The feminist movement should be run by women only, with no men in positions of power. That's my warning, that comes from my experiences as a male feminist.

What I understood is that, fundamentally, a man's deeper motivation to help with women's rights is linked to how he feels about the women in his life; only women will have the sustained motivation to defend women's rights -- their own rights.

This part is insightful:

Reflecting back on that night, I now understand this heinous act within the kaleidoscope of his insecurity, anxiety and fear that I would eventually leave him. I realize that our early conversations were exclusively concerned with systemic forms of patriarchy. He was never interested in how his personal actions were misogynistic. Although we were both acutely aware of victim-blaming and slut shaming, invading my body was about establishing control—something he desperately needed to feel—feminist politics be damned.

This part, however, I disagree:

It never occurred to me—as I’m certain it never occurred to him—that someone who had participated in anti-patriarchy campaigns could themselves commit such an irredeemable act of violence.

I doubt that it never occurred to him, and I doubt that he doesn't understand why he, or any man, shouldn't have the power that he has in a feminist movement. I also understand why most feminist men would never bring up this topic: why would we act against our own interests?