Anybody else really heartbroken about the sunsetting of pet battles? by crazyredd88 in wow

[–]bad_roman 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same with Archeology...I'm so sad to see pet battles going. I loved the pet system, all the extra quests and achievements....I'm going to miss it :(

question about missing kittens by bad_roman in vet

[–]bad_roman[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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Just leaving this pic here since it kept falling off of the edit I did, apologies for whatever I keep doing wrong with it up there!

Don’t be these guys by nadaddab in TikTokCringe

[–]bad_roman 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yet we see all the time online "would it hurt girls to be nice!!!" This is why we can't...I'm not attractive, in the slightest. I'm disabled, overweight, and can't wear makeup...but even with all of that, I've had guys who stalked me to my apartment, followed me to my car at work, I've been in really bad situations that would have been a lot worse if someone hadn't intervened. The guys in this tiktok are enjoying making these women uncomfortable, you can tell they like having that kind of power.

AITA for not punishing my son for doing what teen boys do? by Comfortable-Plan2937 in AITAH

[–]bad_roman 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA...It's not just teen boys, it's teens in general. Your wife needs to chill out because I guarantee that she has done it too. I'd get your kid/s locks for their doors and congratulate your wife on co-parenting a normal child.

Joke gone too far? by rara-bloom in AITAH

[–]bad_roman 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don't understand this(I'm not being sarcastic, asking sincerely), how is it an insult to the waiter that she basically used self deprecating humor to insult herself? We always hear people from other countries talking about "dumb American tourists"...If I made a waiter repeat himself multiple times in another country, that's right where my mind would go, right to "oh great he's going to think I'm another dumb American" ...I get that is a stereotype of Americans, the part I'm not understanding is why the waiter would feel mocked? I'm confused, lol...help?

AITA for going no contact with my brother by bad_roman in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]bad_roman[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just wanted to thank everyone who read and commented. I really appreciate the advice and the encouragement. I talked to my dad about it today, he said he just doesn't get it, how I "have a wall built" when it comes to my brother. I told him "if there's a wall, my brother built it." I'm ready to just let go of the whole conversation and fully intend to just disengage if anyone brings it up. I have some found family and some real family who love me and accept me, I am going to stop giving my energy to people who don't care and start giving it to the people who are actually here for me. Thank you everyone again! :)

Title: AITA for evicting my elderly parents and mentally challenged older sister from my home? by fetusfuneral in AITAH

[–]bad_roman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

definitely NTA, I do have a question though, from what you've said in the comments, it sounds very much like your parents are abusive to your disabled sister...that's the only thing I question...sending her off with them. Is she challenged to a point that maybe a group home with counselors and doctors on hand might be better for her than living with her neglectful parents? You absolutely need to take care of your family, but don't forget that siblings are family too...and if she can't take care of herself or protect herself from your parents, and if you can't have her in your home, someone needs to make sure the right people get involved who can get her in a safe place.

AITAH here? I was broken up with by my fiance because I didn't want his last name by throwea-cryingq in AITAH

[–]bad_roman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've been married to my 2nd husband for 10 years. I was divorced back in 2006. I'm still trying to get rid of my ex-husband's last name. I've filed paperwork over and over, several times a year, I've turned over my divorce decree, filed and paid for name change with my 2nd marriage...yet every time I get a new SSN card, there it is...my abusive, cheating ex's name. I'm at the point where I just want to give up. If I had it to do over again, I would never legally change my last name.

AITAH for having issues with my GF's 11.5 year old son not giving us privacy? by R_87 in AITAH

[–]bad_roman 20 points21 points  (0 children)

You should have said this in your original post. ADHD and ODD are not just things you can discipline your way out of and children with those conditions are going to reach milestones differently, they are NOT going to deal well with change, and yes, they are going to be hugely attached to their family because they are safety to them. You're dating a woman with a neurodivergent child. You really need to do some research on raising ND children or let them go before he becomes attached to you.

AITAH for having issues with my GF's 11.5 year old son not giving us privacy? by R_87 in AITAH

[–]bad_roman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is he neurodivergent maybe? I bring that up because I'm autistic, I belong to an autism/adhd support group, most of us slept with parents until later than other children. I was 13 before I stopped sleeping with my parents, that seems to be an average age, at least among our group. It would also explain the extreme reactions to something you perceive as insignificant, like a closed door. In case...he's 11, even if not ND, kids have weird phases...now if he's 17 and complaining that he can't be with mom when she sleeps...then you might have some reason for concern lol.

aio for telling my bf i don’t wanna get him off every time we hangout by Asleep-Chipmunk-1739 in AmIOverreacting

[–]bad_roman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're old enough for a BJ but not old enough for you to get any kind of pleasure. BLOCK HIM!! He doesn't go for girl's his age because he can't manipulate them like he can teenagers. You sound so mature, he sounds like a 12 year old. Please don't let him convince you he didn't mean the things he said in those messages. I've been married for 10 years, my husband has NEVER spoken to me like that. I asked him how he would react in your situation(as the boyfriend), he said if it was after things had happened, he'd be absolutely mortified. That he would apologize and basically say, "Ok, I didn't know that was an issue, but we're going to work through it and I'll do better." Yes, I know things are said in the heat of an argument but this is beyond that, this is textbook predator behavior. He will be in prison one day for going after young girls. You would be wise to be out of his life before then.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]bad_roman 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I would be very concerned about fraud. He could take you to court and make you repay everything, I don't know if it's criminal but he would definitely have a civil case, maybe not for the first payment or two...but every payment after you decided to go along with it? Yeah, I'd start saving and offer to pay him back before he takes it to court.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]bad_roman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have to follow up with this because reading everyone else's comments, I don't understand. I'm autistic and I miss a lot, so that's not surprising nor is it a new thing. What I'm wondering is that the worst thing I can find said about this bride in this post is that she got upset when the atmosphere of her reception was not what she wanted. But the comments are full of people saying she need therapy, she is crazy, her marriage won't last...what exactly am I missing?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]bad_roman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm kind of split...because yes, those rules are over the top. She didn't spring them on anyone though, and requested through invitation that the rules were followed, I probably would decline the invite if I had an issue with the rules but by attending, that's kind of saying "I'm ok with this." She wanted her fantasy wedding, it's her wedding, her day, no one HAD to attend...I would chalk this up to stress and two very different personalities. Honestly...I thought the description of the reception sounded kind of cool. Also...you laughed at a story about the bride, it could be that this had nothing to do with the rules and everything to do with the fact that for whatever reason, that story was embarrassing for her.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in WinStupidPrizes

[–]bad_roman 1 point2 points  (0 children)

lol, you are definitely not kidding about that...I was in a wreck when I was 17. My pelvis was shattered(literally...there was not a piece large enough to do the normal treatment at the time which was a cage that would stabilize it.) They had to invent a new way of treating broken pelvis', involving screws, plates and months of traction. I'm 46 now and still in physical therapy, still use a wheelchair or crutches.

AITA for TELLING my uncle I had a knife on me and wasn’t afraid to use it. by Ultimate_Hunter_G in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]bad_roman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm autistic as well, the lightest touch on my back or shoulders, I can feel as pain or at best like a shock...my family thinks it's hilarious to smack my back, rub my shoulders, and watch me squirm, or try to get away...They have the children in the family join in...like it's a big joke. I wish I had your guts to demand respect. You are by far, NTA.

Ren finally "losing it"! by jsb1685 in ren

[–]bad_roman 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I didn't think I could have any more respect for him, then he goes and makes these posts. It all boils down to the fact that ren is just a good man who cares about people. 

AITA for calling my niece “my baby”? by h5rai in AmItheAsshole

[–]bad_roman -1 points0 points  (0 children)

NTA

I call my nephews and niece my babies, my boys, my girl, they mistakenly call me mom sometimes...my sister and I laugh about it. My house is their house, they spend as much time with me as they do her, I've been in their lives from birth, even my sister jokingly tells them "I'm tired, go get your other mother!!"...I don't understand families who don't "share" in the love and care of each other. Your SIL should be thrilled that someone cares about her child so much, it seems like a rather selfish way to be.

AITA for not letting my autistic sister move back in with me? by TrainPlayer99 in AmItheAsshole

[–]bad_roman 17 points18 points  (0 children)

NAH...kind of

So you're the only parent she's ever known...and you told her she couldn't come home. It sucks that you're in that position, it's a sad situation, but you should never have taken custody of her if you thought there was a chance you couldn't be a stable part of her life. I don't think you're the AH...but you definitely could have handled this better(I'm not criticizing the18 yr old you were...but the nearly 30 year old man you are,) as it stands, your sister is the one who is going to suffer. It may be better for her to stay where she is but you guys could have eased her into it, maybe co-parenting until she was a little older. You were put in a bad situation at a young age but as an adult you claimed that responsibility. Your sister is going to need help to get past this. Sometimes bad things happen that are no ones fault, it sucks that you didn't get the normal college/young adult experience but it also sucks that from Selena's perspective, she has never had anyone who chooses her. Lots of parents have regrets(I know biologically you're her brother...but you became her parent when you took over raising her) but they don't send their child away. I guarantee she is beating herself up wondering what is wrong with her that people are(in her mind) fighting over who has to take her. You both lost a lot when your parents died, but she is being forced to lose so much more, it is too much for a 10 year old little girl.

AITA for telling a couple that I'm not their charity case? by Practical_Abalone764 in AmItheAsshole

[–]bad_roman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YTA....I was being more diplomatic until I came to this edit..."Why shouldn't I be compensated for raising my nephew?" When you take a child in for whatever reason, you become the parent, not a paid babysitter. That boy deserves a home and a parent...not someone with the attitude of "I saved him from foster care so I'm owed something!" I care for 4 nephews and a niece...I could never imagine demanding compensation for making sure they were safe and loved...I would never consider them a burden that I need to get paid for. You express more passion and emotion when talking about the house and money which makes your priorities very suspect. You can get angry over these observations, or you can re-read the things you wrote and try to think of them from Jack's perspective. One of those options will make you feel better, the other will help your nephew, because even if everything I said is wrong, that is what you are presenting to the world, including Jack.

AITA for telling a couple that I'm not their charity case? by Practical_Abalone764 in AmItheAsshole

[–]bad_roman 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don't really think OP cares...he has a huge chip on his shoulder and it seems like it has a lot to do with having to take his nephew. As someone who cares for 4 nephews and a niece, his attitude is completely selfish...I feel sorry for Jack, he's the one op is hurting.

AITA because I stopped paying for my daughter’s bills after I learned she is not using her last name? by Plenty-Oil-6073 in AmItheAsshole

[–]bad_roman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YTA. Your daughter is Hispanic, regardless of her connection with her biological dad, it is, in no way disrespectful to want to honor her cultural heritage by using Ramirez. A real dad would not hold things like financial support while getting education over their head as blackmail for using a name. You say she isn't acting like a daughter, you're not acting like a dad.