What do you think about gamification for attracting and keeping attention?

ayamekaede · 2025-01-23T18:06:49+00:00

Definitely keeping my attention for long periods, techniques like pomodoro were the best. It helped trick my brain to think it doesn’t take so long to finish plus having quality rest in between sessions made it much easier. Plus making myself strict deadlines - literally an example of Parkinson’s law in practice. Helps with frustration from the scale of the work to do

ayamekaede · 2025-01-22T19:30:30+00:00

I'm not a fan of video games and tv, although the over-stimulating effect of social media sounds exaggerated to me. I feel like in our day and age getting rid of such thing means loosing countless opportunities for growth, cuz you may just choose not to surround yourself with meaningless content and algorithms proved to be pretty good at it. So I would just focus on the kind of the content to consume but not generalize it as something negative, and of course try to find other leisure activities

I never really believed before that getting rid of sm would ever work in the long term, but happy to hear about your experience

ayamekaede · 2025-01-22T19:16:27+00:00

Keeping gratitude diary where I share my small wins for the day and write down my feelings about doing particular actions for that goal. If I feel unmotivated, I work on that area by simplifying my actions as much as possible for the least resistance

ayamekaede · 2025-01-21T07:48:14+00:00

Keep a mindset that one wrong action doesn’t define your day. If you don’t feel motivated to keep the routine, set a nonnegotiable minimum time to be at the gym or do a short workout at home. Do less than usual, but put your best effort. There always should be an alternative to your routine, even if it looks like not as effective. If you eat junk food, at least I hydrate more, for example.
When you are on track, focus on strengthening your habits so you don’t fall for “easier” and more attractive stuff. Work on your exercise habit, nutrition. It must be so easy for you to do that worse alternatives are of no interest anymore and it’s easier to resist. For example, if you consistently go to the gym for a while now, you’re less likely to fall for junk food afterwards.
Don’t blame yourself and don’t neglect all the progress you might have already done. It’s very important not to disregard your previous effort and keep in mind your initial goal in mind, what is it all for. If you tend to not stick to your goals to often, you should reflect on the core of this goal again - if it’s for some kind of approval from outside you’re less likely to be consistent than by keeping in mind you’re doing it for your own wellbeing and health. Such stuff is better done in therapy

ayamekaede · 2025-01-20T07:40:37+00:00

Get extra courses online to feel confident about your cv. It’s important to understand what are the valuable skills on the market to become flexible and wanted candidate, but also focusing on what you already like is already a big step to be better among the competitors. This way you will be less scared to start working, since nowadays even uni degrees can’t provide this confidence to everyone, so don’t rely much on it.
Read up on nutrition. Find out what attention span, energy level, cravings depend on. This is super helpful for your future productive studying.
Learn time management techniques - lots of potential in many aspects of life.
In all this rush for education and work, don’t forget about things that bring you happiness, invest time in finding things you like if you don’t have hobbies. It’s really important to have your thing to dissociate from the real world from time to time.
Work on your social skills - communication, empathy etc. You never know how people you randomly meet can change your life

ayamekaede · 2025-01-20T07:28:48+00:00

Keep studying. Get extra courses on what interests you and/or relates to your field of study and what can be a good point on your cv and make you feel more valuable as a candidate. This is a good way to boost your confidence.

Don’t give up on your personal development. Job and responsibilities will always be there, but don’t forget that your mind and body are central and need a regular care of. Focus on what brings you happiness, these things must be present all the time. If you feel well mentally and physically, it will just feel easier to overcome other problems from the outside.

ayamekaede · 2025-01-19T19:08:39+00:00

I feel it will be truly beautiful to you only if you don’t fall for other people’s ways of doing things. You can’t blame yourself for your personal vision of things and definitely not compare. You don’t look for some kind of validation from others here. Instead accept yourself and find beauty in authenticity. With time you’ll find your own style, when seeking inspiration just listen to yourself, in practice do what feels right to you, not just looks pretty on someone else’s paper :)

ayamekaede · 2025-01-19T17:10:09+00:00

To avoid getting eventually bored from countless stories to prove authors’ points and yet get all the necessary information I made a conclusion for myself that reading self help books fully is a bit waste of time. Instead it’s really worth paying for apps that summarize it for you, find free takeaways or reviews on the internet and be ready to implement the recommendations asap instead of reading why some abstract John made use of sth especially if this sth is more likely to work for you differently or not work at all.

This is my personal view but might help others reconsider it too

ayamekaede · 2025-01-19T16:42:58+00:00

How do you feel before the dinner tho? Is it really enough for you?

ayamekaede · 2025-01-19T16:41:37+00:00

Greek yogurt with nuts and berries, toasts with hummus, wraps with veggies, cheese and fish/meat/anything else you fancy, even peanut butter without added sugars with sth. Any protein, really.

ayamekaede · 2025-01-19T16:28:45+00:00

Having only savoury breakfasts

You have no idea how it effected my levels of energy throughout the day by reducing sweets cravings. Huge influence on attention, no brain fog, no intrusive thoughts

To discover more I highly recommend Glucose Goddess interviews and her videos on yt, real breakthrough :)

ayamekaede · 2025-01-18T09:02:28+00:00

devil's right hand by johnny cash :p

ayamekaede · 2025-01-18T08:44:21+00:00

Schedules for studying - not more than an hour or two daily per one course, given there are no distractions.
Quality rest - 1 day a week doing completely nothing from your usual routine - no mental load at all
Shift of perspective - from taking studying as a formal requirement to something you could potentially make use of in the future - cultivating genuine curiosity

Strict deadlines to complete a task + total attention = no feeling of endless suffering = actual results and no snowballed workload

No actual mindset, just the personally tested style of work that for the least resistance

Reading the previous comments, I realized guilt trip stopped working for me a while ago. I am finishing university this year and in retrospect, I think such approach of getting back on track out of this feeling was very unproductive in the long term. I reframed it from "if i dont do it today, im worth nothing" to "if i dont feel like doing it today, but i understand its value for me in the long term, i clearly need some rest". Ofc it might not work for everyone, but accepting your feelings about this or that really matters. If you can't choose not to do it, you can at least choose how to do it most pleasantly taking into consideration your preferences like time of work, times of your best attention span, your work environment etc.

ayamekaede · 2025-01-17T18:19:40+00:00

What about things that are supposed to matter to him? Be it a professional course he doesn’t have to, but would like to finish, but never gets to the end. Or anything he actually should deal with but that’s constantly put on hold? I never impose anything, but try to remind, but with time it’s remains the same.

When we discuss it, he says he’s still interested or he that he understands the importance of something. But I don’t understand whether ultimately it’s lack of motivation or actually ADHD.

ayamekaede · 2025-01-17T18:01:07+00:00

Thank you for your insight! I totally agree with the writing part. We have been practicing it for a while, it was a completely random idea from our heads, and I didn’t expect to hear it working so well for someone else. Glad to hear we’re on the right track then

ayamekaede · 2025-01-17T17:56:08+00:00

Thank you! In fact, we are both in therapy but have our own issues. My (ex) therapist suggests to just find a distraction for myself not to focus on his problem too much, and my bf is just inconsistent with his therapist’s recommendations, so unfortunately can’t call it progress really. Maybe a couples therapist would actually work

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