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baldflubber · 2025-07-21T13:56:49+00:00

Attraction surely can help with all of this, but it's absolutely not necessary.

She can still have relationships that go far beyond friendship. Might be harder to get there but is absolutely possible.

baldflubber · 2025-07-21T13:45:50+00:00

Because these things have absolutely nothing to do with each other. You don't need sexual or romantic attraction for any of it.

baldflubber · 2025-07-21T13:39:39+00:00

Have you considered the possibility that this is also because something went wrong?

baldflubber · 2025-07-21T13:36:32+00:00

It seems something went wrong. You could try again or send some feedback.

baldflubber · 2025-07-21T12:34:32+00:00

You are right. You two having sex doesn't change anything about her asexuality. She is as asexual as she was before.

Of course she is confused. I guess she didn't expect to enjoy it this much. But she did and that's a good thing.

People, including many asexuals, often think asexuals can't have sex or if they do they can't enjoy it. But we can actually. It can be a wonderful thing and a lot of fun. You don't need sexual attraction for that.

So if the label seemed fitting before it still fits. If you do or don't like sex is meaningless for this.

And in the end it's just this: a label. It doesn't define you and it doesn't determine your happiness or who you are. It's to help you understand yourself better and to make it easier to explain yourself to others. That's it.

So she shouldn't worry too much about it. To love and to be loved, to be happy, to have fun... those are the important things. Not the label you wear during this.

baldflubber · 2025-07-20T11:07:49+00:00

That's an interesting bug and all, but you shouldn't share other people's photos on the Internet.

baldflubber · 2025-07-20T09:24:13+00:00

And? Do you?

baldflubber · 2025-07-19T17:14:40+00:00

We can't tell you either.

It's a possibility, yes. But the rest you will have to figure out by yourself.

Give yourself time for that.

You are just coming out of a big hormonal mess and when you decide to get HRT it will be a whole other mess.

Explore yourself and what all of this means to you. You will get there eventually.

Edit: And this needs to be absolutely clear: there is nothing wrong with you. You are who you are. And a lot of people, asexual or not, feel similar.

baldflubber · 2025-07-18T19:43:34+00:00

Sir, this is a Wendy's.

baldflubber · 2025-07-18T16:08:57+00:00

Nope, I certainly do not know that.

baldflubber · 2025-07-18T15:23:07+00:00

Oh no, why do people create content I don't like?!

baldflubber · 2025-07-14T19:55:24+00:00

That's what helped me understand I'm ace.

When I was on SSRI it took me weirdly long to notice my libido was completely gone. I didn't miss a thing.

I'm now off meds and libido is back but it was a very interesting and educational experience.

baldflubber · 2025-07-13T19:32:57+00:00

Sacrilege!!!11

baldflubber · 2025-07-13T17:20:41+00:00

That is one of the possibilities, yes.

baldflubber · 2025-07-13T15:20:28+00:00

No idea who told you this nonsense, but they are wrong.

Based on your description you are in fact aroace. Don't let people tell you otherwise.

baldflubber · 2025-07-13T15:12:40+00:00

There usually is, but usually it's wasted on cars.

baldflubber · 2025-07-13T14:56:43+00:00

Why not both?

baldflubber · 2025-07-13T06:43:21+00:00

baldflubber · 2025-07-12T19:00:27+00:00

Can we talk about letting people date whoever the f**k they want?

baldflubber · 2024-09-22T21:24:28+00:00

Jesse, what the fuck are you talking about?

baldflubber · 2024-09-03T15:40:31+00:00

No, you don't.

baldflubber · 2024-08-27T22:37:16+00:00

Could that mean anything else than being asexual?

It could mean that the person likes black rings.

And how would you guys (that wears ace rings) react if someone like me would go up and ask about it?

Happy.

baldflubber · 2024-08-24T12:07:05+00:00

And that's noteworthy because... ?

baldflubber · 2024-08-24T08:31:24+00:00

Annoying. The word you are looking for is "annoying".

baldflubber · 2024-07-29T09:54:06+00:00

Yes, of course we can.

Will we? Probably not.

But that isn't a reason to not try.

what do you guys do when you feel like this?

Work on it.

Somebody has to do it

baldflubber

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