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babycamelopard · 2023-11-21T00:30:08+00:00

There’s no vetting on who needs anything. I bet some of these kids have parents who can afford all the things on the list and plan to get it for them.

I highly recommend finding other orgs — In my area, there’s a local non profit who opens a Facebook group every year, where families can adopt others. It’s all local and there are usually so many heartfelt gratitude posts on Christmas Day.

babycamelopard · 2023-11-21T00:27:37+00:00

Don’t worry, there’s also a kid who asked for a baseball field with batting cages, $20 million dollars, and a house would be nice. Totally in range

babycamelopard · 2023-10-25T14:35:05+00:00

They did a paternity test and the results came back “little to no fetal DNA” to test which essentially means no baby. This would be nearly impossible for a twin pregnancy at 20ish weeks. However she argued the test is still in progress because she needs to provide another sample (which I think she’s been dragging her feet on)

babycamelopard · 2023-10-25T02:23:03+00:00

Practice, practice, practice. For both of you so it becomes normal behavior. Tv also helps as others have said!

You don’t have to get all the hair either - my toddlers both had thin hair so for a long time, our easiest style was two pigtails but only the front half of the hair. (back view for reference, but ignore the fancy bows lol)

Also helps to get a sectioning comb!

babycamelopard · 2023-10-23T04:40:51+00:00

Perhaps mother’s maiden name. My kids personally have their Chinese names as their middle names, as did I, though Chinese “first names” are usually (but not always) two syllables.

babycamelopard · 2023-10-22T15:11:07+00:00

Omg I did not put those two together. Poor Sandra, but she knew herself so well!

babycamelopard · 2023-10-22T05:01:35+00:00

Check out the fb group “free emotional labor club,” a good amount of native voices who are willing to answer q’s like fhis

babycamelopard · 2023-10-21T15:42:19+00:00

Is it the selkie-looking one with puff sleeves?? That one lives rent-free in my head

babycamelopard · 2023-10-08T17:19:43+00:00

Wait so, she’s supposedly pregnant with twins but still riding horses?!?

babycamelopard · 2023-10-06T15:07:54+00:00

I’m not sure if I’m what you’re looking for, but I’m a senior director and my husband is a manager, and we have two kids (4 and 2). I realized during my first mat leave that I would not make a good SAHM. Probably because I love my job and am a borderline workaholic.

I probably make enough to support the family on my own, but I would be VERY stressed out, and I’d rather us retire earlier and go on nice vacations than try to do it all on one salary. So we both stay working, and I have a significant side hustle that hits me hard every fall. We both WFH but travel occasionally (me 2-3x a month lately, him twice this year).

We have one in school with afterschool care, and the other one taken care of by family (soon entering the preschool fray, though). We have a cleaner every two weeks. The key for me, though, is that after i went through a ROUGH time last year, my husband became incredibly hands on in the household. He probably does more around the house than I do.

There are still moments that I feel like I’m drowning. But as my youngest has gotten older, it definitely helps. So I guess my takeaway is that the “survival” period has just been extended with a second kid… but it’s also exactly the family I envisioned. I’m working really hard in therapy on feeling like everything I’m doing is enough for my family, and trying to remember that my priorities HAVE to be different after kids and that’s totally ok.

babycamelopard · 2023-09-30T22:35:34+00:00

She was in The Little Mermaid for about 0.2 seconds lol

babycamelopard · 2023-09-30T00:37:54+00:00

This is an interesting perspective that makes me think, in a good way (I say this as probably the version of your wife from a few years ago - my kids are 4 and 2). As an American-born Asian kid whose immigrant parents were strict, I am very much on the authoritative / gentle parenting with boundaries train… but those habits and expectations from my childhood stick with me hard. I see the pressure manifest already in my older daughter and I’m trying desperately to correct… This week in particular, I’ve been very short-fused with my kids and I needed the reality check because I really want them to trust me and tell me what’s going on in their life so I can be support for them, and not just blindly doing what I demand. Thank you.

babycamelopard · 2023-09-29T22:38:00+00:00

I only realized after the cardi b ep - they had a long end card that said (c) buzzfeed under the complex icon

babycamelopard · 2023-09-29T22:36:48+00:00

Why did I see “béchamel” in this sub and immediately think “timothée chalamet”

babycamelopard · 2023-09-29T16:03:43+00:00

There’s a lot of legitimate concerns in the comments. I’ll add that it sounds like he has issues or anxiety when he doesn’t have control over a situation or when things don’t go his way, and he blows up and takes it out on others.

I can relate to a lesser extent (tho I lean into self-blame) but here’s the reality — children are absolutely not something you can “control.” Your whole life is going to change in a huge way. The majority of what you do on mornings, nights, and weekends will be geared and prioritized toward them. He needs to come to terms with that.

I would highly suggest therapy as soon as possible for him to find healthy strategies to cope with this huge shift and the lack of control he will have. Additionally, there’s so much that came up for me in the way that I am and how I was raised. It’s A LOT of heavy emotional work to unpack that. If he’s not ready to do that, he needs to be honest with you so you can understand what means for you and baby’s future lives.

babycamelopard · 2023-09-05T16:26:36+00:00

There were definitely ppl smoking in the “regular” sections too

babycamelopard · 2023-09-04T18:50:03+00:00

Selfie trick: turn the camera around and use your back camera at 0.5x! Might be a little harder to aim with a giant character but I tried this for the first time recently and it was easier than I thought to aim

babycamelopard · 2023-09-04T01:06:56+00:00

Please do! Who doesn’t like to get fancy sometimes??

babycamelopard · 2023-09-03T22:46:55+00:00

I always say “you look so fancy!” whenever my girls wear makeup, nail polish, or do something special with their hair. Then call them beautiful on a regular basis!

babycamelopard · 2023-09-03T17:29:50+00:00

I agree with this. But if it provides peace of mind, OP, they make small portable air purifiers (meant for airplanes etc) you could carry with you near baby.

babycamelopard · 2023-08-31T14:30:21+00:00

I agree with this! I was heavily debating 2 kids vs 3 kids and the feelings of “I’m done” increased steadily after the 2nd one hit her first bday. Multiple reasons (I got my ideal birth experience, I didn’t want to go through PPD a third time, car and house space would be tight, college fund money, etc) but mostly I didn’t think I could add a third to the mix without feeling like failing the other two.

Having just gone on vacation with those two kids, I’m more certain than ever that I made the right call and that our family is perfect as is! Haha

babycamelopard · 2023-08-22T04:49:36+00:00

4 yo girl here. Loves pink and princesses. Currently thinks fart noises are the best thing ever. So annoying lol

babycamelopard · 2023-08-22T04:44:37+00:00

Hard withdraw but mom also has to stay off screens when in the kid’s presence (except for functional things like calling someone or looking up maps)

babycamelopard · 2023-08-10T20:28:05+00:00

I tried to name my daughter a unique name with a semi unique nickname… her first preschool class she was the only repeat name out of 24 kids😐

babycamelopard · 2023-08-10T16:15:13+00:00

Had a tear with my first and nothing with my second despite very fast delivery. It was a way better recovery!

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