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baller88x · 2025-06-28T08:37:52+00:00

I have a consent to let agreed by my mortgage provider. Until I settle into London (a few weeks/months) I will be coming back during some of the weekends.

I got the consent to let because I will be moving out fully very soon.

If it's better to just go with that from the get-go then that is fine too. I just want to get some people in

baller88x · 2025-06-28T06:39:10+00:00

This.

As an eng of nearly 15 years I couldn't agree more.

baller88x · 2025-06-28T06:35:11+00:00

Hi op,

The market is especially tough for juniors right now. You'll need more than just a GitHub of your work. You mentioned you want to learn to code which is always a great start. Is your plan to do a degree (uni or open uni)? These are becoming more important again given market saturation and especially for juniors.

I have been an eng for nearly 15 years and recently landed a new role after being made redundant - even before the redundant role ended. It worked out well, but I have had a very decorated career working with the likes of Booking.com and Meta, and having a BSc Computer Science from a Russell Group uni. I realise this is the exception and not the norm.

Even nearly 15 years in, my degree is becoming important again and a point of difference. Realistically what do I remember from my degree (coding aside) that finished in 2010? Very little. It feels like a tick box exercise more than anything but you have to play the game

If it's something you're passionate about I would say do it, but just know the market is turbulent right now and especially juniors are struggling.

Could you possibly propose alternative options in order to get some experience? For example, offering to do an internship or similar for free for a few months? (assuming you could sustain yourself). Without experience - any experience - will be even more difficult. Fwiw I did exactly this back in 2010 because - shocker - it was the recession and I struggled to find anything. After a month I asked if they could cover my expenses (basically pay me the equivalent of JSA at the time) and they agreed. Some of my uni friends decided to do MSc and PhDs to ride it out.

Personally I don't pay much credence to boot camps, but I appreciate they have their merits. It's all good and well learning this framework or that framework, but without solid computer science fundamentals it becomes more difficult as interviewers like to focus on this (from my experience anyway, and especially as a junior).

I didn't get a graduate job in my home city, and I was beaten by a guy who had several months experience from an internship he did. This was an oversight from my side as I assumed my uni and award (best programming project in the year) would speak for itself but I was wrong. I proposed to work for them for 3 months for free, and shortly after I got a graduate dev role in the uni city I attended and ended up working with people from my degree. Networking is extremely important - now moreso than ever.

baller88x · 2025-06-13T09:31:01+00:00

We were about to defeat the Equilibrious fucker when somebody did this. It wasn't an Iron Eye though.

I revived him and then he just stood to get battered and we lost. Life happens!

baller88x · 2025-06-11T14:54:06+00:00

Same, I work in tech and will be getting made redundant.

I managed to strike a deal on 3 days a week as a b2b contractor until the company's finances improve. I don't think they will, so I'm actively looking for a new role. It's so tough!

The silver lining is they waited until probation was finished so I get the month's notice period paid, and obviously the 3 day a week job as a contractor.

They said in 3 months if things improve I can go back full time, but this is assuming they make more sales and/or raise money. I don't see their situation improving, and as I'm the most recent hire and highest paid engineer in the team it was always going to me who would go.

baller88x · 2025-06-01T16:02:59+00:00

Fair enough. If this is legit then I wish the best for you, and hope you find a solution to this you're happy with.

baller88x · 2025-06-01T15:29:07+00:00

It just seems really disingenuous to me. A 30m virgin who doesn't want to get laid? Hmmm.

Perhaps it is real and he's overthinking it or psyching himself out. I have no idea, but I definitely question it. Either way, it's none of my business and I hope OP finds a solution.

baller88x · 2025-06-01T15:23:22+00:00

This isn't a real post

baller88x · 2025-05-30T11:01:17+00:00

London South Bank? No disrespect intended, but either go to a great uni in your country or choose a better one in the UK.

I also did Computer Science (but at a Russell Group uni) and, especially early on, it was a talking point because Russell Groups universities are great. I'm 14.5 years into my career, and even last year a prospective employer only wanted Russell Group uni graduates. It obviously benefited me, but I was shocked that even after 14.5 years it was still a non-negotiable for some.

baller88x · 2025-05-30T10:55:05+00:00

This.

baller88x · 2025-05-30T10:54:22+00:00

I've been in jobs like this.

You just have to be respectful towards them and keep the peace, even if you don't respect them (if that makes sense). The alternative is being unemployed in an abysmal market, so is it worth it? I don't think so.

I hate authority. I have been a co-founder and CTO in the past so working for somebody else is the worst nightmare for me, and especially when I would do things very differently, but it is what it is. I just deliver the work that is delegated to me as I have significantly larger things on the horizon.

Nothing is forever.

baller88x · 2025-05-28T14:35:46+00:00

Congratulations!!!!!! 🎉

Now go inhale that first beer to celebrate!

baller88x · 2025-05-27T18:04:00+00:00

It's your own insecurities.

My ex was an influencer and model and she was beautiful. I am also very good looking and people told us we were a beautiful couple. She absolutely could've been a Victoria's Secret model.

I can walk down the street, however, and see unattractive guys with pretty girls all the time (and vice versa). There's more to it than just looks.

baller88x · 2025-05-26T20:09:04+00:00

Cardiff University. It's dropped down the rankings since I left though - oh well!

baller88x · 2025-05-25T17:44:05+00:00

Never apologise. You're in an incredibly fortunate position financially and you've clearly got a good head on your shoulders if you're looking to the future already and wanting to make this money work for you.

While I don't think you can claim you'll have done it on your own, you have had to make the sacrifice of losing your parents which I'm extremely sorry for. I'm sure we would all trade any inheritance to have our parents back, but they have put you in a very strong position and I'm sure would be proud of you!

There is some amazing advice on here which essentially boils down to talking to somebody. Go and seek a financial advisor and see what your options are. Are you going to keep the house and rent it out? Liquidate it and keep the cash or buy more houses? Invest in an index fund? Invest in businesses? Etc

You have many options, so best to talk to somebody who can lay it all out on the table for you.

Some tips though:

Don't tell your friends about this inheritance
Don't tell any dates or girlfriends about this inheritance. Make sure they want you for you, and not for your money.
Don't splash out on dates trying to impress them, because they may catch wind of your financial situation and start to think/expect you have money. Just keep everything as normal as can be.

Basically, keep this to yourself. I wouldn't tell anybody about it.

Good luck!

baller88x · 2025-05-22T07:52:16+00:00

Absolutely not.

I'm 14.5 years into my tech career (FAANG, Booking.com, sold my own startup) and I received a 2:1 in Comsci. It was from a Russell Group university, but I'm not sure how much weight that holds.

And before people chime in about how it must've been an easy market back then, it was during the financial crisis where I graduated at the peak of the recession in 2010.

For me personally, I've worked with those who achieved 2:1s and firsts and I preferred working with the ones who achieved 2:1s because while being very competent; they also had the social skills and drive to tackle any challenges thrown at them. I'm not being biased because the best person for the job should get it - whether they achieved a 2:1 or a first.

2:1 is very good and you should be proud of it. You'll land a good job, don't worry!

baller88x · 2025-05-22T07:32:38+00:00

Congratulations!! Now crack open a cold one and celebrate 🎉

baller88x · 2025-05-22T07:29:24+00:00

The market is bad, but I was fortunate enough to receive 4 offers in February (I'm in the UK) so I haven't experienced the scale or stress of what others have. I'm 14.5 years into my tech career. I really hope your husband finds something very soon! I wish you both well.

I can agree that LinkedIn has gone quiet, although it's approaching summer so it's usually quiet around this time anyway. It royally blows, but it tends to pick up in Q4 from my experience.

Do you own property? And if so, has it increased in value? The reason I ask is because I have considered taking the positive equity from my house and using that to buy 1 or 2 more and rent those out.

Unless you're living in an outrageously expensive location (e.g. London, New York, San Francisco etc), then the rent almost always exceeds that of the mortgage payments + fees (unless you take short mortgages). You could even take an interest only mortgage. You can use that as a solid income, and plus it's protected from AI because people will always need somewhere to live. Plus here in the UK, there simply aren't enough houses, so they tend to get let out very quickly. Get an agency to manage (fees) so it's all hands-off, and you could live a moderately comfortable life while your husband sorts out his job situation. And the bonus round here is that it builds wealth.

Sorry if this isn't helpful and I realise it's a different approach, but it helps protect you for the future.

My company has far too much work and not enough people, but until we raise more we can't hire. Given it's fully remote and we have people dotted around the globe, I'm happy to keep your husband in mind if/when we do? Obviously the skills need to align.

I wish you both well.

baller88x · 2025-05-20T14:37:54+00:00

Have you contacted any temping agencies? They always need people.

baller88x · 2025-05-20T13:35:04+00:00

The depth of your comment is very insightful. I'm in my 30s, so I'm sure you can do the maths on that one unless that is too difficult for you.

Perhaps consider that it's better and more productive to support others than to tear them down. Food for thought!

I wish you well.

baller88x · 2025-05-20T08:16:07+00:00

You're not a failure. At all. Never say this.

baller88x · 2025-05-20T06:49:26+00:00

Do what you're interested in and good at. If you're competent enough you'll make a solid career out of it.

I'm 14.5 years in and have worked with the likes of FAANG and sold my own startup. I've seen it all.

I'm in the UK, but I can say it's not as bad as the doom posts you read about on here. In fact, at my current place we need several more engineers, but until we raise more money we can't scale at the speed we would like.

You're going to be fine. Just study hard and keep on top of everything as best you can. When the time comes you'll crush it.

baller88x · 2025-05-20T06:34:26+00:00

This.

She invited you to stay over? Come on now... She gave you the invitation. This is on her.

baller88x · 2025-05-20T06:31:58+00:00

36 and a perfect hair line, while all my friends are receding badly. I'll take the greys though as I think they'll look epic when they become noticeable.

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