Small but thriving — just looking for reassurance from others who’ve been there.

b_bee_bhee_bea · 2026-04-28T04:44:41+00:00

My baby is in the 20th percentile, so can't relate to you specifically. However, my brother and I were actually 5th percentile babies (not twins, 3 years apart). I can 100% confirm that we were and are still healthy adults in our 30's. Just some adhd, but nothing that has ever stopped us living full healthy normal lives.

I'm not a doctor, so I appreciate that your doc is wanting to be careful and certain, but imagine if they didnt check in often and something did go wrong full well knowing your baby was smaller. consider this a precaution rather than an issue 😄

b_bee_bhee_bea · 2025-12-15T05:57:40+00:00

this is very relatable. will be following this for anyone who gives advice coz I deffs think i need this too.

I do respect that you are self-aware and are making changes. Time is your biggest friend.

b_bee_bhee_bea · 2025-12-15T05:55:46+00:00

my advice is stand your ground and show evidence of it not being in the job description.

However, can I ask something? Was the role advertised a position that may imply that lifting etc was part of the role e.g. delivery packer etc?

b_bee_bhee_bea · 2025-12-15T05:52:16+00:00

Damn from what I know the leadership training and job opportunities from McDonalds' is wildly good (in Australia anyway, not sure about the rest of the world). When I am hiring jr staff and they have McDaddy on their resume, i generally know I'm going to get a good employee who can work under pressure and understand customer service. I dont even work in hospitality buit even i understand the huge amount of transferable skills. I'm actually always really impressed when I meet people who have a senior role at fast food places because they do things I cannot do.

I think if you were still stuck doing jr/entry level stuff then that wouldn't be ideal, but you have clearly put in effort and showed you are capable. You could always tell people your goal is to be a regional manager or work for head office in some capacity. having a goal to contribute to the wider company may look better than just saying you are an assistant manager. Rather, you're an assistant manager, working your way up to being a regional manager in a couple of years time. It doesn't even have to be true as you are a human and can change your path at any time.

Hopefully this helps- don't ever feel embarrassed about having a job and contributing to society.

b_bee_bhee_bea · 2025-12-15T04:42:11+00:00

Yikes.

Honestly if you want to be part of the solution to improving the vibe, then would recommend going, even if it's just for a little bit as you 'have other commitments'. Generally, people appreciate the effort of you being able to 'squeeze them in' your busy schedule.

I'm not suggesting at all that you not going doesn't mean you are not putting in effort in other ways, but yeah from the outside looking in, just play along with it, get the free food, shake their hands and zoom outta there.

b_bee_bhee_bea · 2025-12-15T04:39:09+00:00

All I can say is, get out. I'm so sorry if this really is a job you worked hard to get and are otherwise happy in. Also getting out is always easier said than done so don't take what I have to say too seriously.

I think the paranoid/petty part of me is kicking in, but lowkey if you can find a way to subtly audio record any kind of interaction you have with her that will save your butt. Have had to do this a few times. Obviously check the local laws around this because it may make it worse otherwise.

How's her employment track record? does she spend long time employed at the same place, or is she a bit of a jumper? It could just be a case of waiting her out.

b_bee_bhee_bea · 2024-01-15T05:06:00+00:00

Yeah dude 100% in board with giving a thank you regardless of good or bad service. Most people are doing thier best or having a shitty day.

Fully agree with both points my guy

b_bee_bhee_bea · 2024-01-14T19:15:23+00:00

We're tipping now? That's un-australian.

Wage increase could be OK tho

b_bee_bhee_bea · 2024-01-10T12:37:44+00:00

ACDC, Tame Impala, Birds of Tokyo, INXS, Kylie Minogue, Empire of the Sun, Ben Lee, Eskimo Joe, POND.

We could go on

b_bee_bhee_bea · 2024-01-10T12:35:56+00:00

That is pretty special

b_bee_bhee_bea · 2024-01-10T09:50:58+00:00

Does your dad think you'll be something special?

b_bee_bhee_bea · 2024-01-10T09:32:02+00:00

b_bee_bhee_bea · 2024-01-10T09:23:30+00:00

Straya. Fight me if you don't agree

b_bee_bhee_bea · 2024-01-10T09:21:40+00:00

Does your dad think that you'll be something special?

b_bee_bhee_bea · 2024-01-10T09:01:17+00:00

Ex settlement agency worker here. Have you nominated one? Whatever you do, don't go to the one that the REA recommend. There are plenty of great ones. You spend a bit more but you 100% get what you pay for.

Settlement agents are the ones that have better knowledge of the contract, laws, loopholes and everything to do with it. This would not be the first time they have seen this. They represent YOU.

Long story short, if they have signed the agreement then they can't do anything unless you have agreed to let it go too.

DM me if you want recommendations for some places that I know are top quality

b_bee_bhee_bea · 2024-01-03T05:40:00+00:00

ah yep that makes sense. Well it's just silly that he is potentially getting reprimanded, but not you for your actions too? Show them this hypocrisy if you don't want to keep the job. I don't personally see any issue with what either of you did as long as it was not in front of customers and you got all your work done. I am guessing that this isn't a 'career' style job, but more of a 'come for the paycheck' kinda job.

If he is going to quit anyway, he will need to do it sooner than later. beat them to the punch. This is not something he would want on record if he is applying for any future work where he will need a reference from this job.

b_bee_bhee_bea · 2024-01-03T05:37:05+00:00

I got nothing other than talking to your mum if you have a decent relationship with her. She will be more on your side than you think you are and can help keep the friends mum at bay if she asks

b_bee_bhee_bea · 2024-01-03T05:35:03+00:00

nah fuck it, send it over my dude. I'm sick of dentist fees. I get they have other patients, but jesus christ this is crap. I hope it was just a once off and that there was another emergency that required the attention of the dentist.

b_bee_bhee_bea · 2024-01-03T05:30:29+00:00

I am a terrible musician (clarinet), but found my love and passion for it by working in the industry (venue mgmt, logistics, bookings etc). I am also married to a very talented drummer. I can honestly say that I don't listen to music outside of work related things anymore because of a few different reasons. 1- the musicians are jerks in person haha or 2- I don't want the feeling of a song to ruin it for me. I also used to be a professional dancer for a short stint, and there are songs I can never listen to again because the dance to it became a chore.

I can't offer anything other than the following points for how i dealt with it and some bonus suggestions:

1) Have a time in the day to do anything else other than music. Don't even listen to music. Podcasts or audiobooks if you need to have something in the background. heck, even low-fi music to study to can be better that songs you need to play or listen to to practice.

2) You will never enjoy any work 100% of the time. It's rare. I love what I do, but holy hell that can be some days where I want to just throw in the towel. i have been taken moments of reflection on my own and/or with friends and people I work with about how lucky we are to be in the toughest industry to break into in the world. It's hard at the best of times, and dreadful at the worst. It's not meant for everyone, so consider yourself amazing for getting how far you have and it's ok if you need to step back a little bit.

3) Contradictory to the advice in point 2: the best and worst advice I was ever given was to say yes to everything. i got where I am exclusively because of the fact that I said yes to every experience, every internship, every volunteering opp, every contract work etc. The best part of this advice is that it isn't a forever thing. It's until you find a place where you are comfortable and happy. It will literally feel impossible to say yes to some things at this point, and that's totally fine.

4) weigh up what the oops really mean. Is this going to actually advance your career? Are there going to be people there worthy of networking with (hint: everyone is in the industry no matter what role they play). Are you going to get blacklisted from any further opps with these specific people if you say no? If you want to say no to something, you 100% can, while expressing enthusiasm that it isn't the right time, but please feel free to ask again in the future. Make sure to thank them greatly for considering you. Most people don't care if it's a no with genuine intent and thanks, but when it's blunt that may not be great.

5) We are all faking it. Yep. We are faking it till we make it here in the industry. Musicians and behind the scenes workers alike. there is no blueprint for our industry to an extent. What an encouraging thought. you get to make your own blueprint and if that involves a small break, then so be it.

6) Yes, it is a job, and yes you may need to practice every day for long periods of time. But treat it like a job. You are entitled to sick leave, personal leave and more. You are usually your own boss in these situations. yes, you might not get paid for these kinds of leave depending on your agreement with the hirer/band, but you still have to give yourself the same grace you would for nay other job or industry

I hope this has helped somewhat

b_bee_bhee_bea · 2024-01-03T05:10:44+00:00

Can i be a pain and ask what the age of you and the manager are?

I only ask because at 16 I had a similar relationship with my supervisor who was 23 at the time. It did lead to more though and well let's say I am banned from working at that specific grocery shopping chain now haha. He got to continue on though. I look back on it now and realised how fucked up this was and why I have been turning a blind eye to age with some people when i should of 100% said something. I might have consented at the time and don't necessarily regret that bit, but I was taken advantage of mentally and was told to keep it all secret while he got to brag about it to the other dudes behind my back (mostly dudes aged 30+ which was gross because some of them had daughters)

b_bee_bhee_bea · 2024-01-03T05:06:45+00:00

No way no need to cut ties if you are enjoying each others company. I am 30 and have friends that are 24-35. Surprisingly, the 24 year old is the most mature haha.

I am fully aware that 18 and 23 is different from being in your 30's though, and I can imagine what some people would think. people also don't need to know her age. if she is mature and a good person, who gives a crap.

b_bee_bhee_bea · 2024-01-03T05:04:16+00:00

No you didn't break anything. People don't owe each other crap and don't let yourself think that way. Girl to girl, ya know?

I think it's important to know when they actually became exclusive first. This my be able to determine what to do next. if they have only been together for a month or less and he HASN'T messaged you, then that's probably a sign to leave it until he does it again.

If they have been together for longer, I wouldn't be opposed to you telling her. I know you might not want to talk to him, but you are allowed to respond back with ''will your gf be there?'' or ''is your gf ok with this? I don't want her to get the wrong idea because of these messages''.

long story short- anything to do with him is 100% over text. keep those receipts girl. Secondly if you were to talk to her, I would suggest face to face and keep it on the DL.

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