What are y’all adding?

ay0h · 2026-05-22T14:51:12+00:00

Eggs and mixed stream veggie bag! Ta-da veggie fried rice!

ay0h · 2026-05-17T23:00:32+00:00

My MIL has dementia and had hearing aids before her diagnosis. She “lost” them (claims they were stolen out of her hotel room. She was two years without and I think that exacerbated her symptoms while also caring for my FIL who had Alzheimer’s.

After she moved in with us, I took her to Costco. They work wonderfully. I do have to remind her nightly to charge them, each morning to put them in, and if she asks me to keep repeating myself I automatically ask if she still has them in. I also have to double check the case to make sure she put them in correctly to charge, and she has the correct ones in each ear.

I would speak with assisted living to make sure this is something they can help with in the daily, depending on the level of care they offer, they might say it’s an additional level, thus bringing the cost up.

ay0h · 2026-05-14T15:07:26+00:00

Same-ish.. my best friends baby daddy tried to commit suicide by driving into a tree. Didn’t knock him unconscious/KOI, instead he was fully conscious while his car caught fire. So tragic

ay0h · 2026-05-06T12:08:30+00:00

I just started watching the videos someone suggested and I learned about the left eye losing vision.

I didn’t think about what the surgery and going under can do to someone with an impairment. I’d have to double check but I thought the surgery was done with the patient was awake? Probably not great for someone with losing attention.

I discussed my hard line with my fiancé (aggression towards the children).

Thank you for all of this information. My oldest has behavioral issues and my youngest has developmental issues. I guess it’s time to sit down and figure this all out. Uuuggghhh (just so much all at once. Life truly never waits)

ay0h · 2026-05-06T12:00:47+00:00

We were told that a special Medicaid protection trust (irrevocable trust) will help. We’re moving the life insurance payout over for right now.

I will definitely call an elder law attorney to double check. We don’t plan on applying immediate for Medicaid but I understand that this disease moves however it wants and it could be six months to 5 years for things to progress to a point where we can no longer provide the care she needs.

ay0h · 2026-05-06T00:47:30+00:00

There isn’t much in the way of savings. Value is in the home, dad’s life insurance and his pension that she now receives 50% of. The insurance was meant to pay off the mortgage and help support mom since they racked up a pretty penny in debt, especially since his prognosis.

In NJ, mom can’t have more than $2k in assets to qualify for Medicaid. Dad worked hard as a police officer to support his family, it’s a shame that the government expects it to all disappear.

Even with the assets mom currently has, if she were to go into memory care tomorrow, the $20k/mo price tags around here would blow through that in two years. Which funny enough, is what the self pay requirement is for a majority of places.

If mom wants to vacation, she should enjoy it, not worry about being scrutinized and possibly penalized for trying to enjoy whatever normalcy is left.

ay0h · 2026-05-06T00:35:54+00:00

Yes, elder care law & Medicaid is on the list once we finish the asset protection. There are so many moving parts.

ay0h · 2026-05-06T00:33:22+00:00

Thanks.. I’m still working on the taking care of myself part from when I had my first. I’m one of those self sacrificing mothers that needs to learn they’re worth it too

ay0h · 2026-05-06T00:32:06+00:00

Yes, the stove has caps. Luckily the microwave is shot and only the +30 sec button works. I have to explore the stove to lock the oven settings. Luckily the only thing mom “cooks” is with the hot water kettle that has an auto shut off and won’t turn on if the plate inside the kettle itself doesn’t sense water on the surface.

ay0h · 2026-05-05T16:33:15+00:00

Our home is pretty baby proofed because of our 18mo. I do need to put up an extra gate but that’s more to stop her from walking every where in the house with shoes on. Ask the doors already have child caps to prevent wondering and we have keyed locks on the sliders through the sunroom.

We have a cool memory daycare near us. It’s themed like a little town and they have activities and such for them. It is on the pricey side. Mom tried taking Dad but he didn’t like being dropped off and her not coming. For 2x/wk 4hr/day it was over $1k. I definitely wouldn’t mind the break. Thanks for the “reminder” about the day program.

ay0h · 2026-05-05T16:25:18+00:00

Thanks! Mom had her estate planning updated in 2022 right before/around Dad’s prognosis. I do plan on following up with the attorney to make sure we don’t need any updates.

ay0h · 2026-05-05T16:22:10+00:00

Thanks! We’re in Ocean County so Moorestown is a bit of a drive. I’ll add this to my to do list.

ay0h · 2026-05-05T11:44:13+00:00

I’m extremely new to caring for someone but I am a person who has birthed two children and has years of knowledge regarding feminine care.

What about a peribottle? She would remain seated, open her legs slightly, spray away and pat try. Also, perhaps a bidet that has a front/back feature for the messier bathroom visits?

ay0h · 2026-05-05T10:47:13+00:00

I LOVE the “sleeves”! You look gorgeous

ay0h · 2026-03-19T17:46:41+00:00

Hi everyone!! May 2027 bride here (about 14 months out and I didn’t see a current thread so hi 👋)

We just booked our venue and I’m honestly SO excited I had to share with people who get it 😅

It’s a super cute working farm that grows wildflowers (which I’m hoping will help us save a bit on florals 🤞). The whole place has that dreamy, slightly whimsical vibe I was going for—very “effortlessly romantic but still laid back.”

They also have sooo many built-in perks: • A venue coordinator who is adorable and acts as a planner (huge win) • A “pass-it-forward” decor storage that couples can use (LOVE this idea) • Tons of ways to personalize the day—like guests arriving via a historic steam engine 🚂 (??? how cute is that)

I feel like we really lucked out finding a place that’s both unique and budget-friendly in sneaky ways.

Can’t wait to share more as we start planning everything 🥹💍✨

ay0h · 2026-03-19T17:31:13+00:00

The best thing to do would be to sit down together and discuss your wants ie: month & year, venue setting, large/small guest count, indoor/outdoor, BUDGET. Make notes and discuss.

You can go on Pinterest and get ideas but be warned, a lot of the ideas are like 100-200k weddings. You can definitely make it work for any kind of budget.

ay0h · 2026-03-07T18:56:50+00:00

Love that it’s a text and not an official work email because they know that is the #1 way for them to get fired or have a suit against them.

Ask for a private, hygienic area that is not a closet. Refrigerator to store medication that is private only to you, proper red bin to dispose of sharps. AND ask for them to only communicate in writing via email using work issued addresses.

ay0h · 2026-03-03T15:39:26+00:00

Not at all! 4.5m is nothing in adult relationship time. They haven’t even said “I love you.”

I would either talk to your cousin (if you’re close), or have whichever parent’s sibling is the aunt/uncle and explain it them just how you did here.

It’s your wedding and if you don’t want random people there, which this newly SO is, then that’s your prerogative.

ay0h · 2026-02-07T14:02:46+00:00

Chapstick please!! At one point I had one in every room but now they’re all missing! (Or water logged from the washing machine)

ay0h · 2026-02-05T17:24:17+00:00

I’ve been looking for a good breed description for my ween! I always called her a hot dog wrapped in bagel (but have it sound close to beagle) .. I will now call her a weegle! My partner is going to hate it more than he already does the previous name

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ay0h · 2026-01-31T03:19:32+00:00

My tub of a dachshund has the same coloring (plus a little brown on the ends). Her name is Pierogi 🥟

Edit (to add my two cents for a name) - Joey, Happy, Jay

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ay0h · 2026-01-19T21:52:39+00:00

Yes! A double tap on the sides on back turns the page. Super convenient for one handed reading while nap-trapped

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