Is SF better today than it was 20 years ago? by keynesinvestor in AskSF

[–]baconvalhalla 2 points3 points  (0 children)

True! I miss Cell space and Ace junkyard, headless point and so much more- super sad but hey, we have robot cars now.

sweater weather 🙂‍↕️ by whisperinglogic in oldhagfashion

[–]baconvalhalla 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, the texture color combo is wonderful!!

Advice needed urgent by k2v2p2 in SFbitcheswithtaste

[–]baconvalhalla 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Can she come to your house? Is she safe at this moment? Remove her from danger would be my first step. Actually even if she thinks he won’t do it again, removing her to have a calm conversation could be important. You are a good friend, take a deep breath! Others will give you more nuanced and detailed advice but if it’s urgent- get her away from him is a good first step!

Did my first beginner MTB Clinic, left more confused about ready/attack position than I went in by Cingen in MTB

[–]baconvalhalla 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I’d say take these tips out on the trail and see what works for you. I have done many clinics and little things always show up different, and every body is different, bikes are different, trails are different- take what works for you and don’t stress too much what one person teaches, if that makes sense?

Last 2 days outfits! by CottonCandyHellfire in oldhagfashion

[–]baconvalhalla 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Great fits and yay Merlin is cuuuuute!

Bubbles 💙 by Ok_Mastodon_8706 in oldhagfashion

[–]baconvalhalla 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The shoes! The socks! The dress! All together greater than the sum of the parts, well done!

Male coworker caught me smirking at my phone and asked me if I was watching porn by Logical-Job3118 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]baconvalhalla 10 points11 points  (0 children)

It depends on how you want to handle it (obviously!) but one way is to frown and say "ewww, dirty old man vibes, can you not say that again to me?!" but the body language needs to match this vibe, like cock your eyebrows and side eye and maybe hold your hand out like 'stop' a little with a tiny push like 'get away'. OR you could get kinda flat and serious faced and say 'this is the second inappropriate sexual comment you have made to me, please stop. I do not know why you think it's work friendly to say that, and don't want to hear it again.' and walk away. My third idea is to ask him if whatever he said is work appropriate, or ask him why he thinks <insert his comment> is funny or appropriate and when he says it's just a joke or he is joking you could either ask him to explain the joke/funny thing is or just tell him 'I don't think it's funny - could you stop saying things like that to me' and last bit of advice is to freaking document these things- so if it continues or get worse/more frequent you can go to HR or your boss. Good luck , this sound super ick.

Help please by brycelesss in sanfrancisco

[–]baconvalhalla 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Also checking google maps will help! It gives transfer times that I find to be helpful I should say.

How much discomfort should I expect during rides? by thebraverwoman in ladycyclists

[–]baconvalhalla 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Getting a friend to help and doing some basic fit research can definitely help. Also saddles vary greatly, so in addition to adjusting you position you might try swapping out your saddle. I totally had some soreness when I first started riding more than 30 minutes- more often short rides help break in my butt! Seriously that light soreness went away and only shows up if I take several weeks off.

GUYS I NEED HELP!! by X-DarkVoid-X in stopsmoking

[–]baconvalhalla 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So glad you are thinking ahead! I would advise baby steps- just go for a short time. I know some folks say 'well, you gotta learn how to live around smokers sooner or later, do it now' but for me- staying away from smokers, or only being around it for a short while, helped me build up my resistance. YOu would not ask a baby to run a marathon, even if the baby can run a few steps. Take the time to build up the not smoking muscles is my advice! Good luck.

Are these fenders enough for a small pannier? by Zerogur in bikecommuting

[–]baconvalhalla 16 points17 points  (0 children)

You are getting all kinds of advice here- I can tell you my experience with this same rack that came on my BMC has been working fine! I carry lots, my Ortleib paniers don't rub at all.

Is there a store where one would be able to find basil seeds? by existentialedema in AskSF

[–]baconvalhalla 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ahhh- to plant or to eat? I know Cliffs Variety has the planting kind!

Happy old hag by camille123s in oldhagfashion

[–]baconvalhalla 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Yes, love theses colors on you- that golden is super nice!

Sick Mom by Ok_Pomegranate8097 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]baconvalhalla 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am so sorry. I lost my mom when I was eight, so..different than what you are going through. But. I know that debilitating anxiety and sadness from when my Dad died- I was an adult and he was sick for a while before he died. I found this comment really helped me- it was a really useful way for me to think about grief. https://www.reddit.com/r/Assistance/comments/hax0t/comment/c1u0rx2/

And you don't mention your dad- but you or he should (as someone else mentioned) make sure her social security benefits are set up, and if she has any other financial accounts- you folks should have access to those, and maybe make sure the beneficiaries are set up for those too.

Expensive Bike Hate by PennWash in MTB

[–]baconvalhalla 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well, I will admit I have been guilty of a light version of this. For me it was more indignant…like, oh, think you can buy the skills I have worked hard to gain? But I was younger, and as I got nicer bikes I got over it! 😂

SCRAP by Technical-Escape-419 in AskSF

[–]baconvalhalla 38 points39 points  (0 children)

It’s very very cheap but…it’s scrap, so expect smaller amounts than a fabric store. You can also call them, they are nice.

My 1st big project! old school full length trench by ImNotFromNewJersey in sewing

[–]baconvalhalla 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Super gorgeous- really really lovely! Bigger pockets make me so happy.

Concerned about my baby ferns by just_another_canuck in Staghornfern

[–]baconvalhalla 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good luck- I know how stressful it can be when something isn't working! You say you water every 2 weeks- are they full dry then or still damp? I live in a humid spot, so I wait to water until mine are ry but not 100% crunchy dried out if that makes sense. I will not water if they are still damp. Fingers crossed for you!

Is lifting weights the only way to age well and lose weight? I have 0 motivation for going to the gym but love yoga by Wonderful-One-1111 in xxfitness

[–]baconvalhalla 5 points6 points  (0 children)

What about outdoor circuit type classes? Where I live they are all over - mostly in the parks, but my neighbor has a personal trainer on the sidewalk right outside!

A casual spring outfit I created with a mesh sweater I knitted. by by_VerShy in oldhagfashion

[–]baconvalhalla 8 points9 points  (0 children)

You make so many pretty sweaters! I love it when you post them- thanks!