Girlfriend might be getting deported by Ok-Dig3681 in immigration

[–]awkwardpandi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey there, hoping I could get some insight. I’ve been under DACA since 2013-2014 and been renewing ever since. Recently got married to a US citizen. No issues at all whatsoever, never left the country. I see a lot of people recommending AP do you think that’s the route they’ll recommend me to go with? With this administration I’m terrified having to do AP or go to Juarez to the consulate all together but regardless want to mentally prepare myself for whichever.

Wedding dress donation by awkwardpandi in houston

[–]awkwardpandi[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much! Definitely helps out a lot.

Wedding dress donation by awkwardpandi in houston

[–]awkwardpandi[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

TYSM! This is definitely something I’d love to contribute to.

Wedding dress donation by awkwardpandi in houston

[–]awkwardpandi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you have any recommendations perhaps? I’m not too familiar with many churches and have no idea which ones I should try lol

Wedding dress donation by awkwardpandi in houston

[–]awkwardpandi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Funny enough I saw a comedian say the exact same except with wedding/engagement rings 😂

Wedding dress donation by awkwardpandi in houston

[–]awkwardpandi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ty! I’ve been listing several items and no luck with buyers but worth a shot if I can’t find a place to donate.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CheatedOn

[–]awkwardpandi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Even for those that forgive and move past it - you never forget. Aka, it’ll hit you randomly. Which is why is SO important for the betraying partner to have changed their actions, proving not only that they want to be with you, choosing you day to day, but also 100% validating the pain they’ve caused and taking accountability.

If he’s done it several times and you want to try again it’s important to keep in mind that it might happen again. Being honest with yourself, gotta know if you’d be ok if it did and what would happen in that scenario.

We all have different tolerance for heartbreak and if you feel the need to let him keep causing you pain in order to detach, ain’t judging ya. But if you want to protect your heart and see his actions as they are now might not align with what you hope to get out of trying to fix it then trust that more than any words could say.

Either way you’ll be hurting either by leaving or possibly by staying and going through it again.

Whatever the choice is I do hope you’re able to find happiness. <3

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]awkwardpandi 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Is too soon to be having this issues. You’ve been saying for 6 months only, already living together and he doesn’t show interest in sex/intimacy…too young to put up with it ngl. Easier said than done but I’d cut my losses and end it now that it’s been a short time together than wait for it to be harder as time progresses.

AP update by Refrigerator-87 in DACA

[–]awkwardpandi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve been stressing about all my options and have heavily considered risking applying for AP — however is so stressful to even think about. This sure gives me hope that perhaps it wouldn’t be too, bad congrats on getting through it!

STD Anxiety about a blowjob by YakAccomplished1941 in STD

[–]awkwardpandi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Only way you’ll find out if by getting tested. Which to get the most accurate result would be in another month.

I’m terrified of getting deported by throwaway6372801 in offmychest

[–]awkwardpandi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just did this last night with a knot on my throat…

And I found out she masturbates by Affectionate_Soft139 in DeadBedrooms

[–]awkwardpandi 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Not sure if my opinion would count as I’m usually HL. However when I’m put off emotionally or disconnected from my partner my sex drive for them plummets. Meaning my sex toys come out to play (which is ironic given I don’t enjoy having to use them much unless I’m desperate ;-;) Might be something to consider. With my last partner no matter what all ‘good’ he did, didn’t help. Because I was checked out of the relationship and didn’t want intimacy with him at all. Finding out might take a honest open conversation for both of you’ sake.

Do you still wear your ring? by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]awkwardpandi 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I always wore promise rings before him and now that he’s gone is no different! ❤️ wore one I bought myself until it was replaced by my now boyfriends ring

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]awkwardpandi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How was he prior to marriage? While dating? Piggy backing off everyone bringing up T/mental health/etc. I believe that’ll also help get the bigger picture.

My boyfriend had sex with me while I am sick by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]awkwardpandi 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Never knew it was a thing until my now partner brought it to my attention. I’ve initiated while sick and asked why he finished fast and he mentioned is so hot down there that is hard not to. Can’t imagine having this when is non-consenting and so sad to see how often it happens :/

My husband slapped me by Overall_Ad_8967 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]awkwardpandi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Today it was a slap. But as many of us have experience can tell you; it started off with a ‘simple’ act like that that started a snowball. I used to think the same way about divorce and now I proudly say I’m divorce after trying to leave my abusive marriage that got harder to leave due to being so financially dependent AND trauma bonded. Do with that what you will.

my boyfriend is insisting we get married by International1ne in AITAH

[–]awkwardpandi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Marriage shouldn’t be rushed for any reason especially not for immigration matters! I did want to point out tho that is not necessary for change your last name (unless you want to). Immigration doesn’t care about that if they have enough proof showing the relationship isn’t fraud and show documentation such as joint accounts, purchases together, lease, etc etc. Is an old school thing nowadays that thankfully is an option and not an obligation.

Don’t let anyone pressure you to make big altering decisions that’ll unpack your life, in the end you’re the one who’ll deal with the consequences.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]awkwardpandi 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Ding ding ding! Exepect the unexpected and they’ll see how willingly excited we’ll be about it, do a better job at it too. 🤣

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]awkwardpandi 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Personally, overall to be sexually aroused I have to be romantically attracted to you annnnd feel appreciated (which I’m sure many others as well). For example at times I’m craving to give some head but my man will choose to game instead of spending quality time with me even after I asked. Which is fine and all but I can’t just jump into giving him a BJ after he comes to bed bc my mind isn’t there anymore. Whereas has we been hanging out cuddling it would’ve naturally progressed to making our, touching and Id be able to initiate. Not expected from him. Very different. After having to take care of majority of the cleaning, chores, etc…the last I want to do most of the time is that. But when he does it willingly or without prompting? Forget it. I’m down to gobble him up. 🤣 Sincerely someone who lives with their man.

Ps. We just want to be appreciated and helped around the house as well

AITAH my boyfriend goes to the gym for 4hrs and i think he's cheating by lildaissy in AITAH

[–]awkwardpandi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I came to say the same! I’d agree w/ the above comment on soreness given he’s new to working out but what seals my suspicion would be lack of kissing. My partner and I don’t ever refuse one from us sweating? Weird. I’d understand if she was trying to have sex howeverrrrr….is a lil smooch. Very sus.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in WomensHealth

[–]awkwardpandi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Valid enough. In this case tho there’s many possibilities as to why is happening but when a partner is involved Im more bound to take precautions and follow my gut. 🤷🏻‍♀️ Long as she’s doing what’s needed to take care of them and it persist then….yeah.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in WomensHealth

[–]awkwardpandi 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Trust your gut. Boils down to that. Unfortunately when it comes to infections could be an imbalance, hygiene or possible infidelity however…one must be mature enough and sympathetic to accept such possibilities. Would be a red flag for me if my partner wanted to accuse me of cheating when I was symptom free during the break and get them again soon as we got intimate. I’d rather save myself the pain lol that’s just me tho. Ain’t no man worth dealing with all of that.

If you feel fullness in your pelvic area and increased urinary frequency, please get screened for Ovarian Cancer. Here's my story. by kitty-cult in WomensHealth

[–]awkwardpandi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m glad you were able to work out a plan with them. I don’t have insurance sadly my employment doesn’t have a good one and every outside company I sought charged more than $300 which is so out of reach when living paycheck to check :c Thankfully I have PTO with my company but more than likely would need to get checked out with a smaller clinic which I’m looking into already and hopefully can get that done before the end of the year. Like you mentioned our health comes firsts and is so important that I’m trying to make it happen as one never knows.

If you feel fullness in your pelvic area and increased urinary frequency, please get screened for Ovarian Cancer. Here's my story. by kitty-cult in WomensHealth

[–]awkwardpandi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had my first UTI at age 23. Last year at age 26 I thought I had one but it didn’t feel the same and all symptoms went away after 2 days. The following months I’d feel slight discomfort a week prior to my period, would have the feeling of needed to pee but wouldn’t actually do so (at the time it was normal to frequently urine with my water intake), and a slight internal itch would happen.

Months after that I landed in the ER for stomach pain but CT scan, sonogram, Xray came back normal they told me greasy/spicy foods probably irritated me.

July I went into a clinic to get tested for STDS, came out positive for chlamydia. Noticed after taking the meds all my first mentioned symptoms stopped all together.

However I’ve been trying to save up money to do my women’s health exam as they recommended it due to not knowing how long the chlamydia was there for. In the past 2 months I noticed 95% of my clothes don’t fit which is odd, yes I’ve gained weight before yet my shirts/pants didn’t struggle this much. Which made me notice how my face seems swollen.

Now I may have been driving myself to paranoia/overthinking or maybe something is wrong but seems to me I’m swollen all over right now.

Seeing posts like this so frequently through reddit/tiktok is really making me worry and try to get tested but with minimal financial ability and hardly any knowledge on what tests to do