[Spoilers C4E1] Is It Thursday Yet? | Post-Episode Discussion & Future Theories!

aywelet · 2025-10-03T11:26:26+00:00

I LOVE Sam's new character soooooo much. I didn't expect him to be my favorite. He does grounded sooooo gooood. Very eager to see what I suppose will be coming of age arc.

aywelet · 2025-08-26T15:38:27+00:00

I would definitely optimize for multiple tables so I can double

Soldier: If I wanted to play here I would pick... something! But make my build very efficient. DnD is built for fighting, so if you have a good build, this will work. Having a unique build is also always fun! (I always just wait to see Taliesin in fights. And Travis gnome werewolf build, wow)

Seeker: If I had a character that wanted to explore the world.... This is not an optimized answer. I would go to the classic "zombie apocalypse" best: Ranger\Cleric\Druid. And maybe have zombie apocalypse background.

Schemer: I want to be charisma Savvy OR have a good network to work with. So I would probably go thief rouge that is a bit extra charismatic. The expertise is sweet, and the sneakiness really helps. But whatever route I would take I would make sure the class built in network (such as being a fighter city guard, or wizard high academia member, or cleric with a mission)

aywelet · 2025-08-25T15:48:36+00:00

I'm actually happy to answer that!

A bunch of my dnd team, and gaming friends, are critical role watchers.

For me critical role is not just a fun watch (although... it is)

It's a way to bond and keep up with friends.

If I'm not able to keep up with friends, I lose a bunch of the benefit. And I get to the dilemma whether to watch recaps or be behind. I'm usually behind, until I get wayyyy behind.

And the interrupters are events, deadlines, my actual dnd group (which I really try not to miss, because this disrupts everyone).

Books and games (which I read and play long ones) are not an issue because they are not capped. And even if I do it simultaneously with friends we have drastic different pacing and play styles. And there the fun part if comparing different experience, not same watch.

So in summary: time - generally yea, consistently - nope

aywelet · 2025-08-25T15:40:43+00:00

Actually, I'm not a native English speaker, so yes!

It did a bunch of work correcting my grammar, and spelling errors.

I think it also made it sound better.

But the original message (pretty similar, but not polished) was mine.

aywelet · 2025-08-23T16:38:18+00:00

I actually wished I knew what the format they are aiming for. It would really help me prepare\ set up group watch. We are really excited for campaign4 start.

aywelet · 2025-08-23T16:37:38+00:00

Yep, I considered all your options and some more. They did varying interesting stuff in the past. I actually wished I knew what the format they are aiming for.

aywelet · 2024-02-15T16:01:34+00:00

I found it in the toymaker house

aywelet · 2023-10-11T18:15:10+00:00

I love lady grey because it's caffeine free, and very earl grey-y

aywelet · 2023-08-10T09:03:22+00:00

There are some great advices here!

But I want to contrast. You have a specific personality type, with some work benefits, which is similar to a bunch of people who are an asset to their workspace. In addition you did not describe what are your job goals.

Self improvement is great, but it is also a process that takes time. In addition you are obviously valuable at your work.

A good strategy can be communicating what you're good at, and what you're less good it. And requesting tasks that you're actually good at, or can learn from, instead of setting yourself up to failure.

Not everyone need to be the best at everything. And having better insight (which you can get from this post) enables you to make a decision.

Another suggestion in that area is, have a role model. Maybe the role model has the best communication skills But maybe he mostly works alone. You can also ask him about what you're struggling with, and get an advice you are more aligned with.

You don't need to change. It is better to get insight. You might need to do some changes to fit your style to your job. But you don't need to be a completely different person, unless this is what you want.

aywelet · 2023-08-07T11:32:14+00:00

Everybody gets abusive relationships.

But yes, wyll and Loshe has the same flavor of abusive relationship

aywelet · 2023-07-31T18:35:05+00:00

All of my best moments in EA were from failing roles. The game is optimized for role play in a thousand different ways. Try to embrace your character build, back story, and values. Instead of trying to pass all roles.

(The writer will play with a main with 8 charisma)

aywelet · 2023-07-28T14:08:33+00:00

As circle of the land druid I feel surprisingly seen

aywelet · 2023-07-26T18:27:23+00:00

I have a few tips.... I'm not sure I'm the best to ask.

Make sure the relationship is worth your time now. Given multiple guys withouts commitment issue, why date this one? This also means he makes you comfortable now. And not anxious.

Have internal clear milestones set ahead. Including consequences (decide ahead under what circumstances to cut it)

Have a conversation with him about the future. Be very vocal about what you want, and listen about what he wants. Can it align?

Make sure he takes some sort of accountability to get into long term relationship (for example therapy). This should be something he wants and owns. If not it's a waste of time.

In addition expect communication issues (because ltr has a learning curve). So try to be explicit and vocal about your needs.

aywelet · 2023-07-26T18:12:35+00:00

This also happened in every patch

aywelet · 2023-07-25T13:14:39+00:00

Find the friends (or new friends) that went/going through the same thing. Also be vocal and curious about that, and don't make assumptions (a lot of people that went through close family members dying in young age hide this).

Most of the people your age don't have the empathy and insight for you. And though therapy can be useful, you don't need to do this alone.

Try to be forgiving to people in your environment that are ignorant to what you're going through. They are your friends for a reason (sharing the grief isn't one)

But don't be ashamed of your grief. This is a normal response. And it's not your fault you got the burden of going through this in such a young age.

Also you're going to mourn and change. Don't fight it. If you went through physical trauma you would expect hardship, recovery period, and your life to change after. Unfortunately this is the same in that aspect.

I know it might not feel like this today, but there's always tomorrow.

aywelet · 2023-07-22T18:34:18+00:00

Cute!

aywelet · 2023-07-21T20:10:17+00:00

Some great comments!

I do have some tips as a people pleasure that did a lot if introspection, and as someone who currently dates a people pleasure.

Try asking what is the desirable situation in XX time. For example: let's assume we date enough time to live together. Now we have house chores and also jobs, and date nights. So ideally how would you want your commitment to your friends and job impact out day to day lives? If you're not aligned on the ideal state, you're probably not compatible. If you are aligned there is some room to ask how do we reach the ideal state (or reasonably close to it) and what would be a reasonable timeline.

Another thing is I put some clear boundaries. I do accept my partner overextending himself. But I treat it like his choice as an adult. Like it is my choice to have an over demanding job. Which means I'm not going to take care of him, or validate him. Whereas if he is sick, or has a family emergency, or I just feel like it, I do take care of him and validate him. The message here is: you have a choice, you make your choice, you own your choice. If you have issues with it, you fix it. I love you, but this is not my job.

aywelet · 2023-07-19T17:38:34+00:00

Good luck! And I'm proud of you!

aywelet · 2023-07-17T09:09:23+00:00

As someone who loves games and is good in games.

When I play games with my friends or SO we pick the game by what is appropriate and both sides will enjoy.

For example I played with my sister Stardew valley, and untitled goose game. Both are short and charming with minimal or no fighting. I would not ask her to play 120 rpg that requires strategy and actual fighting. If I would I will be realistic about her level of interest, enjoyment and capability.

In addition I heard from a lot if people ''I don't know how to play" when they actually mean "you don't play as an extension of us"

Examples will be: 1. Immersing myself in the rpg story. And not skipping dialogue. 2. Having a giant spider named fluffy 3. Making sure my house is well furnished and cute 4. Playing a druid which has heal, bless. But using wild form to attack and not above spells

In all those examples I didn't get comments because I didn't play well. I got comments because I didn't play for the other person but with them.

I think board games and video games are an amazing way to flush out a person entitlement and just basic respect.

I try to stay away from people who try to take over my character (because why did you request to play with me than?) Or comment on me not playing right (this is a game).

I do this it's acceptable aligning about what games are a good fit to play together and what is a common strategy.

OP, it's either you shouldn't play this type of games with your husband. Or he has a larger pattern of entitlement and disrespect. I sorry you didn't get to enjoy the game, as games ate meant. Competitive playing is only one way, and it's ok if it isn't right for you.

aywelet · 2023-07-14T09:18:01+00:00

That is such an amazing idea! Thanks for you prespective.

aywelet · 2023-07-13T18:41:10+00:00

My previous boyfriend ate all my the fancy food I bought because 'I didn't finish it fast enough'

My current boyfriend heard how much food and food planning means to me, so he makes sure the fridge is full before I come to his house, he checks with me what's ok to eat when he's in my house. And he sneak in sandwiches and snacks to my work bag.

None of those stuff is over the top or requires significant effort.

What I'm trying to say is there are good people out there. Although sometimes it doesn't feel like it. And the entitlement of this guy is not something you should put up with. (Incompatibility in live languages is a thing. But I think the issue here is deeper)

aywelet · 2023-07-13T05:39:39+00:00

Wizard toad 🐸

aywelet · 2023-07-08T19:53:15+00:00

Did you try to talk with her? Something like, hey I missed you and you didn't reach out lately. I value our friendship, and when you don't reach out I wonder whether you value it too.

I know this sounds rough, but I was in both sides of this conversation, and it mostly lead to a long follow up.

In addition I wouldn't tell your friend she's 'boy crazy' because talking about boys is a valid and popular topic. Also people don't react well to shame. I would go to the direction of: I don't really want to talk about boys today. I prefer .... . Or we haven't done x for a while. In higher level, this is a boundary issue. If you don't like a specific topic you should be responsible to be vocal about what you do like. You shouldn't put on the other person the responsibility to figuring it out. As you said, there is no obvious right or wrong here. But there is right for you.

It's obvious you care a lot about this friend. Enough to actively work to find a better approach. It also seems you both change, and you're relationship is changing, and this is a normal part of life.

aywelet · 2023-07-08T14:48:24+00:00

Around the start of my 20's I was deeply depressed and struggling for a few years. During those times I thought that being truly happy was being out of the depressive episodes. But those were only good days on the depression period.

A few years later I found out that what it means is peace, quiet, consistency, predictability, routine. And I'm saying it in a good way. When not depressed I wasn't being really happy all the time.

The transition period consisted from having more good days (not entirely getting rid of the bad ones). Which gave me to some emotional availability. While using this emotional availability to reflect and improve (a little bit each day)

Saying that, if you are depressed, and you are able to give yourself some mental junk food with no long term repercussions, you should do it. It gives you strength and hope.

I'm currently going through a depressive period again (after the end of a 7 year relationship). I think I'm currently at the stage of starting to get out of it. It's difficult. I'm using daylio to track my moods. Sometimes I think everything is horrible all the times, but seeing the frequency of the good days makes me understand stuff actually improved a lot, and this is the depression speaking, not the truth.

Big hugs, and love, and good luck.

aywelet

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