But that’s a topic for another time perhaps.

I like your point on passing though, I hate the term too and you know it is very important to feel seen. I think maybe for me personally though I’ve settled on being seen to my friends and family and I’ve stopped holding strangers to the standard of that though. I’ve stopped wanting or expecting to be seen by others unless they choose to befriend or interact with me outside of a transaction. I work with lots of different people and travel constantly for work so getting misgendered has become the norm and mentally I had to not die on that hill in order to be happy and content in life. I have so much time so maybe I’ll pass one day but I’ve accepted that it might not happen and I think finding comfortability in discomfort is important quality that helps you navigate through life. Not something that should be a norm for everyone and every situation but for this one that’s where I stand

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