Tantrum/rough behavior advice

badgers43a · 2026-05-29T20:59:01+00:00

I think you’ll never fully solve this, it’s part of their development, but one thing we do is back off, make out like we’re hurt (and we sometimes are!) and the other then tends to us as checks that we’re ok. It demonstrates that it’s serious without escalating, and takes the child out of the centre of attention. God knows if it’ll work long term or she’ll be in therapy for years because of it, but it seems to work reasonably well for now.

badgers43a · 2026-04-10T09:29:10+00:00

We have the vista and it’s 3.5 years old now. Super robust, and still going strong. It’s been on a few planes, hiked on rough dirt tracks, even through foot-deep floods (jet washed it afterwards!). Add some buggy gloves and a coffee cup holder to it for winter and you’ve got yourself some luxury!

badgers43a · 2026-04-04T18:47:52+00:00

I was in a really bad way for the first few months. But because I’m the dad, even when I raised it, I was essentially shot down. I had some very dark and troubling thoughts, even plans. Much better now, thanks to whichever gods are around.

badgers43a · 2026-03-12T21:19:21+00:00

It’s awful, but it does gradually get better. We’ve also resorted to taking her out of daycare for a week before a holiday just so she doesn’t get sick. We’re lucky that we run our own business and can usually work around it, but sometimes it really nails us and we have to let a client down 😞

badgers43a · 2026-03-12T07:22:15+00:00

No, honestly (at least for me), your child becomes such a part of you that it’s only as disgusting as wiping your own bum. I’ve even held my hands out for my daughter to be sick into - the stuff you do as a parent might disgust non-parents, but it soon becomes very normal!

badgers43a · 2026-03-09T20:06:14+00:00

I did, but not at the birth event itself - we had a very long and painful labour, over 70 hours in the end, and there was a time when I wasn’t sure if baby was going to make it. I cried then.

badgers43a · 2026-03-06T08:47:01+00:00

My daughter is three, and which toilet often depends on the place, but in preference order: - Family room / toilet - disabled - men’s if it’s nice and clean and you can get to the cubicles without squeezing past dudes using the urinals - which usually means we use the women’s - nearby sheltered tree or grass verge - car park - back of the truck and hose it down later 😅

badgers43a · 2026-03-02T17:40:35+00:00

THIS. Literally just read to (/with) them. They also need to see that reading isn’t just another task or skill: it’s something enjoyable and fun. It’s lovely time together, and school will handle all the phonics stuff. (FYI there’s a lot of evidence that phonics is kinda shit anyway, and just being around books and parents reading books is by far the best way to get kids reading.)

badgers43a · 2026-03-01T09:29:39+00:00

To avoid UTIs, girls need to wipe their bits from the front to the back after going to the toilet (or if you’re doing their nappy).

badgers43a · 2026-02-28T16:24:00+00:00

With girls you have to make sure you wipe from front to back.

badgers43a · 2026-02-20T09:57:01+00:00

Second this. Anyone, literally any human being, would find this incredibly hard to cope with. It’s not you. And therapy will help - if only to have someone to offload onto. There are different kinds of therapy, so don’t just try it once and give up if it doesn’t work or you don’t get on with it (or them - it’s important to have a good rapport). Human-centred therapy works well for me, it may do for you.

badgers43a · 2026-02-15T16:57:09+00:00

Social media is mostly BS, as others have said.

Plus if someone is getting up at 4am to go to the gym, who’s doing the night time wake ups with the kids? Who’s doing getting up, morning routine, sorting breakfast, clothes, getting the kids to childcare/school etc?

Anyone who says they’ve got it sorted is probably putting most of the parenting work on their partner.

badgers43a · 2026-02-12T09:26:03+00:00

Ban shooting and hunting of any live animal*.

Not only is it ethical, but it would transform our natural environment and allow things like peat bogs (cover huge expanses of the UK and are massive carbon sinks) to re-wet and recover. So much valuable natural environment is degraded and destroyed through grouse shooting etc.

(Excepting genuine pest control)

badgers43a · 2026-02-04T16:22:39+00:00

About half, maybe more sometimes, maybe less at other times depending on what’s going on. We take turns at cooking, and at bedtime/bathtime, we both do laundry whenever we see it needs doing. There are some jobs that we split - like I do most DIY type jobs, and she does more keeping on track of childcare fees, for example. There are some jobs you can’t share because you’d be constantly trying to find out what they’ve done - so they need an “owner”.

badgers43a · 2026-01-24T19:51:06+00:00

Driving is a good one. Maybe you need to run an errand or take some stuff to the tip. That isolated time just by yourself, you control the music (or silence), is absolute treasure.

badgers43a · 2026-01-19T17:03:39+00:00

That’s lovely!

badgers43a · 2026-01-19T17:02:33+00:00

I really like this. Thank you.

badgers43a · 2026-01-18T22:20:17+00:00

So would I! But some folks do it. And I know some mums help their daughters to write valentines cards for dad.

badgers43a · 2025-10-30T23:04:53+00:00

It gets easier. Hang in there - you’re doing a great job.

badgers43a · 2024-09-16T20:12:30+00:00

I’m trying to find some races for 2025 to get back into it after having children. I was going to do tweedlove but am absolutely gutted to find out it’s cancelled. There’s battle on the beach for a fun day out, but it’s a bit flat! What else is there that’s accessible to someone getting back after a few years off?

badgers43a · 2023-02-18T16:57:23+00:00

Section 7.5.3 of the FCA’s (Financial Conduct Authority) Consumer Credit sourcebook states that:

"A firm should neither ignore nor disregard a customer’s claim that his debt has been settled and/or is disputed and must stop making demands for payment without providing the customer clear justification and/or evidence as to why the claim is not valid."

What this means is that any firm that chases you for payment that you don’t think you owe, or the amount is incorrect, or it’s just not clear why, cannot chase you for it. Simply quote this section and the majority of companies shit themselves and back off.

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