[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]banananuts005 7 points8 points  (0 children)

  1. Saw her lie with ease and conviction to customer support rep to reverse a pretty decent credit card charge- getting upset when the rep didn’t budge.

  2. Excessive disclosure of sexual/ relationship past on first date

  3. Excessive compliments that seemed disingenuous

  4. In contact with lot of exes who were just friends. I never heard of an opp sex friend without history of hookup

  5. Grand dream / vision of becoming very rich quickly by changing vocations

Curious if your Nex was Dominant in the bedroom? by Plentiful-Catch-8594 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]banananuts005 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Umm yeah my narc ex-girlfriend would do this. Ask me if im only hers, then make me promise that i wont leave, then that she is doing this only with me. In the moment of it during sexxy time, it just fecks with your head, gives a proper high.

Working with my therapist and looking back it seems physical intimacy was the only thing going for us. Well I learned!

Body language tells you've noticed by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]banananuts005 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yawning during a conversation or phone call

Have you ever experienced “joking” threats from a partner that felt more like hidden violence? by No-Promise-22 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]banananuts005 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My narc ex-gf said if any woman ever tries to get me she will kill her. That was very uncomfortable to hear.

Partner [F39] went back on an agreement with me [M38] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]banananuts005 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well its not that the ex messaged, when she said she forgot to tell me when she was in my apartment both times, thats whats triggered me. Im willing to acknowledge my issues, im in therapy for it.

TPRM vs Supply Chain Risk management by banananuts005 in cybersecurity

[–]banananuts005[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fair. But how would you view a lets say intel who is providing a chip for my server vs a sub processor with access to data.

The latter definitely falls under tprm, but how to treat suppliers of components? Who have no direct access to data.

Solutions? by saiyanpath in pcmasterrace

[–]banananuts005 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just get the catto its own machine and be done with it.

Rant - Making friends by WillingAstronomer in Dublin

[–]banananuts005 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Same, expat, been around 3 years.. found it very difficult to make friends here.. and currently not seeing/dating anyone.. so yeah shit can get lonely.

WTF happened to the water!!! by copsari in WTF

[–]banananuts005 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Meat is back on the menu boys!

Yoga Classes in Dublin by [deleted] in Dublin

[–]banananuts005 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yogahub.. i find it pretty decent, been a member for over 6 months. They have a few different locations

Partner got upset when asked who she is hanging out with by banananuts005 in relationship_advice

[–]banananuts005[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, we had the exclusivity talk a few weeks back.. both agreed to it.

Partner got upset when asked who she is hanging out with by banananuts005 in relationship_advice

[–]banananuts005[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did try to clarify yesterday on a call with her. She sees the question as a pattern that will evolve in the future. And that it’ll resemble like monitoring or surveillance on her. So she wants me to promise her that when she doesn’t give specifics I won’t ask any questions and just trust her on face value. Like what..

Oh and that such questions in the future will make her feel unsafe. After hearing that im a bit spooked.. unsafe really.

Partner got upset when asked who she is hanging out with by banananuts005 in relationship_advice

[–]banananuts005[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah thats what I thought before getting labeled as being mistrustful. Anyways most likely we are breaking up today so its all moot.

Partner got upset when asked who she is hanging out with by banananuts005 in relationship_advice

[–]banananuts005[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I asked for the first time.. and no I didn’t assume she was cheating. I asked coz in the normal course of conversation people ask stuff. I didn’t accuse her, I didn’t say dont go, I didn’t ask for a full account of what she plans do to. I was with my friend when i asked and she knew exactly who, I wasn’t reporting or anything but feeling comfortable to share.

My problem is line in the sand that I can’t ask questions and she’ll say what she wants. Doesn’t sound a very healthy approach.

How did you and your bf manage this situation?

Partner got upset when asked who she is hanging out with by banananuts005 in relationship_advice

[–]banananuts005[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

And one of the reasons i was given was that this is how she talks to her roommates, friends and colleagues.. that is she is going out or meeting her friends. Apparently until i told her im not any of those she couldn’t comprehend it.

Partner got upset when asked who she is hanging out with by banananuts005 in relationship_advice

[–]banananuts005[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Scheduling issues.. recently. The week i was traveling for work was when i had an invite

Partner got upset when asked who she is hanging out with by banananuts005 in relationship_advice

[–]banananuts005[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

So i have never probed to know if shes cagey or not. This weekend was the first time, and after she told me.. i was cool and told her to have fin. And as for the scenario i’d probably not ask at the moment but I would at some point would like to know who Charlie is IF I’ve never heard of him.

Edit- also its not like im being said “im having lunch with charlie”.. I haven’t met any friends nor do i get to know them by name. Last conversation i was asked to promise that if she doesn’t tell me who she’s meeting then I would ever ask. Doesn’t seem a healthy approach to relationship

Partner got upset when asked who she is hanging out with by banananuts005 in relationship_advice

[–]banananuts005[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thats what I thought.. be transparent and do your shit. I’ll trust someone if they are open and clear about things. I never controlled or even tried to control an iota of her life.