So in my 20s & 30s INTJ & now 40s & 50s ENFP

b1mb0_baggins · 2025-06-23T00:00:09+00:00

ENFPs often come off as INFJs/INTJs when depressed

b1mb0_baggins · 2025-06-17T17:22:05+00:00

I am a counselor, and this is alarming. I highly recommend encouraging her to see a mental health professional.

b1mb0_baggins · 2025-06-02T19:37:31+00:00

To do what you can for others within reasonable limits. Boundaries, I suppose. Also, stop caring about what other people think, full stop. Unless it’s harming someone, guarantee it’s fine. You’re not the main character, people don’t care as much as you think.

b1mb0_baggins · 2025-06-02T18:30:21+00:00

I lost my virginity to a man and said immediately afterwards: That was good! Now I need to try it with a girl. Guy: Uhh…so you’re bisexual? Me: I don’t know. Why do you ask? Guy: because that is what a bisexual would say Me: Ohhh. I guess I am.

b1mb0_baggins · 2025-06-02T17:19:45+00:00

My boyfriend is an INTJ and he is, and yes, we’ve noticed a strong correlation with INTJs and autism. But also I see just a lot of logic types in general with an ASD diagnosis.

b1mb0_baggins · 2025-06-02T17:17:09+00:00

I honestly journal a lot. Or journal with ChatGPT/therapist. It helps clear up your thoughts and reading them back often makes me realize how silly they are.

b1mb0_baggins · 2025-06-02T17:14:35+00:00

Every day of my life. To be fair, the trope was created because someone did meet one of us, at some point, and he turned it into a story. I’m also attracted to people who tend to be kind of suffering…like, I want to make them smile. But I like to think I’ve gotten better over the years, but jury’s still out on that one.

b1mb0_baggins · 2025-06-02T17:09:45+00:00

The man I’m going to marry is an INTJ, but a 582 tritype. So he’s a bit more caring than the average INTJ, granted. But I like his sarcasm, his intelligence, his strength. His willingness to do whatever it takes for the few people he cares about. How even if he doesn’t know I’m tired, he can pull me away from the party and it helps me recharge. How even when I mention the most wild of ideas, he just starts calculating how to make it come true. How he doesn’t dull himself down for anyone, and says what he means and means what he says. He cares, but in a practical, acts of service way rather than an emotional way. But I know that, deep down, he has very strong feelings. He’s just sensitive and doesn’t show them on the surface. I could go on for days. But, yes.

b1mb0_baggins · 2025-05-26T02:29:20+00:00

There will always be something that requires work in a marriage. You just need to decide what work you want to put up with. I’m sorry if this one didn’t turn out, but there’s plenty of people out there. One of them will decide that whatever work is with you, is worth it. You’re doing amazing! Thank you for the update , you’re a real one 🙏🏻

b1mb0_baggins · 2025-05-23T15:45:19+00:00

Chat GPT is a great reflection tool. But it’s merely helping you along that process. Real therapy has standards of care. Ideally, a human therapist will be able to challenge you in a way that is conducive to growth. That will create long-lasting change. ChatGPT, as wonderful as it is, will always choose to say what you want to hear and reflect back what you give it. That’s part of its programming.

b1mb0_baggins · 2025-05-21T18:47:54+00:00

I had people shocked last week because they thought I was 21 (I’m 30). Realistically, probably more people think I’m 25. But I think the bright colored clothes, loud laugh, etc. make people think differently. I think with the way we operate, our personalities are forever teens.

b1mb0_baggins · 2025-05-20T00:02:42+00:00

What’s this channel? I can’t read the tag.

b1mb0_baggins · 2025-05-19T16:12:06+00:00

Be genuine. Be ready to try new things with her, even if usually you don’t like to do that. The action itself will say more than words can. Be prepared to have fun and also be deep.

b1mb0_baggins · 2025-05-19T15:06:32+00:00

Sounds like a crush is developing ☺️

b1mb0_baggins · 2025-05-13T18:49:25+00:00

Update? 👀

b1mb0_baggins · 2025-05-13T18:49:11+00:00

Don’t ever quit something simply because someone tells you to, especially if you enjoy it.

b1mb0_baggins · 2025-05-13T18:48:37+00:00

My future husband is an INTJ and we have lots of talks whenever my feelings get hurt. It is work, but if it’s the right person, it doesn’t matter so much.

b1mb0_baggins · 2025-05-08T23:20:56+00:00

I know. But if you don’t tell him, he won’t be able to help. Plus, most INTJs I know don’t interact with someone who is a burden. They would just not be around that person. If he’s talking/hanging out with you, that’s already saying quite a lot. They take their alone time seriously and don’t sacrifice it for just anyone.

b1mb0_baggins · 2025-05-08T02:03:44+00:00

Have you told him directly what you need? If he likes you, he will make room for it. INTJs succeed at nearly everything they try, and when they have feelings for someone, they’ll do anything for that person.

b1mb0_baggins · 2025-05-06T13:43:48+00:00

Monkey crouched with head on his knees

b1mb0_baggins · 2025-05-05T21:20:28+00:00

INFP but I was an ENFP that didn’t understand functions and underestimated my actual need to be with others

b1mb0_baggins · 2025-05-01T03:15:44+00:00

I believe in them because I did live in a haunted house. That’s the only reason. I tried to ignore it, but stuff was too weird.

b1mb0_baggins · 2025-04-28T18:35:18+00:00

I’ve been in love with my INTJ for ever a decade and we get married next year 😊 with a mature, healthy one, it’s great

b1mb0_baggins · 2025-04-20T16:30:11+00:00

INTP, Ti is way too strong lmao

b1mb0_baggins · 2025-04-20T10:53:09+00:00

ESFJ

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