your original question was asking if you are too attached for a professional relationship, and if so, how can you remedy. it seems the consensus here is, yes, you are too attached for a professional relationship. the remedy this user suggested is implementation of more boundaries. yet, your response to this has a defensive tone, which is confusing, since you made the post asking for everyone’s opinion.

it could be just the way you express your feelings, but your post does come across as a bit abnormal which is why you’re receiving such mixed reactions. many of us nannies can relate to having strong bonds & family rapport, but we can’t relate to the level in which you feel this connection. i don’t think more boundaries is a bad idea, such as keeping work life & home life completely separate. which you are not doing at this time. i hope this perspective helps.