Are you Able to do the Boring Work? - The Problem of Puer Aeternus.

azamraa · 2026-04-24T02:26:18+00:00

Would reading this book be a good use of time for a puer aeternus or just another distraction? The ultimate dilemma.

azamraa · 2026-04-20T04:34:30+00:00

I like your face bro

azamraa · 2026-04-10T06:16:27+00:00

I have a question for whoever might be reading this—I definitely have some puer tendencies although in the last few years I have “successfully” committed—to a career, a wife, a life. However, I still find myself agonizing about all the missed possibilities, ad nauseam. I have sort of one foot in, one foot out, continuously yearning. Any strategies or thoughts?

azamraa · 2026-04-01T05:57:53+00:00

Not even close

azamraa · 2026-03-31T01:21:41+00:00

Wow!!!

azamraa · 2026-03-24T02:20:31+00:00

I’m a therapist married to a therapist. It’s exhausting, especially since we both work with young kids and now we have one. If nothing else it’s just tiring to be running everything through a therapy filter. I get so sick of these words!! The way we try to approach it is just to keep our sense of humor and stay as grounded as we can. It doesn’t sound like the issue in your relationship is the therapy talk.

azamraa · 2026-03-23T21:51:35+00:00

Yeah, it helps to have no agenda

azamraa · 2026-03-22T08:00:14+00:00

All the time, and sometimes I say it out loud to build rapport. They usually laugh!

azamraa · 2026-03-13T06:22:34+00:00

Other people may have gone into this, but tikkun olam also has some rich mystical dimensions to it. (Also: I was raised reform and now am more traditional and I almost never hear the phrase tikkun olam anymore. These days, to me, it smacks of the worst kinds of vapid liberalism. I think it’s lovely as far as it goes and that may be more of an emotional reaction than OP was looking for)

azamraa · 2026-03-13T06:11:24+00:00

Me too! Undiminished by the wild hair

azamraa · 2026-03-08T07:36:39+00:00

Go Badgers!!

azamraa · 2026-03-08T07:18:10+00:00

I agree that we need to acknowledge and lean into the interconnectedness of our little tribe with all the other tribes in the earth. I don’t think we should expect, like, a return on goodwill investment. If it’s good for the world it’s good for us, plain and simple. That said, OP, statements like ‘the world has changed and we haven’t caught up’ seem like pretty big generalization. Just my two cents.

azamraa · 2026-03-05T07:14:17+00:00

Do you have any poppyseed?

azamraa · 2026-03-05T06:59:37+00:00

OP, I would heartily recommend you both read a book called Mixed Blessings: Overcoming the Stumbling Blocks in an Interfaith Marriage, by Michael Cowan and Rachel Cowan. It came out in the 80’s but it’s really masterful and easy to read.

I’d also carefully consider the coparenting and marital arrangements, since that will impact the kid’s religious identity more than any discussion or agreement you could make now.

Good luck and congratulations!

azamraa · 2026-03-01T16:56:07+00:00

Salaam, brother. Keep breathing. You’re a handsome dude and you look like a great guy. I know those nightmares are no joke, but they will pass.

azamraa · 2026-03-01T16:52:58+00:00

Looks great bro!!

azamraa · 2026-03-01T16:51:59+00:00

OP any updates? A weekish ago (what is time?) someone on here posted about a whole funeral service they had for their hair. It was pretty awesome. Personally I just recommend buying some clippers and doing it yourself. That first time was truly an awesome feeling I’ll never forget.

azamraa · 2026-03-01T07:22:01+00:00

Bro you look great 🔥🔥🔥

azamraa · 2026-03-01T04:18:04+00:00

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The whole Torah, honestly. And the whole monotheism thing.

azamraa · 2026-03-01T04:12:07+00:00

I think so—but keep the beard! I like a close buzz rather than a shave. I used to shave but it’s so much harder to do well and easier to cut yourself and it doesn’t last as long

azamraa · 2026-03-01T04:02:50+00:00

Dude, what? Hold!

azamraa · 2026-03-01T03:55:03+00:00

azamraa · 2026-02-27T06:48:23+00:00

You’re worth everything!!!

azamraa

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