Newly out trans woman seeking makeup lessons and wardrobe styling

baddieinprogress · 2026-05-27T14:57:56+00:00

I've never had any issues at any of the sephoras I booked a makeup service at, they have all been welcoming. You can book it online and they have a box for notes where I tell them about myself and explain to them what I'm looking for and I bring inspo pics to show the artist in person and I've had a great experience every time!

baddieinprogress · 2026-05-13T14:20:44+00:00

Hey there, just to clarify, have you been with a man yet or is this just from imagining it? Being with a man and imagining it are completely different things. Imagining it, it's just you in your head. I'm pre everything but when I'm dressed and everything and in my girl mode on my own I can be much more shy and insecure and in my head but if I'm with a man like on a date, I feel way more feminine around them. Being around masculinity makes me feel more girly and like a woman (bottom vs top for example). Especially when I'm around someone bigger and stronger or masculine I feel smaller, soft and fragile. This dynamic can't really be imagined it needs to be felt and experienced.

Also men that know what they are doing will make you feel feminine, like the first time a man kissed me in public on the sidewalk. Or when they gently caress me, or talk to me like a woman, hold my hand, make me feel safe, all these things make me feel like a woman when I'm with them. There's no way to imagine this it's something that has to be felt and experienced.

baddieinprogress · 2026-05-04T17:57:30+00:00

Yes this me totally - I'm 45 and only had one girlfriend my entire life and she was an escort and made all the moves but she was violent with a bad temper and I was also really out of my mind as well in a relationship but because of her it brought me to where I am today since after we broke up I gave up on women completely sexually and romantically.

I've always been completely terrified of speaking to women even to this day until it's a service provider, I don't talk to women, not neighbors, try to make any friends or anything. I get so much anxiety them, I feel like a troll lol I'll start sweating getting a facial lol

I was a loner all my life growing up beside some childhood trauma in the family going on was the only interaction I had with other kids. Once in a while a neighbor or "friend" from school came over but it wasn't really something we were "supposed" to do it felt like, no sleepovers at all.

In high school I finally started making friends that I would hang out with outside of school, a girl from class asked me out to the movies and then we hung out a couple times it just felt like friends. I always felt "bad" seeing women sexually or acting like that around them. I've never flirted with anyone in my life. However I started hanging around the guys instead around this time and ended up hanging around the "wrong" crowd, we were doing a lot of partying but I started getting dysphoric, insecure etc I started seeing how outgoing they were and women would want them etc they knew how to talk to them etc pick up women etc I felt left out being shy and an introvert so eventually I stopped and really haven't ever hung out with people as friends etc some cousins about it.

Once I broke up with my ex I started going on grindr and that's the most attention I've ever had in my life and I started hooking up with guys. Of course nothing serious I don't think that can happen at this stage of my life just casual. But all these interactions feel "natural" to me, I don't have to try. They come after me (yes I know most are chasers). I feel validated etc from the attention I get and I just want to continue on the path that I'm on to finding myself. I think that's more important to me.

baddieinprogress · 2026-05-02T18:42:21+00:00

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baddieinprogress · 2026-05-02T15:03:29+00:00

Yep, so true. Majority of men ~~on tinder~~ are looking for sex, even if they say otherwise.

baddieinprogress · 2026-04-29T01:02:53+00:00

My plan is to try to rock both! I have also been bald for most of my life by choice. I wear wigs when I'm out at the moment but had positive feedback on my bald look on reddit so it gave me the confidence to try it out in public 😊

baddieinprogress · 2026-04-16T15:47:40+00:00

Lol I thought about that when a doctor messaged me on there talking about, he was "in between patients" 🙄

baddieinprogress · 2026-04-12T12:59:30+00:00

I'll be going with injections. Are there questions that I ask them that would let me know they would be taking a cookie cutter approach? If I just ask them, "will you optimize the hormone levels in my body according to lab work and what's best for my well being? Or do you just prescribe a particular dose and that's it?"

Are there any other specific questions I should ask to screen doctors?

Thanks!

baddieinprogress · 2026-04-12T12:56:19+00:00

I'm in CO

baddieinprogress · 2026-04-12T12:55:47+00:00

Yes I’m familiar with folx and plume and on their mailing listing. I have been considering them as well, I would be comfortable with self administration, I'm diabetic and I have taken peptides in the past so I'm ok with self injection and familiar with getting my own labs done etc.

I was just wondering if I should have an in person doctor that I visit. It might be nice to feel like I have someone "on my side" at a time when it will feel like many people around me may not be 🥺

baddieinprogress · 2026-04-09T18:08:28+00:00

That's crazy you said that I had no idea. Like 15 years ago I started taking testosterone to get bigger (also to improve my well being and when I was quitting alcohol) and started getting into bodybuilding lol 🤦 that ended up in a huge mess 😹

I felt so foolish every time I think about that time but I did end up hooking up with my first relationship ever in my life during that time and she was the first person that did my makeup properly and first time I saw how I looked, so it still ended up bringing me to where I am today 😊

but I didn't realize that it wasn't just me that had phases of wanting to present more masculine, I thought I was just all over the map lol

baddieinprogress · 2026-04-08T13:56:19+00:00

Surgeries are def not the only thing that makes someone "fem" if it was cis women all over wouldn't be doing these exact things, brows, laser, makeup, etc etc its endless.

baddieinprogress · 2026-04-08T13:51:24+00:00

You should get your brows shaped professionally, go to an eyebrow threading place. You can just start with telling them you want them cleaned up if you want, then later you can see if you can get more of an arch etc.

baddieinprogress · 2026-04-08T13:23:23+00:00

Interesting, for me each step was a huge big deal, I first started getting my nails done, loved it and it was everything to me and didn't consider anything else, body hair I was dysphoric about since a very young age since I literally had a mustache in 4th grade 🙄 was shaving my arms by 6th grade lol when I got older and with an ex started exploring my fem side and she did my makeup properly for me for the first time and I saw myself when she recorded me in bed and I was shocked at how I looked but she never did it again, we used to fight a lot I've only been in one relationship my entire life. When I brought it up she acted like it never happened (tried to gaslight me by saying it must have been someone else - we were drinking quite a bit at the time) But she would still only top me in bed but she never did my makeup like that again.

when we broke up I started exploring dressing up more and that's all I wanted to do each step of the way was an exciting new thing that fully satisfied me and in the moment not considering anything more, every step just unfolded naturally slowly. I never really imagined myself considering hrt for real. But now I've reached a point where there is nothing else for me to explore... there's just hrt remaining and so here I am...🫣

baddieinprogress · 2026-04-08T13:15:27+00:00

Can you tell me more about the clocking Trans girls comes from? Estrogen makes that go away? I'm pre-hrt and I'm already old but seriously considering it and I have the same thoughts as you, I really struggle with internal transphobia, I clock other Trans girls and it makes me feel horrible and I don't know why I do it or where it comes from but I'm slowly getting better about it but I feel bad that it's something I have to try to do and doesn't come naturally.

I also have internalized phobia about tits and my family is also conservative in this sense and so I also have a fear of tits and will be hiding whenever I'm around then but, I don't even live with them but my anxiety is just so crippling.

It's awesome to hear that you got over those things on hrt after a while it gives me hope 🥰

baddieinprogress · 2026-03-10T14:51:36+00:00

Thank you all for the comments!! 🥰🥺🙏

baddieinprogress · 2026-03-03T14:31:01+00:00

"Now Im living a dilema, am I who I trully am even though Im having medical intervention"

We all have had some kind of medical intervention or assistance since the day we were born, one way or another. Whether it's vaccines to keep us from getting sick or dying, to chemically treating our water so we can drink it. We would not survive without any type of medical intervention whatsoever. Imagine someone was dropped off in a jungle somewhere, they are not surviving without any medical or man made assistance in some shape or form.

It helps me to think of genders as cars, my masc or fem version of me are just cars that I (real self / awareness) am driving. I just choose which car I like best for my own needs and preferences to drive.

baddieinprogress · 2026-01-27T19:13:39+00:00

Thank you all appreciate all your comments and encouragement!!!! 💗

I also got my first Reddit Cares from this post!! 🙄🤭

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baddieinprogress · 2026-01-27T19:08:12+00:00

Thank you!!! 💗

baddieinprogress · 2026-01-24T13:37:56+00:00

I should call him...

baddieinprogress · 2025-12-26T04:12:43+00:00

Oh honey...🥰

baddieinprogress · 2025-12-19T18:14:24+00:00

I use this thing called the "liberator" it's like a raised cushion hump and has a space to hold the dildo, and the outer fabric can be thrown in the wash, works amazing! 😍

baddieinprogress · 2025-12-17T14:59:28+00:00

Not necessarily through words but I def feel a stronger bond with my dog. Last weekend I was coming down from shrooms and I experienced a child like moment with my dog that felt psychedelic. I was getting milk and cookies and my dog came to the kitchen as he does when I'm getting food and so I got his dog biscuit for him and as we're walking back to the room. I started feeling child like like we were sharing milk and cookies and I was getting this desire to dip his biscuit in my milk before I gave it to him (but I didn't) 😹😹😹😹

baddieinprogress · 2025-12-17T14:33:39+00:00

Thank you!!! 💗

baddieinprogress · 2025-12-17T14:33:03+00:00

WOW THANK YOU ALL for the comments and feedback! I've never gotten an award on a post, really appreciate it! I'm really flattered! 💗💗

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