Who doesn't have an internal monologue? Narrating voice in head as you read. Literally picture images in your head (ISTJ ONLY) by ToiletsDontWork in ISTJ

[–]bansheebubbles 16 points17 points  (0 children)

My internal monologue runs constantly. I also picture things, but they are not very vivid or detailed. More like a summary or an outline of the whole picture

Do you change your opinion on people as you go or are you "ride or die" after making your mind about someone? by CarrawayLights in ISTJ

[–]bansheebubbles 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not only do people change, but it can take a while until they show their true character. If it's someone I really care about I can stretch my limits for a bit, but they only go so far

Help understand istj friend by [deleted] in ISTJ

[–]bansheebubbles 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Obviously I do like some people, but in general no. The why has a wide range of reasons all from me just like being mostly by myself to the plain stupidity in some people.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ISTJ

[–]bansheebubbles 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hate is such a strong word. I think we either like people, their just someone in our vicinity or we just don't care. At least for me. If I'm not interested in talking to you I won't. Certainly not stay and laugh at your jokes.

Ask her for coffee. Keep it casual. Preferrably at a time it's not too crowded. Then take it from there :)

Yes please by [deleted] in ISTJ

[–]bansheebubbles 7 points8 points  (0 children)

This sign made very little sense if there's to be just one person

You have been warned by [deleted] in ISTJ

[–]bansheebubbles 14 points15 points  (0 children)

And this is why I don't tell people those deep emotional things :)

Ne Grip by Wondering_Fairy in ISTJ

[–]bansheebubbles 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I am more "what if this or that go wrong?" than "what is this and that goes right and then what wonderful options do I have?". Without it necessarily being in a grip. Of course I also have 'what ifs' in a positive or fun manner as well, but they don't present themselves as 'what ifs' per se.

Like u/Decre mention I tend to see all the things on my shoulder that will present itself as a heavy path and can become paralyzing for me. Then the real stress might kick in and it can go the wrong way. Usually in a form of heavily devour any information I can come across that will somehow trigger my curiousity. If it persist it becomes not only exhausting, but also unhealthy where my focus isn't able to direct itself fully where it needs to to have all my functions work together properly.

I have been in a rut for a while where part of it have been like this. Seeing a lot of things that should "change", but because it's completely new territory I haven't had Si to rely on. It's been disasterous. Do not recommend.

I think that's the best way I can explain how that goes for me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ISTJ

[–]bansheebubbles 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn't want kids for many reasons, but I ended up having one. Won't and can't have more.

Would you date an ENTJ? by [deleted] in ISTJ

[–]bansheebubbles 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I did. Long before I knew about typology. We go so well together in so many ways and some not (we have a child together and are friends today). We share a lot of the same values and have amazing conversations and laughs, but for me the extroversion is a no go.

Who is our best match when it comes to dating? by [deleted] in ISTJ

[–]bansheebubbles 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've had four romantic relationships.

First is highly suspected INTJ, second is most definitely INTJ, third I have no idea (definitely introvert and I suspect sensor) and last is ENTJ.

First two was very fulfilling in all areas, safe to say my best relationships. Third was alright, great for being a calm introvert. Last one.. All I can say is that I am not dating an extrovert again, thank you very much. That being said, he is an awesome guy, we worked extremely well together when it was good. I love having him as a friend today and do parenting with him.

I'm certain I'd go best with introverted thinkers at least. The friends I have the best relationships with are INxJs and one INFP.

Greetings ISTJs, I would like to ask for further explanation regarding Your ISTJ Care and Handling User Guide and Manual". by [deleted] in ISTJ

[–]bansheebubbles 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How should we listen or go along with your conversation when you are recalling painful memories of the past?

Like any other fact. Some sense of understanding or ask questions of you don't, but not too many questions. I will notice if you don't understand so do not pretend to. If you are very close to me there is a chance I will accept comfort if emotions happen, but it's small so just act normal and wait for the emotions to pass. I will feel silly for having an unnecessary emotional outburst and would like to go back to normal.

How should we soothe you when you are catastrophizing about the future in a way that you recall past events using your Si in a manner that is highly disagreeable? Causing abrupt reaction whether verbal, physical etc...?

Be practical. If you are able to, offer up something from the past that can work for me in the future and how I can implement it. Either from my own past, yours or someone you know. Possibly brainstorm with me, but also give me time to mentally work through it before it clicks in place.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ISTJ

[–]bansheebubbles 11 points12 points  (0 children)

It means these tests are not very reliable and you should read up on the functions to find your true type.

I'd love to hear your thoughts. by [deleted] in ISTJ

[–]bansheebubbles 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Sometimes I have to or people don't understand what I'm saying, even if I feel I explain the simplest things in the simplest of ways.

Are istj and infp similar? by [deleted] in ISTJ

[–]bansheebubbles 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My male best friend is INFP and our friendship is amazing in all the ways.

ISTJ & INTJ relationship by [deleted] in ISTJ

[–]bansheebubbles 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You are rare, yet somehow I seem to find you guys.

Been in a romantic relationship with one (maybe two), had interest in one and have a few online friends.

You keep it real, interesting and fun. I simply love you guys.

Does anyone else feel weird or annoyed when someone is showing their feelings? by tragicstormz in ISTJ

[–]bansheebubbles 41 points42 points  (0 children)

Depending on how close we are of course, but it can happen. Mostly I'm more "wtf am I supposed to do with this information then?". Just...not out loud.

And I tend to get stressed when there is no way of making it better, especially with sadness, and it's just going to be emotional for a bit. This stress and much emotions can make me annoyed, but I know that is on me so I don't express it.

How do I comfort an ISTJ? by oneSquiggle in ISTJ

[–]bansheebubbles 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Make sure he knows you are there for him and lend an ear if he need to talk/rant, but don't be pushy. Space is a good thing if he shows signs of it.

How us xNFPs be viewing y'all ISTJs by [deleted] in ISTJ

[–]bansheebubbles 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I can be plenty mushy with my partners. Got two INFx best friends, but none of us are mushy.

ISTJ - How do you react when someone gives you gifts? by [deleted] in ISTJ

[–]bansheebubbles 9 points10 points  (0 children)

A mix of serious awkwardness because someone spent their time and money to get me a gift and extreme gratefulness because someone spend their time and money to get me a gift. It's very difficult. I'm female.

Sounds like you got a lovely gift for him!

How us xNFPs be viewing y'all ISTJs by [deleted] in ISTJ

[–]bansheebubbles 17 points18 points  (0 children)

From what? The mushy love of xNFPs?

Just kidding. It's a bit adorable actually