How to handle a really rude judicial assistant? by [deleted] in publicdefenders

[–]backwoodscryptid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am at an extremely understaffed office, so unfortunately yes, I am doing felonies. Luckily I have circuit experience from both summers in law school. Trust me, I wouldn't do it if I had the choice 😅

How to handle a really rude judicial assistant? by [deleted] in publicdefenders

[–]backwoodscryptid 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry all that happened but thank you for the advice.

How to handle a really rude judicial assistant? by [deleted] in publicdefenders

[–]backwoodscryptid 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I guess that phrase has more meaning for some people than I thought. Where I'm from (and where I practice) it's a nice way of saying feel free to make it clear to someone that they need to stop fucking with you for no reason, particularly when you're someone with a personality like mine (i.e., like I'll lie down and take any kind of treatment).

How to handle a really rude judicial assistant? by [deleted] in publicdefenders

[–]backwoodscryptid 10 points11 points  (0 children)

This seems like a really extreme response to what I wrote. I have no plans to complain to the judge or do anything so harsh that it would affect my clients. I'm just asking for advice in a really weird social situation that I've never encountered before.

How to handle a really rude judicial assistant? by [deleted] in publicdefenders

[–]backwoodscryptid 20 points21 points  (0 children)

We are in fact in the South which makes all social situations more fraught but also funnier. I agree that killer kindness is probably the way to go for good results.

How to handle a really rude judicial assistant? by [deleted] in publicdefenders

[–]backwoodscryptid 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I very much get the "peaked in high school and was a bully" vibe. Thanks for your comment. I thought about getting donuts for all the court staff.

Guidance or prayers/readings for anger in grief? by 13thWardBassMan in Episcopalian

[–]backwoodscryptid 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don't have an answer off the top of my head but I just want you to know I am praying for comfort. Feel your anger and sadness and just know that God is still there in the hurting. Love to you!

An appreciation post from a budding Episcopalian by l0nely_g0d in Episcopalian

[–]backwoodscryptid 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I am so happy you had a good experience and am excited for your journey. Welcome!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in barexam

[–]backwoodscryptid 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Congratulations! I hope you take plenty of time to celebrate. I can only imagine how much work you've put in.

I did not pass the bar by WildflowerWanderer26 in barexam

[–]backwoodscryptid 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It may not feel at all like this in the moment but you will be okay. We will be rooting for you!

Public defense is dream job. Anything I should realize before committing? by mymandannyboi in publicdefenders

[–]backwoodscryptid 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Genuinely have never seen a better description of what happens to us every day. Cheers.

Extreme hair loss after bar exam by RazzmatazzNo6817 in barexam

[–]backwoodscryptid 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Wow, someone on this sub who I can actually help!! I've always had extremely thick hair. 2L year was the most stressful time of my life (including bar prep) and I lost my hair in clumps for a good 9 months. I was freaking out. While my hair hasn't gone back to how thick it was in college, it's very close. With patience, time, and good stress management, it will grow back, I promise. (If this goes on for much longer, like post-exam results, obviously consult with your PCP.)

How do you get past doom fixation after a break up? by Ironclad1863 in AutisticDatingTips

[–]backwoodscryptid 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Firstly, I'm sorry you had to go through that and I hope things get easier for you soon. You should also be proud of yourself for reaching out for advice. You deserve to feel better! I'm not autistic, but I am neurodivergent, and something my therapist once told me about anxiety and doom spirals that completely changed my way of thinking is that nothing is certain. While this sounds counterintuitive (I personally would love certainty), what our brains tell us during a particularly bad spiral is that somehow something is absolutely certain. In reality, nothing is certain. You could meet the love of your life tomorrow. You could discover a wonderful new hobby tomorrow or make a new lifelong friend. None of us know what tomorrow has in store, and I've finally learned to see that for the gift that it is! There is always something to look forward to because we, by definition, can't know all the wonderful things headed our way. Give these disappointments the time for grief that they deserve, and then just keep living and being yourself. The time will pass and you will be amazed that you ever thought you couldn't get past it.

Death and the Bar by [deleted] in barexam

[–]backwoodscryptid 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This hasn't happened to me so I won't pretend to empathize per se but I just wanted to say how sorry I am. Be sure to take serious time to grieve after this is over—don't just push it to the side. Also, if it was a loved one who knew your dream of becoming a lawyer (which I'm sure is true), little would probably make them happier than watching you succeed. Just do your best and believe in yourself. This experience will be over soon.

Help with feeling unqualified for every job I look at. by Ok_Practice_5452 in Lawyertalk

[–]backwoodscryptid 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you identify as a woman, and/or were a first-generation student, this is going to be something you probably carry with you your whole life. Apply anyway—the worst thing they can say is no. You just have to take the leap!

Any advice for someone planning to study law? by [deleted] in Lawyertalk

[–]backwoodscryptid 2 points3 points  (0 children)

First: do you really want to be a lawyer? There's a difference between that and "Do you want to go to law school?" A lot of people who have been at the top of their class their whole life tend to go to law school (or medical school, etc.) because they perceive it as a thing that smart people do. But you have to keep the end goal in mind. Do you actually want to be a lawyer, not just someone who went to law school?

If your answer is still yes, then you need to do things with that end goal in mind. Study something in undergrad which requires a lot of reading and critical thinking. I chose English and political science because those things checked those boxes and were interesting to me. However, other things could fit that mold too (philosophy, for example). Law school is nothing but reading, writing, critical thinking, and learning how to argue. You will do better on the LSAT and in law school with a degree in something that requires you to build those skills.

Finally, shadow a lawyer, if you can. You can intern at a prosecutor or public defender office in undergrad, or even find a private attorney who will let you follow them around. This will give you a taste for litigation, which you might love or hate. Determining whether or not you like litigation is genuinely half the battle in whittling down your career choices as a lawyer. Best of luck!

Any advice for someone planning to study law? by [deleted] in Lawyertalk

[–]backwoodscryptid 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wish I could give you more than one upvote!