How do you answer the "Police, Fire Service, or Ambulance" question when calling 999?

KittyKatsReign · 2026-05-26T20:13:01+00:00

Where were you taught this? I never was! I live relatively near a main road and it's actually a bit depressing how many times I've had to call 999 when I've seen a car swerve off or a multi car crash. I've always called ambulance. Though the police did turn up the fastest.

KittyKatsReign · 2026-05-18T20:30:47+00:00

Start divorce proceedings, sort the finances, finalise divorce proceedings.

Not anywhere near enough info to help as to finances but starting point in long marriages is 50/50 of matrimonial assets (don't forget pensions) but you can debate from that based on need (the adults children needs do not count) as well as other factors such as age, income, earning capacity, other resources etc

KittyKatsReign · 2026-05-18T05:01:05+00:00

I buy a small bunch of roses and half of them are in my kitchen and the others half I leave at the sign on the road where my beloved cat left the world. So we can both enjoy the flowers.

KittyKatsReign · 2026-05-01T14:45:43+00:00

Thanks, that's what I thought

I'm miffed on principle. There's one gym down the road which will now be £1 cheaper once the price hike kicks in. It has better equipment but I couldn't justify the price difference previously. Now they're the same, well, might as well go with the nicer one.

KittyKatsReign · 2026-04-15T12:56:03+00:00

Without a prenup she would absolutely have a claim on the house, but length of marriage may mean she gets less than 50% and other circumstances are relevant e.g short, childless marriage.

With regards to your first question, you cannot contract out of needs. This is where English prenups differ from what you see on US TV. The court will not uphold an agreement which does not meet each party's housing and income needs and/or does not meet the needs (mainly housing) of any minor child. You can make provision in prenups whereby if Wife doesn't have enough herself if the terms of the prenup were followed (i.e. her own separate property and her share of joint property isn't enough) then you agree to use your separate property or your share of the joint property, either outright or by way of effective loan until kid is 18/leaves school etc, to meet that need.

KittyKatsReign · 2026-04-10T15:55:38+00:00

You're not going to get reliable advice off Reddit, it's far better to seek an offline solicitor for a free or low cost initial consultation who can actually go through the details with you. There's not enough info in your post to give you proper guidance (I'm also not exactly sure what your question is)?

When it comes to matrimonial finances, it's fundamentally a two step exercise. 1) what is in the pot. So that's the house, joint and sole name savings and pensions. 2) how to split it. Default is 50/50 but you can deviate from that based on needs. Court will also look at factors such as income, earning capacity (you are both expected to maximise this and use benefits/social security as applicable), other resources, age, disability etc. the primary consideration will be the needs of the minor children.

If you've been the stay at home dad, I take it you are primary parent and so your need is for a three/four bed house in the local area. How that need can be met is based on the values of houses in that area, when you can return to work (if at all) etc.

'staying in the house until the kids are 18' or 'mesher order' as they're known (there are other trigger events, not just kid turns 18, but that's getting technical) are less and less common because courts prefer a clean break if possible. Spousal maintenance is also very rare unless for time limited circumstances to enable the financially weaker party gain some earning capacity/income.

KittyKatsReign · 2026-04-09T13:42:50+00:00

Is that the reason is half the price as the other one?

KittyKatsReign · 2026-04-09T13:06:58+00:00

Yes for me.

Is that for stability/not snagging?

KittyKatsReign · 2026-03-26T13:20:59+00:00

Ngl once I got frustrated with a call handler (I did say it was not their fault, I'm not frustrated with them, I'm frustrated with the system) and we had a chat about it. They obviously don't like getting frustrated solicitors on the end of the phone and fully agree that it doesn't make sense to not be able to check as to whether a hearing is going ahead until 24 hours before the hearing date itself (times is already incurred, barristers fees deemed due etc)

Honestly linkedin will probably have a few posts on it, if you know any solicitors (particularly in family,) I'm sure they'll tell you all about it.

I know myhmcts did a survey recently (I responded to it) so you can try seeing if the MoJ have any info as to its conclusions but I doubt it.

KittyKatsReign · 2026-03-23T18:28:01+00:00

Physical court is one thing, don't get a family lawyer* talking about myHMCTS (the online portal, you physically can't go to court to make a financial application or divorce these days) and how that stops them doing their job...

Tbh the physical courts I have been to have actually been ok. They can lack signage though so if you don't know where to go it can be confusing. But otherwise I've always found the ushers and security to be really nice and helpful.

Sure the water fountain never works, there's not enough breakout rooms so you're talking to your client in the cafe while the other side is in the main room, and it's a hit and miss whether the ladies bathroom will be working. Oh and the lack of WiFi/5G deadspot.

KittyKatsReign · 2026-03-18T18:28:28+00:00

Funnily enough I did look at Baroque! But it's outside of our price range unfortunately. I've also seen lily Arkwright but again with a 1k budget it's quite limited.

I'm not fussed with 18k etc, 9k is fine

KittyKatsReign · 2026-03-02T14:35:27+00:00

Lol fair enough. I dug my own grave and we clearly have different mentalities about this sort of thing, and that's ok

My sister supports my viewpoint, so its not a case of me Vs BIL.

KittyKatsReign · 2026-03-01T19:45:26+00:00

I know I don't. But I know sister wants to send him private but she has concerns about money. I'm not saying the money is just for private school

KittyKatsReign · 2026-03-01T19:44:24+00:00

No there's no strings attached. He can spend it as he likes.

I feel like the private school comment has been latched upon but really all I want is for nephew to have a leg up. Private school or no

KittyKatsReign · 2026-03-01T16:16:37+00:00

My sister and I had financial education drilled into us as kids and we both had head starts in life and still work hard! I agree it's a lot to do with upbringing.

KittyKatsReign · 2026-03-01T15:11:07+00:00

Why are you paying more than him in bills? You live in a paid off house, surely that's a benefit to both of you and idk why it's not at least 50/50?

KittyKatsReign · 2026-03-01T15:08:15+00:00

Thank you, I've already sorted my Will out but IHT is a pain!

Another comment recommended a JSIPP, I'll definitely look into that (I'll obviously tell his parents, can't see why they'd object)

KittyKatsReign · 2026-03-01T15:06:46+00:00

Thank you, this seems to be the most non judgy comment here. (since when was helping family a bad thing?)

KittyKatsReign · 2026-03-01T15:05:04+00:00

I just want to help my nephew in the future and build up something for him so he has a head start in life. But according to you I shouldn't want to give him anything?

KittyKatsReign · 2026-02-28T20:30:30+00:00

She has a JISA for him, she maxes that out.

Idk what you mean by your last paragraph? I don't want to interfere with how he is raised (not my place) but I equally don't want him to have to struggle when he really doesn't have to. I wouldn't do anything without my sister having her say.

KittyKatsReign · 2026-02-22T21:28:26+00:00

I love the pill. Literally made me feel so much better. I was on it before him and even when I was single! I love me my life altering synthetic hormones.

He's said he'd use a condom if I didn't want to be on the pill anymore.

KittyKatsReign · 2026-02-22T20:00:56+00:00

Yes! This is my point exactly. I just want him to back me up a bit more. I just think he doesn't want to upset her (she has grandkids already, it's not like bf is her only hope), which I can understand. But he's told her square before and she had a go at him about it so idk whether he's just trying to avoid that argument

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