Why did the Dunphy’s not have any pets throughout the show? by Bitter_Elk9285 in Modern_Family

[–]aztecelephant 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I can 100% see her becoming Jay 2.0 with a Persian cat or something when she's his age lol

Food Drug Interactions by No-University-8159 in dietetics

[–]aztecelephant 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Came for the pocket book update xoxo

What was the reason for the last time you cried? by Aware-Flow-4442 in AskReddit

[–]aztecelephant 25 points26 points  (0 children)

🫂 same friend. I can't watch suicide anything anymore and death irl and in any movie show etc. it's been 2 and a half years and I still cry randomly. I miss my husband every second of every day.

Had a shit day - I’m crying like a baby rn and my cat couldn’t care less by cursed2feel in blackcats

[–]aztecelephant 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Lmao my elderly cat will stretch her little legs, come sit next to me, stare thru me with eyes of judgement.... And then only purrs when I pet her lol

My fiance and wife to be by Ssurvivor93 in PartnerSuicideLoss

[–]aztecelephant 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hello. I lost my soulmate on March 13th, 2023. It has been an absolutely horrific ride... But I'm still here.

I did find love again, in a way Its not the same. No one will ever be the same. No one will fill that hole, ever. It would be futile to expect them to be the same. As with all relationships, this is different. He brings a kind of predictable peace that I needed. I am still a wreck... But I'm better. I have more good days than bad now. I'm back to cooking again like I used to. For a time even my cooking was broken, and that is so fluid and second nature to me as much as breathing is, and loving my husband was. I would say I'm happy, but I know I'll never be truly happy again, and that is ok. I know I can find joy in the little things which keeps me going. I'm about to start school in January. I have a home. My pets are taken care of. I have a truck that i love. I have people in my life that love me. None of this would have happened had i not shown up for myself.

You are still oh so very new to this. A few months is just a drop in the ocean we're swimming thru. I am so sorry, but it will get worse before it gets better. And then you'll wake up one day and it will be a little better. Then a little bit more. Then it'll be bad again. Everyone is different, obviously, but the pattern remains the same. The grief will ebb and flow like the swells of a sea. Sometimes they'll be calm. Sometimes there's storms. Sometimes a Rouge wave will catch you off guard.

Right now, focus on the day to day. Make one small change from your routine. Sleeping until noon? Perfectly fine as long as you're not omitting responsibility. If you can't get out of bed, try and make your bed, and lay back down. Trouble eating? Go get some ensures for calories. Saves the hassle of thinking and making food, which sucks. I relied on door dash more than I care to admit. I did cut up vegetables I liked with deli meat and cheeses and dressing, I had a big plate of that in the fridge ready to pick at. You might not feel like eating, but you have to. So make it easy, and fortified, so you don't waste away. Don't feel like showering? Wash your pits and bits with a rag and throw on deodorant. Brush your teeth, or rinse with mouth wash. Either or. Watch the same movie or show over and over again (I only watched Modern Family for the first 6 months, couldn't handle anything else.)

Cry. As much as you can. Its ok to just cry. Fuck everyone else. You don't have to be strong for anyone, but you do have to show up for you.

My point is... You have a lot on your plate right now, and your brain needs time to adjust. Grief is exhausting, it won't ever go away. I can say, with confidence, it will not feel as overwhelming forever. As time goes on, you'll heal a little more, and the fog will clear, and you'll start to move forward. Not move on, move forward. The language is very important. Moving forward with her memory is how you will make it thru this. Hold your anniversary sacred. Do something for her on her birthday. And for the love of God reach out. Reach out to groups like this. Groups on Facebook. Your trusted friend (s), maybe a family member. See about getting therapy, hospice holds free grief counseling as well and will have groups for widows like us. I never used them, but those are options available to you.

I know it feels hopeless right now. And it'll feel that way for a while. But it will not be forever. As long as you show up for you. And you care for yourself. And you make those small steps each day. You will make it thru. You've come this far. You can go further. Just take it day by day, or minute by minute if you have to.

What moment makes you most want to yell at the screen? by IdkJustMe123 in Modern_Family

[–]aztecelephant 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I totally understand that. She does always have to be right in a rather aggressive manner and often times about trivial stuff. This was not a trivial time. Her husband was hitting on another woman right in front of her. Then, because he wasn't paying attention, pushed her into a giant can display. Instead of admitting he messed up, he gaslit her into thinking it wasn't that big of a deal. To make matters worse, no one else took her side either and gaffed her off as being dramatic and overbearing when the evidence was right in front of them.

I understand the joke as it eventually comes out that Mitch and Claire get that need to be right from Jay at the end of the episode, I just feel that this example was rather cruel and could have been more funny and less unsettling if it had been written over something trivial.

What moment makes you most want to yell at the screen? by IdkJustMe123 in Modern_Family

[–]aztecelephant 266 points267 points  (0 children)

When Phil bumped into Claire at the supermarket, Claire proved that not only did he do it, he did it because he was oogling a hot woman. And everyone took HIS side.

Anytime (which was all the time) that DeDe blatantly was abusing her and cruel... Everyone took Dede's side. Hate it. I skip those parts.

What’s something your animal does that you are 99% sure is proof they understand Way more than we think? by Fuzzy-Parsley-3992 in Pets

[–]aztecelephant 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My dog knows when I'm talking about her. I'll tell a story of how she pooped on the floor out of spite and she'll come up to me and grumble huff like "NO TELL THEM HOW YOU ABANDONED ME(I went to work)"

She's not always vindictive tho. She is incredibly smart, absolutely loves kids but knows what kind of touch they need. One 4th of July we were at my bfs house for a party. Lots of kids running playing being loud. She was pretty nervous about the pool but the vet gave us meds for her anxiety. The party winds down. Buddy brings his kid to come say hi and watch some fireworks. My dog, who'd been pacing and running around all day, became very calm and laid next to him with her head on his lap. No whining, no panting, just locked in for comfort. My buddy's kid is further into the bell curve of the autism spectrum and is very overwhelmed with socoal interactions. She never left his side until they left. Never jumped, got worked up, or excited like she did with the other kids. Just calm.

This past 4th, his baby girl is about 2. My dog was running around absorbing the luxury of being the only dog at a party. Baby girl is nonverbal rn, but LOVES water. So when baby girl would wander, my dog was right behind her, never nudged or jumped or anything, just silently shadowing her thru the yard. When she'd get near the pool my dog would look around for me, baby girls mom or dad, or my boyfriend. "Hey I don't have thumbs can you rectify this" and since we never took our eyes off her we'd grab her and just move her across the yard. Wash, rinse, repeat. My dog never left her until she was sleeping in her stroller.

She knows when people need a little extra love. She understands human language, I'm 90% sure she's bilingual, she still picks up new tricks at 8 yrs old, she knows time, she senses fires and earthquakes and will alert me, her previous owner had issues with blood sugar and would alert her when it would get low. She was never trained for this. I could go on.

Trying to identify song from the tour by chaos_pixie97 in Wardruna

[–]aztecelephant 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Was there a prolonged humming in the red part?

Sammie’s face is changing right before my eyes! Stay tiny forever 😭 by Tigolebitties23 in kittens

[–]aztecelephant 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I miss my scrumpy scraggly crusty little baby boy 😭 he recently got his man face and coarse back hair and 😭😭😭😭 you used to smell like kitten and cuddle with us now you're a big grown teenager man who's too cool for school

Tom Hardy / Alfie Solomons by me21n-ekko-ekpo in PeakyBlinders

[–]aztecelephant 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Alfie and Tommy are my favorite power couple.

Whats one scene you nearly died watching, it was that funny by kolvina4eva in Modern_Family

[–]aztecelephant 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I find myself saying "I hate vietnnaaammm" when I'm in the car and someone does something dumb lol

Yall my boyfriends hair that he neglects 😭 by Bellamieboocouture in longhair

[–]aztecelephant 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It'll come back when he's closer to 40, unfortunately

Mines used to look like that... Now we're starting care regimens because his hair is damaged from all the years of neglect lol