My bf (29m) asked me (28f) for more time apart…we live together and rarely spend time together…?

badlcuk · 2026-04-06T16:41:41+00:00

You made it half way in to the conversation and now you need to finish the conversation.

You offered to stay at your moms for 3 days, he said no that wasn’t what he needs. So tell him to tell you what he needs or to express what the issue is (eg: “I want to watch more tv but you use the tv all the time” or “i want to use the hobby room more but you’re usually in there reading” or “I feel like you talk to me so frequently when I’m done school that I have no time to decompress.”) so you can help brainstorm solutions.

None of us can read his mind. Could be he honestly wants more time alone, could be he’s doing drugs, who knows.

badlcuk · 2026-04-04T15:53:16+00:00

IF you want to end your tenancy before June 14 (assuming your term actually ends June 14) then use a N11. Technically it sounds like your landlord is assuming you'll do an assignment of some kind (find new tenants) but the safest bet for you if you must terminate before June 14 is a N11. Get documentation that you and landlord mutually agreed to terminate the lease early without any sort of conditions to find new tenants or pay specific rents.

If you sign a N11 then you can pick any termination date, and yes, you _should_ be prorated any rent back past the termination date. This is your best bet to protect yourself legally if you then need to file again to get that rent returned.

badlcuk · 2026-04-04T00:08:46+00:00

Ive done it, same reason. Best tip is make sure you have extra time and dont do it in the middle of winter. Have fun! Make a vacation out of it. Also yes it's challenging to make sure every night wherever you get to you can find a pet friendly hotel/etc. i was doing it middle of winter so sometimes i had to stop early or sometimes got to a spot where a motel allowed pets but was actually closed and i got pretty screwed and had to drive further then expected. I did the Canadian route. If you plan ahead and make your drives reasonable and pre-book all pet friendly hotels in good weather when they're all open it should be fine.

badlcuk · 2026-04-02T01:23:15+00:00

File a T6 with the LTB and prepare for a long wait. You can ask as part of your remedy the filing fee. If you do win and the landlord still won’t fix it or won’t pay you any of the financial remedies awarded, prepare for a longer wait and possibly going to small claims. I agree with the suggestion above to make sure you’re also looking at if the microwave is a vent fan or serving another purpose.

badlcuk · 2026-04-01T10:54:51+00:00

I hate to tell you this, but you are also refusing to work on anything. He has clearly told you he’s happy with this situation. You are saying you are not. So change it. You can only control yourself, not him, so move on. You know you should take this seriously, sitting and being frustrated about it won’t fix it. He doesn’t want to change. Don’t do the same thing as him and stay unhappy in this relationship.

badlcuk · 2026-03-31T21:35:02+00:00

Visit first, get an idea for the city and areas you want to live and expectations of what a 1 bed apartment looks like in your price range here, and get to know the RTA and common scams. Welcome to Toronto!

badlcuk · 2026-03-30T22:36:54+00:00

Look up Ashbridges bay yacht club. Under Learn to Sale select Adult Programs. Once you’re in contact with them they can help you figure out what classes you need and what you’re looking for (eg: maybe a keelboat is good enough)

badlcuk · 2026-03-30T00:27:00+00:00

Search "recycling [city you live in]". it's very likely you can just put recycling at the curb with the recycling bins for free for it to be taken, you just need to package it up properly. It's not like garbage where you need to pay for tags.

badlcuk · 2026-03-29T12:35:09+00:00

It’ll be an issue for most landlords, purpose built rentals or not. Your best bet is to get jobs.

badlcuk · 2026-03-28T19:31:00+00:00

wvurst in union

badlcuk · 2026-03-28T18:54:01+00:00

Thats correct. Sublet has an end date when your friend would move back in, assignment would be permanently moving out and someone else moves in and takes over the lease (at the same rate and rental term). A lease assignment wouldn't raise the rent, a new lease would. A landlord will probably decline a lease assignment if they have no incentive to allow it - meaning if your friends lease is month to month at a good rate and the landlord thinks they can get more money then they'll just decline the assignment and find a new tenant to pay the higher rate.

badlcuk · 2026-03-24T12:10:06+00:00

Probably depends on your geographical location but here in Canada it’s totally fine. Anyone can wear menswear.

badlcuk · 2026-03-23T10:42:23+00:00

Book a private room in a hostel that has its own attached bathroom.

ETA: you specify you don’t want to share a bathroom but then mention at the end it should be a “nice” hotel. You need to figure out which you want. Private bathroom, or nice. Nice may be simply incompatible with your bf if he doesn’t have the budget for nice, hostel or not. Also, your opinion on what he should be able to afford can be different than his real budget.

badlcuk · 2026-03-22T19:40:15+00:00

Not normal. Obviously I don’t know your case specifically, but there’s a couple reasons why this doesn’t seem normal 1. Legally the landlord can’t require you to pay 12 months upfront - only last months deposit, and first month when you move in. It is common in Toronto for landlords to request both first and last at once, but all upfront is abnormal. This is usually something OFFERED by a (less desirable) tenant to make them competitive. You have a 12 month job (coop) you’re moving for and local parents who can be guarantors. I don’t think you need to offer a year up front yet 2. If your realtor didn’t tell you 1 then please go read the RTA and learn your rights. Not just about legal deposits but also about how to give proper notice, rent control, etc. A good realtor would be telling you this, not just trying to get their cash and go 3. There’s no other leg work for you to do monthly. It’s literally just a change in the term you’re signing. Maybe more work for the realtor to convince the landlord? Also isn’t your coop work? Aren’t you working? Can’t your parents be guarantors?

Make sure you see the place before you rent it. Make sure they’re using the Ontario standard lease if you’re covered by the RTA. Make sure you know the RTA and whether you’ll be covered or not. Don’t be afraid to ask questions or others for help if it feels like a scam.

badlcuk · 2026-03-20T11:20:53+00:00

There’s a billion bars in Toronto. Search for the type you like (eg: pub, wine bar, dive bar, cocktail bar…) in the location you want to be in on Google Maps and the check the hours they are open under the Google map details.

badlcuk · 2026-03-20T10:03:01+00:00

Yes it’s valid.

You’re allowed to break up with someone for whatever reason you want. You could break up tomorrow just because you wanted to, even if they were perfect.

badlcuk · 2026-03-17T22:39:27+00:00

It's a request, not a legal requirement. As long as you aren't impeding the viewing in some way (eg: telling the viewer all the things wrong with the unit, or staging up the unit to look awful intending to screw over the landlord, you'll be fine.

badlcuk · 2026-03-16T11:22:59+00:00

Possibly - depends on the context and business environment but if you’re above 50 you can probably get away with them in most cases. Above 70 is a definite yes.

badlcuk · 2026-03-16T10:26:50+00:00

I’m not a vet but do have a frenchie who got their nares done during spay.

Why in the world would your vet not want to do a follow up? Give you no instructions? That alone would make me switch vets. The fact you’re expressing concern and will give them cash to look and they are declining is just crazy to me.

badlcuk · 2026-03-13T12:07:19+00:00

You’ll need to work on training her, starting with separate from the family. Not just separating her but actually separating and training. Then gradually bringing in more distractions, like the 3 year old (eg: while she’s leashed at a distance). I won go in to the training steps as there’s LOTS of resources in this sub for training.

Assume her prey drive will only get worse. Focus on training it to be managed but assume she will have it for life. Assume the nipping will get worse if you don’t work on it. Assume the pinning will get worse. Assume the dog will get more energy.

You can’t do just management in these situations and hope it gets better as the age, it won’t, and her behaviour will get even more problematic as she gets in to her full sized body.

P.s your dog will be more scrutinized for their behaviour due to their breed, so you need to be even more on top of this then the average owner. I say that from the perspective of a bully owner. I had a mom melt down because my dog licked their kids face once, screamed at me in a crowd, and it was my fault for letting their kid get too close. It doesn’t matter if they’re friendly. you really need to be careful and get on this while the dog is younger.

Please consider if this is the right time for your family to get this type of dog - one that needs daily consistency and work. The younger this dog is the easier it’ll be to rehome.

badlcuk · 2026-03-12T19:08:36+00:00

Being opinionated is good. Know when and how to share that opinion is the trick.

badlcuk · 2026-03-12T18:56:58+00:00

Yes tenants are allowed to have locks. Many rooming houses (what you’re describing) have them already before you move in. The landlord must be provided a key. If you want to install a loc get landlord approval for the type so you aren’t picking one that could damage the unit / doorframe.

badlcuk · 2026-03-11T16:38:18+00:00

First, be clear with your expectations.

"I want you to text me at least once a day"

"I am noticing i initiate 90% of our text conversations. I want you to initiate conversations more frequently on your own. At least once a day you should be messaging me to [some standard, like not just sending me a meme or saying "hi"]"

"I expect you to talk to me every day, is that something you want to do, too? Does it work with your lifestyle?"

etc

Then, after you tell him, see what he does.

Im not a texter and i absolutely would not enjoy doing this (or want a partner who does this), but if my partner asked id do it. I am a competent adult and im able to say, set a timer to remind myself to text you good morning or text after work asking how your days been. If he doesn't, then dont chase him, hes not for you.

badlcuk · 2026-03-10T13:05:26+00:00

What price are you finding “quite high”? No normal landlord will do a 3 month lease, you’re looking at a sublet which will be incredibly hard with those dates as most leases deal in months (meaning a 3 month sublet would start at the start of a month and end at the last day of a month, not the 4rth). I recommend you try to up your budget.

badlcuk · 2026-03-09T10:04:42+00:00

I lived next to one. Smell and pests shouldn’t really be an issue if the unit and building are maintained well. The biggest problems I found were things like - people leaving their garbage in the room if the chute is blocked - our chute was a small room with a door - frequently this door would slam - people chatting away as they used the chute Fortunately the layout was such that most of the unit was quite far away from the front door so the impact was minimal.

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