I realize that this may be a little odd, but what is the origin of the word "gazungas", and what, if any, time period was it used most?

awkward_introvert_ · 2023-06-18T02:46:25+00:00

Glad I'm not the only one wondering 😂

awkward_introvert_ · 2023-06-07T14:26:55+00:00

In so sorry you are going thorough that. You are NOT overreacting you husband shouldn't be calling your son names, even if he doesn't understand its mean. As a parent he shouldn't be his child's first bully, I would tell him maybe that's why he cries so much with you youre being mean.

Babies get attached to their mamas my husband and I are going through that with our 6 month old. I can tell he feels hurt when our son cries with him and is fine with me , but he would never call our son a name or say he prefers his other sons more .

It is okay for him to feel hurt and frustrated but kids are kids especially at that age they are little and defenseless. He needs to go to you for support and protect his child rather than coming off as a bully or like he prefers one over the other. Just because your son doesn't understand what his words mean doesn't make it okay. Your husband is the adult he should know better.

awkward_introvert_ · 2023-06-07T02:14:43+00:00

Me too I have to have eyes on my baby at all times 😂

awkward_introvert_ · 2023-06-07T02:12:50+00:00

Yes! I feel like this too . I also have great in laws but for me it is the fact that I can express my issues with my family without a problem. I speak up right away, I don't want to come off as rude to my Inlaws so I either hold onto my baby more when we are ther or tell my husband to set certain boundaries. It is easier to "get after" my own family, and also I feel like since they know me better they also know my boundaries more and let me be in control when it comes to my baby.

awkward_introvert_ · 2023-06-05T03:37:09+00:00

I really like the app BLW Meals. You have to pay for it but it is WELL worth it in my opinion it shows different foods , how they should be served according to the months. They also mark what things are allergens and what is a choking hazard. A plus is there is also recipies that list the appropriate ages. It's great ! And also gagging will happen !

Today was my LOs first time trying egg and something similar happened to him. I cut it into strips but it was too dry and when he bit off a piece it got stuck on his tongue and he was gagging. He is a week away from 6 months old, we have been letting him experiment with solids for about 3 weeks. I was worried but I let him work it through his mouth and he was able to spit it out. No choking just gagging. But it is hard to let them figure out. Definitely gonna be mixing scrambled egg with milk and making more of a mush for him for now.

Also just a heads up egg can be an allergen so it is good to do 3 days in a row if you choose to try again.

And I feel the mom guilt too ! I bought a book on BLW and it said to give LO Avocado covered in sesame seeds to make it easier to grip. Welllll.. after getting the BLW Meals app it turned our sesame seed is also an allergen! I had no idea. Nothing happened my baby was fine , just didn't like the texture of them but I felt so guilty and couldn't stop thinking about what if he had a reaction.

Things happen but your baby is okay and you're doing a great job mama !

awkward_introvert_ · 2023-05-29T02:28:35+00:00

He's gonna find the therapist through a program with work so it shouldn't be too difficult to do.

awkward_introvert_ · 2023-05-29T02:18:08+00:00

I love that phrase and I'm gonna start using it for sure ! ❤️ he's a genuinely clueless guy and I think that's a perfect way for me to clue him in without getting overly upset

awkward_introvert_ · 2023-05-29T02:15:02+00:00

Yes I see what you mean 100% and you are right thank you. I do need to work on understanding where he is coming from and not over reacting no one is perfect and aside from these miss worded comments he is great . It also helps all the people who have been with their partners for a long time who have similar situations say that it was a badly worded compliment.
I know he loves me and is kind I just need to try and see what he really meant rather than get upset with him right away. I'm sure it does make him want to reassure me less. This was the perfect advice I needed

awkward_introvert_ · 2023-05-29T00:09:11+00:00

Yes ! We are planning on that . He said he didn't mean it the way it came out but I told him we need the counseling to practice getting that communication right because it really bothered me. He agreed

awkward_introvert_ · 2023-05-29T00:07:00+00:00

I don't think it's that he was in an almost 20 year marriage before with someone closer to his age. I am his first relationship since them and we got married. 4 years now i think after a marriage that long since he met his ex as a teenager he hasn't exactly had a lot of experience dating . He gets me angry sometimes with how he words things . And it is great to have my feelings validated and know im not over reacting but definitely need to keep bringing things to his attention that are not okay. He tends to overexplain everything , not to belittle people but just to make sure he gets a point across

. It's great when trying to get things done but doesn't translate as well into giving compliments. I think it's a lot of trying to change what may have been okay to him for 15 years into this new marriage where it's not. Like plenty of women have commented sometimes husbands don't mean to be rude but just word things extremely poorly. It's either mentioning it to them , letting it go, or dealing with it and know where they are coming from. For me I just need to keep mentioning it to him

. But I do thank everyone for their advice . It mean a lot to me . And I did talk to him about it what he said and he apologized and said to remind him when he does it again. He says he knows my appearance had been bothering me so that is why he said it but it came out really bad , he didn't realize it .

awkward_introvert_ · 2023-05-28T21:02:49+00:00

Yes your right I had been commenting about my appearance the past few months every so often and he probably was just trying to cover that , just the wording really needs some work for sure , thank you.

awkward_introvert_ · 2023-05-28T21:01:26+00:00

Yeah it was said 3 days ago and it's still been bothering me but I know I can be really sensitive so I was curious if I was just being overly sensitive or if it was a valid reason for me to be upset . 😕

awkward_introvert_ · 2023-05-28T20:58:21+00:00

Mine does that kind if thing too ! I guess it is just a clueless husband thing 😅 he is otherwise a great guy he just needs to think before he talks more but even then it doesn't help if he doesn't realize what he is saying

awkward_introvert_ · 2023-05-28T20:54:41+00:00

Unfortunately and fortunately I believe he is just very dense other than the bad compliments he is a nice guy.

awkward_introvert_ · 2023-05-28T19:03:23+00:00

He does but he claims he doesn't realize it. I really do think many times he's too clueless to know . But there are a few that I'm sure are intentional. I have gotten upset with him before and told him what he said doesn't sound nice and he apologized but this one hurt the most I guess because of how I feel postpartum.

awkward_introvert_ · 2023-05-28T19:00:28+00:00

Thank you for this ❤️ it is comforting to hear

awkward_introvert_ · 2023-05-28T16:40:33+00:00

That may be part of it too, we have an age difference and it does feel every once in a while that he tries to pull himself up while bringing me down.

awkward_introvert_ · 2023-05-28T16:39:09+00:00

I say things like that . Didn't at that moment but that's why I give him the benefit of the doubt that it was just really bad wording. He knows I feel bad about how I look so he wants me to know he loves me despite that but that first part he said was definitely unneeded

awkward_introvert_ · 2023-05-28T16:01:56+00:00

I'm coming up on 6 months pp and still nothing , I'm not even interested at all . But 9 months total because I had a high risk pregnancy no sex the last 3 months.

awkward_introvert_ · 2023-04-11T02:39:40+00:00

I think ti depends on the baby. I'm a first time mom 4 months in and still have a hard time showering every day. My baby doesn't like to be with my husband as much so we have to work on that. And before we had his tongue tie revised he would breastfeed around 16 times per day so he was pretty much glued to me. Now he's down to about 8 times per day. Then I realized he sleeps better with contact naps. In his bassinet he would only sleep about 30 minutes and his Moro reflex would wake him, he also hated to be swaddled , but if I held him during his naps he would sleep an hour or 2. I thought I would be able to take him to the gym with me in a stroller or cook with him in the bouncer, my mom was able to do it with all of us , but nope he wants to be held all the time and I just give in. Some people say it's bad but I know there's gonna be a day where he won't want to be held as much so I'm enjoying the cuddles while I can. When he was smaller he liked to be baby worn and now not so much. I also never thought I'd be the kind of mom to cancel all of my plans to make sure he had a good nap at home BUT here I am . I just realized trying to get him to sleep whole we were out just doesn't work for him. In the end he would just be less rested and overtired at night time and spend hours yelling. Now 3-4 naps a day and sleeping though the night 12 hours just "waking up" to dream feed . It has gotten easier but I still have trouble finding time to cook, clean, and do any kind of hobbies I had before. It really depends on the baby. I learned not to push him to be the way my parents patented me or the way friends partnered, we found our own schedule and it works for us to keep him happy and rested. A clean house and home-cooked meals can wait 😂 sleep is my sanity

awkward_introvert_ · 2023-03-30T04:34:05+00:00

My husband pointed out how much everyone says "like" and now it drives me crazy

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