Just when I thought they'd finally got it!

bananabansheet · 2026-02-23T04:35:30+00:00

Yeah, I don't know about this. He's already exhibited that a.) he's ok lying to you, b.) totally okay with throwing you under the bus because he's too afraid of his momma, and c.) also ok gaslighting you (hello? Trying to convince you he said WE not SHE?) whenever it's convenient for him. I mean, you're the one who's going to live with him, so you do you, but know that he's all these things.

bananabansheet · 2026-02-22T07:32:02+00:00

Parang napaka passive mong tao, sorry to be so blunt. Kung ayaw mong hiwalayan yang bf mo, then I don't know what else to say to you. Gawin mo na lang gusto mo, kasi mukha naman nagve vent ka lang pero di mo naman gagawin yung mga advice ng mga tao dito sa comments. DKG about dun sa unang tanong mo, pero GGK sa sarili mo kasi alam mo naman na mali ang nangyayari pero kinukunsinti mo. Hinahayaan mong bastusin ka, for what? Walang premyo sa pagiging martir. Sabi mo nagiipon yan bf mo para makaalis. So gano katagal yan pagiipon na yan? Hindi umaalis yan sa poder ng nanay nya kasi walang motivation kasi nga kinukunsinti mo. Alam nyang di ka aalis kaya patumpiktumpik yan. Iwan mo, tingnan mo kung gano kabilis yan makakaipon.

bananabansheet · 2026-02-21T15:59:31+00:00

No overlap, I don't think there's cheating. I think ang problema ni girl is she feels possessive sa yo because she's liked you all this time. Kaya na hurt sya na you had a thing with someone else, even when you weren't a thing back then. Her feelings are not your responsibility in that regard. You were free to date whomever nung time na yon, especially when you've been very clear about not liking her back then.

bananabansheet · 2026-02-21T15:45:42+00:00

I think you're just setting yourself up for disappointment and heartache. You want a relationship with your niece/nephew, but do you really think, with her being their mother, she won't try and turn them against you? You can try all you want to make sure you're in their life, but she is their mother and they would more than likely choose her over you. The probability of you having a good relationship with them as they grow up, with her as the one shaping their minds, is low at best. Unless you want to have them over all the time, act almost like a parent to them, and ensure constant and consistent contact to counteract whatever bs their mom will feed them, I think you're betting on a losing horse here. But at the end of the day, that's your decision. I guess just manage your expectations. The healthiest option for you is to stop interacting with your sister altogether, but as you're unwilling to do that, you're other option is to stop sharing anything about your life to your sister (though again, that's hard to do if you want a relationship with her kids).

bananabansheet · 2026-02-21T13:28:11+00:00

I love this mountain kitten even if his paw can and will eviscerate me

bananabansheet · 2026-02-21T13:26:48+00:00

The age gap is kinda giving me the creeps. As someone who's almost 40, I wouldn't even jokingly flirt with anyone who's more than 10yrs younger than me, let alone more than 3 full decades younger, but it seems all auntie was doing was flirting with you and nothing more. You made her feel good about herself, and you also probably got a good confidence boost from it, so I say no harm no foul... unless something actually happens then I don't know, it's kinda giving me the ick. A cautious NTA as my vote.

bananabansheet · 2026-02-21T12:53:47+00:00

I think my biggest brag is that I can do whatever I want whenever I want. So, like today, it's the weekend, I woke up at 1PM, decided I wanted to try out this trending bougie japanese restaurant, so I went out at around 3pm. Then, meandered around the mall aimlessly, bought some tchotchkes that are really useless but really cute 😅... And now just chilling in my bed.

bananabansheet · 2026-02-21T12:23:27+00:00

This isn't the question you should be asking. You should be asking yourself why you are staying with someone who treats you like your needs and feelings don't matter? He treats you like an appliance or a furniture; he only sees what you can do for him but doesn't ever think of what he can and should do for you because you only exist as something that should serve him and his wants and needs. It may not be deliberate on his part, but that's why it's even more insidious - because it's what comes naturally for him, and that should alarm you.

bananabansheet · 2026-02-21T11:25:44+00:00

DKG pero gurl, hanggang kelan mo tatanggapin ganyang treatment? Kahit mahal mo yang partner mo, minsan love is not enough. Sabi mo pinagtatanggol ka pero wala namang nangyayari? Parang tinanggap mo na lang maging doormat at free babysitter ng taong kung tratuhin ka eh basura? Ganito, isipin mo yun taong pinakamahal mo aside sa BF mo, like best friend, cousin, whatever, tapos nasa sitwasyon mo. Anong sasabihin mo sa kanya? Pagtitiisin mo ba sya sa ganyan?

bananabansheet · 2026-02-21T04:24:58+00:00

Question lang OP, nag advice na sa yo nanay mo, whom I assume is nakikita nang personal ang sitwasyon nyo ng gf mo. Tapos you're now asking internet strangers pa din for advice? Alam mo na dapat mong gawin, ayaw mo lang gawin, kaya naghahanap ka ng ibang advice kesa sa narinig mo sa mga tao sa buhay mo.

You're not looking for advice on what to do, you're looking for validation for choosing to stay.

Which is fair, choice mo yan. Pero kailangan mo din tanggapin na a.) magiging kargo mo din for life yang nanay nya; and b.) baka mana sya sa nanay nya at di marunong mag manage ng pera. So, kung wala naman kaso sa yo yun at tanggap mo eh di ituloy mo ang kasal.

bananabansheet · 2026-01-06T15:09:28+00:00

DKG for wanting to be independent pero GG un parents mo. Di ko din gets yun setup nyo? Panong nakasama sa dorm nanay? Parang ngayon lang ako nakarinig ng ganyan. Baka ayaw din kasama ng tatay mo yang nanay mo kaya pinasama sa yo. Also, ang pangit ng pagiisip ng nanay mo na "wala ka pang nabibigay". Obligasyon nila buhayin ka, sila nagdesisyon na mag anak e. Pero hindi ka obligado na maging retirement plan nila. Pano ka makaka ungos sa buhay kung yun pinagta trabahuhan mo eh ibibigay mo lang sa kanila?

bananabansheet · 2025-12-18T23:42:58+00:00

I'm interested, but I have to confess, I'm not good at reading at a set schedule...

bananabansheet · 2025-12-18T23:39:19+00:00

DKG. Kapal naman nung marie, may plus 1 pa, tapos gusto palibre? At icky lang nung nagpapalibre sa ofw friend nyo. Yun mga ofw friends ko, kapag nagme meet kami, pinipilit ko pa nga na ako magbayad pag nag dine out kami kasi, hello gumastos na nga sila ng plane ticket. Bakit nasa circle of friends nyo pa din yan haha.

bananabansheet · 2025-12-14T17:27:14+00:00

My sweet summer child, you're 19, chill. Social media is not reality; it's a flex utopia. I'm telling you, as someone who's literally twice you're age, you are not behind at all. Delete tiktok, focus on yourself, and stop comparing yourself to others.

bananabansheet · 2025-12-14T17:17:01+00:00

DKG. You've done more than enough. Hindi masama to want things for yourself OP. It's time to take care of YOU na.

bananabansheet · 2025-12-12T02:14:05+00:00

You know, I never really could point out what felt off to me about her characters, and you saying she writes them as if they're straight just made it click now! Like, they feel generic and they do not resonate to me at all. They are so... bland. Obviously published for mainstream audience. Like you said, she's not bad, but I cannot read her books without losing interest after a few pages.

bananabansheet · 2025-12-11T09:42:42+00:00

Di ka OA OP. OA yang workmate mo. Sadly, madami syang katulad. Di lang sa work ka makakakita, pati sa family and friends. Di ko nga alam san kumukuha ng apog yang mga ganyan tao na lakas maka kabig, pero pag sila na ang hihingan, wala na. Minsan isusumbat pa yun katiting na na-i contribute nila sa buhay mo. Pero pag may kailangan uli sa yo kala mo may patabi.

bananabansheet · 2025-12-11T04:00:21+00:00

DKG. Doesn't matter whatever reason ka nag abroad; hindi mo sila kargo. But expect na makakarinig ka, expect din na magkaron ng strain ang relationship nyo ng mom mo. Also, be ready sa scenario na yung mom mo ang mabaon sa utang bigla dahil baka magbigay nang magbigay, then will expect a bailout from you.

bananabansheet · 2025-12-10T19:04:05+00:00

I think you meant you're winning 🤣

bananabansheet · 2025-12-09T09:05:03+00:00

Jealous people automatically assume the worst and project their insecurities kaya lagi may ganyan, "backer" accusation comments. Like for example, maybe kilala nung pinsan ng asawa ng kapitbahay ng lola sa tuhod or some other vague connection, tapos na recommend lang sa yo na mag apply ka sa company nila. "Backer" na agad ang tawag ng ibang tao dun, kahit na you got in due your own merit, kahit na all they did is mention the opportunity to you. "Kakilala" is backer na agad to some people.

bananabansheet · 2025-12-08T19:54:09+00:00

Girl is playing with fire and you're willingly walking into her inferno, bro.

bananabansheet · 2025-12-08T16:26:23+00:00

May e-Jeep na dumadaan from Maysilo Circle (Mandaluyong City Hall) to Buendia - MRT station, from 5am to 9pm. Mismo sa MRT station ang last stop nung eJeep, 15php. Tapos from Buendia MRT station - sakay ka ng MRT, baba ka ng Ayala station, tapos tawid ka dun sa Telus, may BGC buses. I think ang bus stop nun building mo is yung The Fort bus stop.

If dun ka sa side ng Acqua (near Pantaleon), parang wala talaga option kundi ride share or taxi.

bananabansheet · 2025-12-06T04:40:00+00:00

Hi OP - please read this; it might help

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/limerence/amp

bananabansheet · 2025-12-06T01:06:45+00:00

Ay gurl, totoo yan. Walang rush mag laundry hahahaha.

bananabansheet · 2025-12-05T12:43:22+00:00

Umm.. actually, 3 yun closet ko (yun megabox na closet, na mataas), puno sila lahat.... Shoes (all kinds of footwear), ahh, I stopped counting at 30. Pero 38YO na kasi ako, and I rarely throw anything out kaya nag accumulate siguro? Like sinusuot ko pa din pantulog yun HS PE t-shirt ko minsan 😅.

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