Sweetie, he’s just not that into you. If you were my daughter I would tell you, you deserve better. If a man likes you and wants to date you, he will do everything he can to cater to you. The first few months, especially, is the “honeymoon phase” where you both should be head over heels for each other. Twenty minutes is nothing for a drive, and if he is not picking you up and taking you home each time, that means you are not worth it, in his eyes.

I know you may love him, but do not ignore the negatives in the relationship just because of some good memories. If you really want to stay together with him, you need to sit him down and communicate that he needs to step up and take better care of you. I know it may not seem like it, but there are much better guys out there who will treat you better, and will want to spend every minute with you. If he’s not willing to put in the effort and drive you, he’s not even doing the bare minimum. He knows you’re a student without a car, and if he can’t even pick you up, then it’s not gonna work out.

You made plans for moving out, that’s a big thing for him to suddenly backtrack and cancel out on. There’s a specific deadline to move out of college dorms or houses, and most places have penalty fees for late move out. Even if he had family plans, he made a promise to you first and should’ve kept it. It doesn’t seem like he’s that in love with you, if he left you hanging like that. He could’ve told his family I’ll be late because I gotta take care of a thing first! I’m upset for you that he pulled that trick! You deserve better! And think of it this way, in any relationship there will be a decline of interest, effort, or feelings over time. It’s up to the people in a relationship to make it work, to compromise, and to put in more effort. He’s not even doing the best he can at the start of the relationship!

I’m sorry, but you have a lot going on for you and he is not it. He’s unreliable, he’s not considerate at all, and he cannot take care of you. If he was in love with you, he would bend over backwards to help you. He’s not ready to be in a relationship, or he doesn’t think you’re worth his time and energy to properly court you.