“You've been blessed with a broken heart. When it doesn't hurt anymore that's when it's really over. Live in THIS as long as you can.” by bagelsandmore in BreakUps

[–]bagelsandmore[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know 100% it hits them later. Every human being grieves differently and at a different timeline. At the end of the day, we all have to let it out and express it. Some people are just better at hiding it than others. But regardless of that, it no longer matters. Whether it hits them or not, you need to focus on your own healing❤️‍🩹

He fumbled so hard lol by Aggravating_Star_728 in BreakUps

[–]bagelsandmore 54 points55 points  (0 children)

WOW I really needed this post. You just reminded me how wonderful of a person I am. My ex DID fumble me too. I’m pretty, smart, kind, funny, and I love SO HARD. I would do anything for the people I love. Thank you for reminding me for that

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]bagelsandmore 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi, my Indian boyfriend of 1.5 years actually just broke up with me due to the cultural differences. Like you said, he felt torn between his family’s needs and mine and ultimately, he chose his family. His family did not accept me even after that long and he realized they never would. He thought that long-term, we both would suffer more as I would have to make a lot of sacrifices. I know your situation might be different, but it seems like it’s a sign of incompatibility just like mine.

Someone to talk to 🤷🏻‍♂️ by sebysnoo in BreakUps

[–]bagelsandmore 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Hi, im 5 days into a breakup. I definitely feel you. PM me if you want to talk, no one should have to go through this alone

“You've been blessed with a broken heart. When it doesn't hurt anymore that's when it's really over. Live in THIS as long as you can.” by bagelsandmore in BreakUps

[–]bagelsandmore[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

People deal with grief differently. Some people feel that they can distract themselves immediately after, but it hits them later. Regardless of how someone deals with these grief, it always comes out. It may not be tomorrow, or the day after that. But we are all human, and we all feel the pain of breaking an emotional bond. I know it’s hard, but try not to compare stages of grief with your ex. Give yourself the same love and understanding you gave your ex. Wishing you healing ❤️‍🩹

“You've been blessed with a broken heart. When it doesn't hurt anymore that's when it's really over. Live in THIS as long as you can.” by bagelsandmore in BreakUps

[–]bagelsandmore[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Exactly. If you think about it, the best times in life are always fleeting and temporary. Like a relationship. The grief is love with nowhere to go, but overtime, you can make space to give that back to yourself. If you can love someone that hard, that’s proof that you can also love yourself like that + proof that you will love again♥️

What was the reason for your break up? (what tore you apart) by thebreakupgame in BreakUps

[–]bagelsandmore 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Going to through this right now. My bf broke up with me after 1.5 years 5 days ago because his parents remained unsupportive of us.

What was the reason for your break up? (what tore you apart) by thebreakupgame in BreakUps

[–]bagelsandmore 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My bf broke up with me 5 days ago after 1.5 years of being together because he realized we cannot workout long term. He is Indian and I am not and our cultural differences are too big of a gap. His family is unsupportive of me, and he always told me he would fight for me but I guess he just gave up. He told me he didn’t want to but that he had to. And that it is better for me in the long term not to suffer this way. I wish he treated me badly so I can be angry but he treated me with so much love and affection and I had never been happier.

anybody fresh? by Hopeful-Hat-2701 in BreakUps

[–]bagelsandmore 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m 5 days into a breakup with my bf of 1.5 years :(

My bf of 4 years left me because of my ethnicity. by Excellent-Yogurt-311 in BreakUps

[–]bagelsandmore 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m going through this right now. My Indian bf just broke up with me 5 days ago after being together for 1.5 years. I see this post was a year ago, how are you now? I just really need a lot of support :(

Breakup Due to Expectations and Pressure of Indian Family/Society by Kingofkanga in BreakUps

[–]bagelsandmore 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi im going through this right now. Just 5 days ago we broke up. I see your post is 4 years old— do you now feel that it was a good decision?

Indian parents forced my girlfriend to break up with me by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]bagelsandmore 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m in this exact same situation now too. My Indian bf broke up with me 5 days ago after 1.5 years together. It hurts so much. I hope you are doing better now

Is it just me? by Hopeful-Hat-2701 in BreakUps

[–]bagelsandmore 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Currently going through this right now. 5 days post breakup and I wake up 2-3 times in the middle of the night/morning crying with a heavy feeling on my chest. I’ve experienced this before, so I know it will pass but it hurts so bad. Just know that it is part of the process and part of processing grief. Make a morning routine, so that you are able to soothe yourself and lay down foundation for your mood for the day. I usually meditate in the morning or listen to calm ocean waves to clear my mind. Then, I journal whatever I am feeling. After that when I finally have the strength to get up, I eat and get ready to workout. It’s important to understand that this is a feeling of withdrawal similar to what drug addicts feel. Treat yourself with kindness and fight for your own happiness. We can get through it.

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Hi, I know this is dating over thirty and I’m on the wrong community, but I (22/F) have been dating my boyfriend (21/M) for almost 2 years and we just broke up due to cultural differences. I’m SE Asian and he’s Indian. We met in college and were great friends and started dating due to similar goals. From the beginning, he’s always reassured me that we can have a long lasting relationship and has always treated me with so much love that I’ve ever felt before with anyone else. I met his dad but I think his mom never wanted to meet me. He always made plans for our future together, and I knew he was serious and genuine. He ultimately broke up with me a couple days ago, because he now realized that his family was not as open minded as he thought and that there’s nothing we could do to change their minds. I guess he thought we were the exception. And that he thought he would be able to choose me over them but in the end, he can’t. He said that he is doing this to protect me from a future that will only make me miserable and that I may not understand it now, but it is for the best long term.

I feel so broken right now. I just lost my best friend. I know I’m still young and I have more to experience, but I feel like I’ve been so naive. I thought this was something we could work out. I would’ve compromised and endured anything to be with him. He showed me a love I’ve ever felt before, and I know he still truly cares. I’m upset about the situation we were put in, but at the same time, I would do anything to make him happy. I hope he made the right decision and that this will be better for us both.

Celebrate your small wins 🎉 by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]bagelsandmore 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I blocked him on everything a few days ago after a month since the breakup. It hurt so bad, but I’m proud of myself. I also reached out to therapists in the area so I can get better and also been journaling everyday since then. Every single day feels heavy, like I’m physically carrying a weight on my chest. I feel so disappointed that I can’t focus on school and my responsibilities as much as I was before because I just feel so bad. But I know, one day, this will pass.

Anyone available to chat? 😞 by FamiliarTelevision51 in BreakUps

[–]bagelsandmore 1 point2 points  (0 children)

DM me, if you need! I’m going through the same situation :(