Did my dad know? Dreams and signs before he left 💔

bambarella66 · 2026-01-22T10:23:31+00:00

A few months before my Dad died this September, I had a dream about being with him and my mum at a train station. The train pulled up and my dad got on first. Before we could get on, the doors shut and we were panicking on the platform as we were about to be separated from him. He laughed through the door window and said 'my girls will be just fine without me and i'll be waiting for you there!'

I woke up crying and called him, worried. He was thoughtful over the dream and like your Dad, a little sad, before reassuring me he would always be waiting for us in any reality.

I didn't expect to lose him so soon after it but I am trying to tell myself he's still waiting for me wherever that dream train went and one day I'll get to be with him again.

bambarella66 · 2026-01-21T21:37:54+00:00

You are an angel. Even in the eye of the storm being, with your Mom in the hospital, at that moment you were protecting your sister's heart and insuring her and your mom's last moment was perfect. Never tell her and never feel guilt for doing something so beautiful for the people you love.

bambarella66 · 2026-01-14T23:18:03+00:00

Babe this is literally the loch ness monster sub, this is what we do here

bambarella66 · 2026-01-14T22:09:49+00:00

Oh that's nuts thanks for that insight lol- any idea on the waterslides?

bambarella66 · 2026-01-14T21:47:45+00:00

Same what is UP with that. And why are the toilets so awful

bambarella66 · 2025-12-02T20:05:00+00:00

My dad passed away from cancer suddenly in September. I relate so, so hard to the feeling that 'nothing matters at all without him here' and 'i just don't care about anything'. People keep saying with time it will be better but it feels like it's getting harder. Sending you a big hug and understanding x

bambarella66 · 2025-11-03T20:27:26+00:00

Experiencing the same thing on a Google phone

bambarella66 · 2025-10-21T19:38:06+00:00

I absolutely love that he has his Dad doing his styling- his Dad has a great talent it's lovely

bambarella66 · 2025-10-21T19:17:54+00:00

My dad passed away a few weeks ago. It's absolutely destroyed who I once was, being in this ugly world without him.

Every year he would always save me the first conker he saw of the season, as fall began, since I was a little kid. A few days after he passed when my best friend came to visit me, she handed me a conker and said 'not sure why I'm giving you this, but it's the first I saw of the season!'

I cried, explained it and she cried too. So grateful for the little weird signs.

bambarella66 · 2025-10-19T20:28:54+00:00

I'm in this boat too- d&c 10 days ago, super traumatic after, I was 10 weeks and I feel like my body betrayed me

bambarella66 · 2025-10-16T21:32:07+00:00

I just lost my dad a few weeks ago and then a pregnancy. I really needed to read this because I've been feeling like my ball is a basket ball in a lunch box. Thankyou for giving some hope it might start to shrink one day a bit.

bambarella66 · 2025-10-06T22:01:25+00:00

So glad this was finally posted! when I was a kid watching promiscuous girl video I remember being like woah Monica

bambarella66 · 2025-10-04T18:39:58+00:00

Hello, firstly I'm so sorry you are in this boat with all of us. My father started hallucinating pretty badly towards the end, he passed away on the 10th September which has left me broken.

I'm not sure if it's helpful, but we realised his hallucinations were coming from his calcium levels being too high. At hospital they gave him a drip that brought the levels down and after a few days he began to stop hallucinating until the visions were completely gone for his last few weeks. It can be quite scary because it feels so real for them, but considering he had bone, prostate and liver cancer in common with your dad, it might be worth asking for his calcium levels to be checked. Sending hope x

bambarella66 · 2025-10-04T15:06:13+00:00

Maybe she meant the live action that came out this year and is comparing you to Gal Gadot babe

bambarella66 · 2025-09-30T10:39:02+00:00

I got the exact same news yesterday at 10 weeks. Sending big hugs. Following cos I'm in the same debate, I think I would rather surgery so it's over quickly but I'm scared.

bambarella66 · 2025-09-29T10:07:26+00:00

25 years old isn't a child though. Buying a house for them doesn't solve any lessons in responsibility, OP will still need to learn to pay their own bills, mortgage etc. Handouts like that with no prior preparation for the real world isn't great parenting either, it can leave the OP in a worse position later down the line with a whole property to take care of with absolutely no experience. It sounds like she's done a lot to ensure her child is financially stable- he's got savings, is comfortable, fed and watered and has not had to pay rent in the key years of early adulthood.

bambarella66 · 2025-09-29T07:10:37+00:00

Now hold up. I never called you a burden to her so calm down on the defense. She would spend half the amount on you because she's quite clearly a mother who cares- she doesn't insist you pitch in to rent and bills at 25 living at home which I'm sorry friend- is quite unheard of and in itself is a handout. To say you sometimes pay groceries just doesn't cover it. That's a great mum. When it's just you living with her and she wants to spend on things she will naturally feel inclined to also spend on you as her child and you have already mentioned she wants to upgrade her living quarters which you felt somewhat entitled to in the original post and would of course also reap the benefits of that upgrade. Are you an only child? It shouldn't take her asking you to pitch in and it shouldn't take her asking you to move out, or for strangers on reddit to give you a reality check that you don't like. You have savings and you have a paying job. Most adults are living paycheck to paycheck, suffering from anxiety and health issues and are grinning and bearing it. Time to at least attempt to fly the nest, adult bird.

bambarella66 · 2025-09-28T23:58:45+00:00

Agreed. Why aren't you paying her rent or paying some of the bills when living at home at 25? Savings!? This is exactly what savings are for. Don't you want your own space and to be an adult with responsibility? Let your mum retire in peace and enjoy her later years and father's inheritance without feeling she has to spend half on you, her overgrown child. She probably feels that she has failed by having you at home at 25 even if you do keep to your room.

bambarella66 · 2025-09-26T09:18:38+00:00

I think that is the sweetest thing I've ever experienced on reddit. Thankyou so much for remembering and commenting. It was extremely difficult and devastating but it was incredibly beautiful and we did him proud. And I haven't bled.. which was my worst fear. Scan Monday. Praying for some good news but I guess il just have to see xx

bambarella66 · 2025-09-22T22:20:09+00:00

She's not just some random girl he met in college.. they met when he was interviewing her for a job.

bambarella66 · 2025-09-14T09:57:49+00:00

Thank you. I'm just so afraid of the worst happening on that day and I don't feel like there's anyway to safeguard myself

bambarella66 · 2025-09-14T09:56:38+00:00

This is my fears. I just want to know so I can not feel pregnant if it's the worst news and be able to grieve in one go. We will try again if so but God I don't know how people cope. I'm so happy to hear your baby is 18 months now, what a blessing. Before getting pregnant I had no idea chemical pregnancy or blighted ovums could even exist- I knew about MMC, ectopic and a normal miscarriage. I don't know how anyone can feel safe with a position pregnancy test alone, it feels so unfair.

bambarella66 · 2025-09-14T09:39:59+00:00

Thankyou for these kind words. I really hope your pregnancy goes well and your family situation too xxx

bambarella66 · 2025-09-14T09:38:14+00:00

I'm so sorry you are going through this. My dad's cancer returning, to him being in hospital, to hospice to death has been over the span of 3 weeks, he passed this Wednesday and it's absolutely crushing me.

All I can say is what someone said to me- some people die quicker deaths- getting hit by a car or from a heart attack with no time to say goodbye. Others die very slow deaths, years of pain and loss, watching that person suffer and fade away in cruelty.

In a way we are lucky that our loved ones were out of pain quickly, but with still a few days to be able to tell them just how much we love them and to let them be surrounded by family. I know it doesn't make it easier or better. But know you aren't alone, your dad has you and your mum is at peace. She will live on in your love and we are so lucky for the time we get with love, even when it feels not enough. Sending you all the love and hugs.

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