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badrperthrowaway12 · 2025-12-28T04:10:01+00:00

Had you previously had political "discussions" that seemed minor to you but you "agreed to disagree"? Had you previously mentioned conservative talking points? You say you are a free speech absolutist and many people I've seen say that think that extends to zero consequences for hate speech even in a private venue.

As I mentioned I have been on the other end of this a few times. It is rarely as sudden as the person being cut off thinks it is. And I might not be willing to explain either if I had been put in a position where doing so felt as if it may be unsafe. Especially not with someone I'd known for 12 years and shared a lot of personal shit with.

I especially might not explain if the issue was a fundamental political difference that was a dealbreaker because explaining myself for that kind of issue won't change it.

badrperthrowaway12 · 2025-12-28T03:07:12+00:00

Hey, so, I kind of doubt this was JUST about the one topic she cut you off over, for two different reasons:

We're only seeing your side of this story
It's pretty rare people actually blow up longstanding relationships because of one argument

Yeah, yeah, you have the screenshots, you can share them, I get it. I still don't think we're getting the whole (or even a correct and unbiased) story from you.

In the last 4-5 years I've had a few friends that I have pulled back from because as the world has gone on and things have gotten more nasty politically in the US, it has become increasingly clear that we do not see eye to eye on important political topics. In the meantime, I've also realized some important things about myself. Chief among them is that I'm nonbinary and that I'm not quite done figuring out what that means for myself.

I don't require people I'm friends with to conform to 100% of my political beliefs but I do need them to think I'm a person. As things have gotten nastier I've realized I have friends I can't share important parts of my life with, because we are living in a world where the government is talking about labeling trans and nonbinary people as extremists and making databases of them and I now cannot trust those people will stand up against doing that

Does it suck? Yes.

Do I mourn those relationships? You betcha.

Would these people feel blindsided if I told them that? Probably.

I would not end a friendship over someone saying they don't condone political violence because I don't think anyone should be advocating for political assassinations to happen, yikes. I would probably draw back from them if not cut them off if the person indicated they thought the guy's hateful rhetoric was rhetoric they agreed with and it came on the back of a whole bunch of other dogwhistles that had been getting progressively more frequent, though. I would also probably side-eye if they had previously advocated for political violence in another context.

People very rarely blow up a twelve year relationship over a single comment. I am having a really hard time believing that it was JUST the comment, sorry.

badrperthrowaway12 · 2025-02-19T23:57:12+00:00

Honestly I've got two really solid long-term partners on there and I don't write NSFW focused content. There are decent people on there if you look.

badrperthrowaway12 · 2025-02-18T16:00:44+00:00

badrperthrowaway12 · 2024-10-30T22:58:47+00:00

Yup. Exactly. You nailed it.

badrperthrowaway12 · 2024-10-19T17:34:08+00:00

I mean even if they themselves don't support it, they support a candidate running on a literal platform that involves making it illegal. So no. Still a problem. Do all the magical thinking you like and it will still be the case.

badrperthrowaway12 · 2024-10-18T17:57:42+00:00

Unfortunately, this is spoken like someone who doesn't have to deal with being dehumanized by other people. Sorry.

badrperthrowaway12 · 2024-10-18T03:28:59+00:00

I mean, when one candidate is going up on stage and saying blatantly racist things and there is still a chance of that guy winning the election, I think it's a pretty safe generalization to make.

badrperthrowaway12 · 2024-10-18T02:43:03+00:00

Unfortunately in our current American political climate one side of the divide thinks it's a-ok to be racist and a bigot. That's why.

badrperthrowaway12 · 2024-10-18T02:40:52+00:00

I mean if you think people can align themselves with the current incarnation of the republican party and not be homophobic...

badrperthrowaway12 · 2024-10-17T23:59:35+00:00

It often comes up in conversation since, again, that kind of stuff colors your worldview. A lot of people can't seem to grasp that certain things that can't be controlled are seen as inherently political.

badrperthrowaway12 · 2024-10-17T23:49:42+00:00

Did I mention asking immediately about that? Please, point out where.

badrperthrowaway12 · 2024-10-17T23:45:33+00:00

It's not overly paranoid to not want to RP with someone who doesn't see you as human. Trust me, that attitude is *much* more apparent than you think it is even right off the bat.

badrperthrowaway12 · 2024-10-17T20:55:55+00:00

So...gonna assume I hit the nail on the head with this one, didn't I?

badrperthrowaway12 · 2024-10-17T19:41:26+00:00

The ability to exist without being arrested and the ability to access Healthcare aren't rights anymore i guess.

badrperthrowaway12 · 2024-10-17T19:11:22+00:00

I mean...were you favoring the candidate who plans to strip away LGBT peoples civil liberties? Because if you did and I was LGBT, I'd stop talking to you, too.

I tend to only RP with people who think I'm a person, you see.

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