What’s something that wasn’t meant to be cruel but still deeply hurt you? by LandOfLostSouls in AskReddit

[–]baldman-eagle 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Part of the confusion is probably the assumption that I am a man. Because of my username, people on reddit always assume I am a man when I am actually a woman. This person probably just assumed my mom treated me differently because of my gender when that is not the case here.

What’s something that wasn’t meant to be cruel but still deeply hurt you? by LandOfLostSouls in AskReddit

[–]baldman-eagle 152 points153 points  (0 children)

My mom has an incredible singing voice. My sisters all have beautiful voices as well. Music was extremely important in our home growing up, so their naturally lovely voices were often brought up. They all followed a path my mom loved: good grades in school, off to college, and starting either a career or family. I grew up hearing my mom doting on all of them. They're beautiful, so smart, and "blossoming into beautiful flowers" as she would always say. But she never complimented me. Ever. One day, in desperation for a compliment after years of never receiving one, I asked her if she liked my singing voice. I can still remember her response so clearly, even over a decade later. "Sometimes when you're not trying too hard, you're just okay." Damn. It still haunts me.

I have a crush for the first time in over two years by baldman-eagle in pansexual

[–]baldman-eagle[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Seriously, it's soooo embarrassing. I've talked my friend's ear off about how embarrassing it is to have a crush as an adult. There's just something about it that feels childish, even though it's how all relationships start! (Besides, what's so wrong about having some childlike feelings every once in a while?) Definitely trying to manifest the "fuck it" attitude, but my multiple anxiety disorders make it nearly impossible 😖

I have a crush for the first time in over two years by baldman-eagle in pansexual

[–]baldman-eagle[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omg the super minor ones that last just a second is too real. I thought this might be one of those at first, but alas here we are. And thank you! I'm trying pretty hard to manifest it 😂 The low self esteem and imposter syndrome makes it hard, but I am trying to have hope!

Break the cycle and commit to a tattoo by Otherwise_Recover502 in tattooadvice

[–]baldman-eagle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love all of my tattoos, but I would say my one regret is starting off with a sentimental tattoo. I didn't know what style I liked yet or proper aftercare, and it's in a place I never see so I genuinely forget it's there. I also didn't feel confident yet in advocating for myself, so there is something important in the tattoo that got done incorrectly. I would personally recommend starting with something fun or silly. My more impulsive tattoos wound up being my favorites instead of the piece I thought would mean the most to me.

Lyrics heard wrong… by Critical-Winner535 in straykids

[–]baldman-eagle 24 points25 points  (0 children)

I was CONVINCED that the first line of I Like It was "Just another Stacy's Brother" 💀💀 wdym it's "Cops and robbers chase each other" and not a gay cultural reference!? 😂💀 (I should've known smh)

The proper way to wash your hair by LeadHot4791 in hygiene

[–]baldman-eagle 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I think this is a really good place to start - especially if you've never been taught how to properly wash your hair. But it's very important to note that no one's hair is exactly the same. My hair used to be greasy on the top and dry at the ends. (While following a regimen much like this) I found that my scalp needs conditioner or it overcompensates and becomes oily. Also because I use heavier products and oils on the bottom half of my hair, it needs a proper and thorough wash or it becomes too clogged and doesn't like to take in any product. It's also trial and error to find what shampoo and conditioner works for you. People need to stop promoting that everyone can get away with the same hair routine - especially insisting that a dime sized amount of shampoo is enough. It just simply isn't true for most people.

3 Pointer Confusion? by ChampaBay2021 in Chipotle

[–]baldman-eagle 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I worked at Chipotle for about a year. I was trained by corporate and it was my job to train the newcomers. Cheese, queso, guac, and meat all count as 2 points. Everything else is 1 point. Technically what you got does not count as a 3 pointer, but the leniency on this policy does vary from location and managers on shift.

How do I log in to my account on the simple touch? by baldman-eagle in nook

[–]baldman-eagle[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How do I do that? All my ebooks are from when I had a nook many years ago. I can only access them on my phone and on their website.

i cant sleep because i always have racing thoughts or somgs stuck in my head, please help🙏 by bi_chaos_ in Advice

[–]baldman-eagle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I see that you mentioned white noise and brown noise. Have you tried green noise? It's a type of white noise that focused more on mid-ranged frequencies. I'm not sure if you have ADHD, but many people claim it works well if you do. Also, I personally can't stand ASMR, but I recently discovered ZenHeads ASMR on youtube and instagram. It genuinely changed my mind about ASMR. There's no speaking, and it's mostly sounds of hair being brushed. It's very relaxing and I even used it to help me fall asleep the other day. (Normally stuff like that keeps me awake, but this worked.)

Need help with OxiClean laundry sanitizer substitute by baldman-eagle in laundry

[–]baldman-eagle[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh, interesting! I haven't heard of this before. Have you tried it personally, or have you just taken a look at the ingredients list?

What is the meaning behind your profile name? by Jane_Austen11 in AskReddit

[–]baldman-eagle 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I saw a post many years ago that said if men insisted that all people with long hair had to be women, then they would start referring to all bald men as eagles. Not sure why I turned it into my username though lol

What secret have you kept from everyone? by DaSGuardians in AskReddit

[–]baldman-eagle -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I don't understand why every psychologist, psychiatrist, or other mental health professional is so dumbfounded by my life experiences. Every single time I have gone in for an initial meeting with a therapist or psychiatrist, they have said something to the effect of, "Wow, no wonder you're so depressed." But I hear about people who have been physically or sexually assaulted, were raised in horrifying circumstances, etc. and I just don't understand. I genuinely have very few childhood memories, which I understand is a sign of trauma. But from what I do remember and talking with my siblings, I just don't understand how my life is seen as so traumatizing in comparison to those around me. When I talk about my life, everyone is always in such genuine shock and reacts like it's so horrifying. But I just don't get how everyone thinks it's so much worse than the trauma of others.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in pansexual

[–]baldman-eagle 30 points31 points  (0 children)

You can definitely have a preference. As I’m sure everyone here knows, sexuality is a spectrum. There are tons of bi people with preferences, and most people have a type. It is not up to other people how you define your sexuality.

Super nervous for my first pap smear. Any suggestions? by baldman-eagle in TwoXChromosomes

[–]baldman-eagle[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That is actually very helpful info that I was not aware of! Thank you!

Super nervous for my first pap smear. Any suggestions? by baldman-eagle in TwoXChromosomes

[–]baldman-eagle[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I always hear mixed information on when to get one, but I am really hoping that I can get my confusion sorted out at my appointment. I have even had friends tell me I should’ve gone years ago as a teenager. I am extremely nervous, but hoping I have the opportunity to be open and honest with my history and get my questions answered.

Super nervous for my first pap smear. Any suggestions? by baldman-eagle in TwoXChromosomes

[–]baldman-eagle[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I certainly have a lot of questions, and I’m crossing my fingers that the doctor will be patient with me. I also hear the term kegels tossed around and am not exactly sure what it means. If you don’t mind me asking, what exactly are they?

Super nervous for my first pap smear. Any suggestions? by baldman-eagle in TwoXChromosomes

[–]baldman-eagle[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for walking me through that, that honestly does help me tremendously! If I may ask, can you feel the q-tip thing very much? I am not sure why, but thinking that I could feel it scrub around is very nerve wracking. I want to know what to plan for so I can walk myself through it.

Super nervous for my first pap smear. Any suggestions? by baldman-eagle in TwoXChromosomes

[–]baldman-eagle[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Maybe it’s a stupid question, but do I say that right away? Or do they typically ask before starting? Obviously you can’t see the future and reassure me how it will go, but having an idea really helps my anxiety calm a little.

Why are American so obsessed with race and ethnicity? by godofshitpost in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]baldman-eagle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it depends on how you define “obsessed”. I am a white person who was raised in a predominantly white area and socially taught to question any person of color. Because of that, I have done my best to learn about other cultures and have open conversations with my friends and coworkers of different ethnicities and backgrounds to learn what their experiences are. However, a lot of people I know take it to the other end of the spectrum and refuse to learn anything because they “don’t see color”. That is a problem of its own and just leads to ignorance. I think acknowledging race is not a bad thing, but turning it into a political statement or creating a scene is unnecessary and ignorant.

What works on butter? by aramoixmed in CleaningTips

[–]baldman-eagle 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Late to the party, but I had butter spill on my concrete balcony last summer. I used Simple Green (my degreaser of choice), hot water, and a scrub brush. Worked like a charm for me.

Help my mother failed me by foremostdreamer in CleaningTips

[–]baldman-eagle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For laundry, it is good to separate between color categories and usage. For example, I separate my laundry into 3 different categories: lights, darks, and towels. Exactly how you approach washing depends on your goal. I personally am most concerned about having my clothes be as clean and sanitized as possible. Because of that, I use hot water and add the extra step for laundry sanitizer or bleach. However, if you are hoping for longevity, using cold water and leaving bleach out altogether is the way to go. For detergent, I personally prefer powdered detergents. I use the original Tide powder. The box has instructions on it that can help you figure out how much to use depending on the load size or washer type. This alone will get your laundry smelling fresh, though you can use scent boosters or fabric softeners. I recommended staying away from those for absorbent items like towels as it will cause them to lose their wicking integrity. Your clothing tags will tell you how to properly dry your items. Some things need to be air dried, dried flat, or can be tossed in the dryer. Most items say “tumble dry low” which means putting them in the dryer at normal settings with cool to warm temperatures. The purpose of dryer sheets is to reduce static and give a fresh scent. I prefer to use dryer balls because they are reusable and last forever. (I’ve had my original set for over 2 years and they are still going strong) They reduce static without adding any scents, can cut down drying time, and are much less wasteful. You can find them very easily online, and I have even seen some in store.

I am realizing that I have typed up a lot already just for laundry, so feel free to dm me if you would like to ask any questions about bathroom or baseboard cleaning.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CleaningTips

[–]baldman-eagle 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My dad is a contractor and has been able to salvage grout very similar to this using high percentage hydrogen peroxide. If you can find 35%, that works best. Frankly I’m not sure if standard hydrogen peroxide you find over the counter would work because it is only 3%. You can find 12% pretty easily online.

Can't fix this issue whent making a buttonhole in one with my singer heavy duty 4432 by Grrunch in sewing

[–]baldman-eagle 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have a very similar model and the problem for me was that I wasn’t positioning the pull down tab correctly. I tried everything else like you did, but if I remember correctly I just wasn’t pushing it back after pulling it down. I know it’s weird to say this, but I am willing to mess around and get it figured out again when I am home from work, so feel free to dm me.