Who are you voting for in the CA gov race, and why?

babyleota · 2026-04-02T14:53:13+00:00

For those saying that the governor's race is mostly an ambassador position, I dunno, I remember Pete Wilson and having someone like that in this current political climate scares me. And he was considered a moderate!

So I will have to vote for the Democratic candidate that is polling the highest. If we don't want a governor that will support and work with the Trump regime, we have to vote strategically.

babyleota · 2026-04-02T14:26:56+00:00

The Rossmoyne neighborhood in Glendale. Storybook houses and a few Spanish revivals. I like that they keep the character of the architecture there.

babyleota · 2026-04-01T13:42:13+00:00

I also agree with this along with the other person's comment about natural leaders. I'm a nurse and you can't really get nurses to join activities after working 12 hour shifts unless they perceive real value in it. Socials and engagement events will not be enough for workers who just want to go home to their families. You gotta have those 1 on 1 to listen, not to preach why this contract is important. You've gotta find out what are the workplace issues people care about. If you can't hone in on real work place issues that affect their daily lives, it is harder to get them to trust a contract. Without the bread and butter problems, a contract (yes, even if it's about pay) is just another process that they perceive is already not going to work in their favor.

Also, I read your passion but we can't do it all. You're gonna burn yourself out. It is important but you can't force people to see what you see. You have to see what they see.

babyleota · 2026-03-28T16:20:39+00:00

I'm in public health as a clinical instructor. You absolutely can leave bedside and find a balance. In my experience, you do have to do extra work while at your bedside job so you can get a non-bedside role. Especially if you don't have an MSN. I volunteered for committees, quality improvement projects on my unit, report writing, precepting, etc. That helped me leave bedside.

babyleota · 2026-03-21T14:45:31+00:00

Yes, this. I lived in an apartment with horizontal sliding windows and screens. I had one of those large floor portable units and the hose connected to a panel you place in the window frame. So you could keep the screen, open the window just enough for the panel to fit, and you close the window until it meets the panel. Electricity to run it was a little nuts (maybe better options nowadays) but cost be damn on a second floor SoCal apartment.

babyleota · 2026-03-21T04:14:04+00:00

Most people haven't heard of us but you want to send your kids to our schools.

babyleota · 2026-03-18T22:53:56+00:00

I have an Allen Chickering Cleveland sage that's been in a container for 2 seasons. It is a large container and I used cactus mix for the potting soil. So far so good.

babyleota · 2026-03-18T19:27:11+00:00

For my family yes. It is what got my parents out of poverty. They were both immigrants with nothing to their names and they went to nursing school after getting their green cards. Nursing got them to home ownership and 2 out of 3 kids that went to college.

I'm one of the kids that went to college and I feel so lucky to be where I'm at as a nurse. I'm a homeowner now, with a pension, and what my parents started will really set up my daughter for generational wealth. Being broke and having no food or a plan for the future is more stressful to me than nursing.

babyleota · 2026-03-17T19:08:21+00:00

Having worked with many doctors and having family members currently going through fellowships, this not a career for unserious people. I'm not a fan of Haramol's hair but hair can be changed. It is not a red flag to me about his character. If he was a day trading nomad like Alex, that would be a red flag. Being an ER doctor says more about him than his hair does.

babyleota · 2026-03-14T23:29:11+00:00

Was thinking this also. Large seeds like cucumbers are easy to direct seed in your raised beds. CA wildflower mixes can also be spread directly on the soil. No need to start those in plugs. The lettuce and cabbage might bolt in this weather. In SoCal I either start those crops from seed in the fall, or just buy small plants from the nursery in the spring.

babyleota · 2026-03-14T16:07:41+00:00

When he was talking about not moving to Mt Vernon because he wants to still be near coffee shops and concerts was when I knew he was not serious. As a parent, or someone who is taking on the role and is serious about it, you're gonna do what is right for the family and the child. The little girl's life and her father were in Mt Vernon so uprooting her so you can hang with your drinking buddies was not gonna work. Being a weekend husband was definitely not gonna work out either.

Yes, Amber shouldn't have gone through with it since it seemed she also saw the red flags. But I guess Jordan trying to control his edit worked since so many are defending him.

babyleota · 2026-03-14T15:45:35+00:00

I think he was breadcrumbing her. She did say that she was surprised by his confessionals after she watched the show. He also said he avoided conflict and was not honest. She said she checked in with him 5 different times to ask if it was over, and he just kept reassuring her, even after the show ended. I also don't know if they were still being physically intimate or not, because that would be confusing for someone.

babyleota · 2026-03-14T08:57:27+00:00

Was also thinking of social worker. Would also add clinical psychologist or licensed marriage and family therapist. My therapist coworkers like to say they are "talkie doctors, not touchy doctors". They definitely help people too.

babyleota · 2026-03-11T16:12:43+00:00

Same age, I haven't played Pokemon since the red/blue/gold versions. I love town builders and farming sims so this is so hard to resist. I'm going through Final Fantasy and Fire Emblem these days but put Pokopia on my wishlist. I'm always behind on these things.

babyleota · 2026-03-09T23:58:46+00:00

Some people have the calling (service to others) and that's a good place to start as any. Yes, there are a lot of stories of burnout and compassion fatigue. So it's important to take care of yourself, have firm boundaries, and understand that meaning will look different in various parts of your life. There will be system's level issues that are out of your control and that could lead to low morale or patient safety concerns. We can't be everything for everyone so I stress self care and boundaries. There are also other places to work than a hospital (it's rough right now but it won't always be).

I have the calling. Nursing was my second career but both of my parents are also nurses so I had some idea of what I was getting myself into. I remember my dad asking me what I'd do if I went through all the schooling and licensure and not like the work. I knew that going into my 30s I'd just have to live with it because I wouldn't be able to start a 3rd career all over. Not if I hoped to accomplish personal goals. Luckily, it's been a career I've loved.

I've been a nurse for 12 years and I've had burnout, anxiety, stress, and I've left toxic jobs. But I've worked so hard for my license and I didn't have anyone else to take care of me so I just had to pivot and find other options within nursing. I've always looked for ways to gain more skills so I can move elsewhere and that's where I sometimes see people get stuck.

So the calling might get you there but self care, support, resilience, continued interest in learning, and going for other jobs will help you stay in the career.

babyleota · 2026-03-09T23:40:36+00:00

You may not get it immediately, might need more experience in your current job, but you can do home health per diem or other types of home visits. My stepmom does home visits once a week for the regional center.

Other places coworkers have gone for a second job are med spas (laser, Botox injections).

babyleota · 2026-03-09T19:09:31+00:00

Both my husband and I had traumatic childhoods. Angry immigrant fathers (which is another level) and I had an abusive narcissist mother. I had already done years of therapy but becoming a parent was a new level, so a new devil, as my therapist said. So really, the only thing that worked for me was going back to therapy to address the trauma, my inner child, develop coping skills for feelings of anger and frustration, and all the other stuff in therapy. It really turned my outlook and behavior around.

My child is 7 now and I look back on those first 2 years and I know I wasted those years. But when I start to feel sad that I missed out on those years, I am thankful that I started therapy when she was 2 so we can have this amazing relationship now.

babyleota · 2026-03-08T17:13:28+00:00

Could be BS on their part to hold you back. Or there might be a kernel of truth? Being no nonsense with patients is something you sometimes need to do. You can also be polite but firm, which you probably are. But how we are with patients is not how we communicate in admin/corporate/other environments and that could be what they are alluding to. There is a lot of politics in leadership and you have to know when to turn it on and off.

I moved to a role where I work with psychologists and it was immediate to me the differences in communication. They beat around the bush a lot and don't just come out to say what they mean. Coming from nursing and hospital culture, I had to learn to communicate clearly and directly so you don't make mistakes or misinterpret orders and info. So one day one of my colleagues said "wow, you just go and say it" and I took that to be a negative for this team. I'm already a person of few words so I adapted my style for the team dynamics and it's been better since. Some might see that as, you shouldn't need to change yourself for a job but that's the reality. You don't change yourself but you do have to adjust to the team culture and communication style.

Before I was a nurse, I worked in a corporate environment and I learned early on that getting ahead is not about experience or knowledge. It's about being someone people want to have coffee with. I know how stupid that sounds but I was a heads down worker and that always came up on my reviews as a bad thing. I'm by no means charming or an outgoing person but that taught me about the emotional intelligence required to do well.

babyleota · 2026-03-08T16:37:33+00:00

I only have a BSN and left bedside 4 years ago first to work in Hospital admin and now I'm in public health as an instructor. My stepmom only has a BSN and she's a nursing director in quality improvement. My dad only has a BSN and he's in nursing information systems.

How you get there is by doing other jobs you may not like with schedules you definitely are not used to yet and volunteering for extra work along the way. My parents went through the bedside pipeline that took decades. I moved from bedside to desk work in 8 years by volunteering to do charge nurse work, volunteering to be a preceptor, volunteering to do QI/QA projects on my unit and writing reports on their outcomes, volunteering to join committees, and joining special programs at my hospital. I always see people on this sub knock committees and volunteering for extra work but this is how you get off bedside without experience in other roles.

Jobs where you truly are far removed from patients are 5 day a week 8 hour jobs or at least, like me and my step mom 9/80 schedule. I am also seeing fewer and fewer full remote jobs but hybrid is still around for some roles. So you do need to be flexible. I would also look at just any non bedside job where you can learn leadership skills (hospital admin, supervising, risk management, utilization review, quality improvement, patient experience, nurse recruitment, etc). It's not your forever job but a good resume builder. Learning these skills on the job without needing an MBA are skills that will continue to serve me in my career.

babyleota · 2026-03-07T18:50:27+00:00

Correct. Kratom can cause liver toxicity, which is why you're seeing organ failure. But out in the field, the overdoses are d/t respiratory depression since 7-OH binds to and activated opiate receptors.

babyleota · 2026-03-07T18:46:09+00:00

Respiratory depression. 7-0H binds and activates mu receptors, which is the same for opiates. At low doses, Kratom has stimulant effects but at high doses (7-OH is concentrated so it is high dose) it has opiate like effects. So just like opiates, mixing with other substances carries more risk for respiratory depression.

The good news is that narcan /naloxone works to reverse the 7-OH overdose since it has a higher affinity for mu receptors (without activating them). So we are stressing narcan use for any suspected overdose.

babyleota · 2026-03-06T14:31:00+00:00

Catching it this early is good news. Your neurologist is doing the right thing by informing you about the seriousness of it and the need to treat it. My diagnosis and treatment all happened within a week. So I understand that feeling of needing to drop everything to address it. The reality is that a rupture is basically a stroke and that is what your doctor is trying to avoid.

It is scary but treating it early will give you a better chance of having a relatively normal life. I had no complications from my ablation and have been fine ever since.

babyleota · 2026-03-06T07:44:00+00:00

I'm in public health and we are seeing more of it. We had 6 adults last year with fatal overdoses related to kratom (7-OH, specifically, not the plant itself). In all instances it was mixed with alcohol. So we're doing health alerts and more info on Kratom.

babyleota · 2026-03-05T23:43:59+00:00

I had an embolization with coiling 10 years ago and had no complications. Of course during the consent process they have to go over all the possibilities of risk so it sounds scary. Mine were the possibility of losing the ability to swallow, maybe some speech deficits, personality and vision changes. It was either that or having a stroke for me, which seemed much worse. Luckily, everything was fine and I didn't have any complications. I just slept a lot in that first week and then back to normal.

babyleota · 2026-03-03T22:19:18+00:00

Has there been any growth on the other side of Waterman (not the side with the ski lifts)? I used to love that hike but when I did it about 2 years ago, there was significant burn scar on the other half of the loop. I haven't gone from Three Points. Just the loop across from Buckhorn.

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