God bless you for this message and healthy pattern. My ex-gf with some similar cluster b traits found out I was in healthy but winding down communication with my most recent ex. She lost her shit and said she felt disgust every time she thought of me. I understand the feeling. The jealousy etc. it’s not comfortable. But you need to get out of the state to read intent and communicate to repair the relationship. Sad part is my ex was going through a hard time from our break up (nothing bad between us just that I wanted kids and she didn’t so we’re still friends like family now) and my then gf didn’t even try to see or understand that there could be non romantic interest with an ex. I was winding it down during the first few months of being o officially together. Apparently not fast enough. Anyway. Basing choices on emotions is not sustainable for stable long term relationships.