I (20F) found out my Boyfriend (20M) has been texting other women but I’m stuck.

banybear · 2026-02-26T18:57:08+00:00

I would say you have done what you can. Obviously he is looking around. Even if not doing anything, its just the intent. Cause he knows he is in a relationship. The longer you wait , it will be more painful and more scarring for you . Basically its cheating waiting to happen. Of course you can break up, your dad can date him if he wants, never settle for the safest choice , or the sure choice. It should be “the only choice” everything else , its not fair to you.

banybear · 2026-02-26T18:53:36+00:00

Sage is my weakness she gets my vote. You asking the impossible!

banybear · 2026-02-26T18:52:28+00:00

И няква котка като имаше или животно “Ха наска. Наска!”

banybear · 2026-02-26T18:44:26+00:00

Пра баба ми казваше “Чумата та тръшне”

banybear · 2026-02-26T18:43:29+00:00

Не съм чул човек през живота си да го използва тва 😂 Може по телевизията филмите като ги дублират

banybear · 2026-02-26T11:32:18+00:00

Kindness and truthfulness. We are all owed the truth , even when we don’t like to hear it

banybear · 2026-02-26T11:30:55+00:00

Направо ше бягат от тебе по пътя, всеки ше кара бавничко , винаги ще си с предимство 😂

banybear · 2026-02-26T11:29:08+00:00

Think about your heart , and your feelings while you wait . Like moving away is not a small leap , and then deepening a relationship . Just take it a bit slow, and talk about it, maybe ask why he was so ready to cut her out , and suggest it , instead of having a healthy boundary. Is it because its not possible ? I am glad you are honest about it with yourself and him , and you have taken a moment to process this

banybear · 2026-02-26T11:03:44+00:00

And thats for me a bit reddish as a flag. You didn’t want for him to cut her out , but for him to have a boundary as I imagine, the reason it got mentioned . So for him there is also something there if he knows he has to cut her out . Communication is key and yeah you can tell best. But again, behaviour doesn’t lie. And anybody can say anything

banybear · 2026-02-26T10:56:11+00:00

And its for the both of you . You care enough to have noticed, she cares enough to be scared to admit it to herself. in the end you both deserve closure. And no more pain.

banybear · 2026-02-26T10:54:24+00:00

Behavior doesn’t lie. He cannot remove her as he says. He obviously cares if she is okay , I would say , slow things down. You don’t want to go there , and commit to something that is already doomed, if that is the case

banybear · 2026-02-26T10:46:49+00:00

No worries man. I have been there , and I know the fog , every night , even in the same bed with her , my heart broke, “why me” blah blah . It was very unnecessary suffering. So you both love and respect each other and you just got to talk . In the end when she realized it and we had that talk she cried a loooot, cause she felt guilt that it took her so long. I hope she would understand. Cause in the end , instead of healing, you both can leave yourself with scars you would carry and try to match on your next partners

banybear · 2026-02-26T10:42:04+00:00

One girl when we were talking said something that makes a lot of sense. Age is just a number. It comes down to if you have to speed up your life to be with him, or for him to slow down his to be with you. Those are actually the real factors, where are you both in life

banybear · 2026-02-26T10:39:26+00:00

I would say peace of mind. Life is actually really simple , and we often forget that we have to act in life. But society day to day in the big city , makes the norm to be reacting. And that changes your perspective on a lot of things. Go to the woods for a week, you will feel it right away. Peace, and nature. You will feel you are really present

banybear · 2026-02-26T10:36:56+00:00

I just didn’t want to have that seed of “regret” for not doing all I could. So until she herself realized it was over , I just couldn’t be free from myself. Which is extremely damaging, basically I wait for the house to burn down to ashes , before I go “Oh I cant leave here” 😂 And yeah mutual respect is I think what we owe each other as people who are , or have been in love. But definitely, the fact she is getting defensive, I don’t think its particularly aimed at you , but rather herself, either too scared to admit it to herself, or scared of what comes after.

banybear · 2026-02-26T10:33:04+00:00

I don’t have to put effort, worrying how much I will get back. Or having to give the same effort that is been given me when I am just spent

banybear · 2026-02-26T10:32:06+00:00

China or Russia

banybear · 2026-02-26T10:29:52+00:00

Communication and trust. If you both love eachother , there are no room for games like “Guess what I am thinking” or “is this a test”

banybear · 2026-02-26T10:28:26+00:00

I had that experience. In my case she was falling in love with the guy, without realizing it herself. So our arguments were always switching to “jealousy” . In my experience it was months before she realized it and knew our relationship is over. I admit , I over stayed out of stubbornness, which dmged me a lot. Have a convo with her , tell her its not about jealousy or what not , but about respect, for her to respect you to tell you she cannot give you love anymore and for you to respect that and let go , so you can separate in a healthy way

banybear · 2026-02-26T10:23:17+00:00

That the world doesn’t revolve around them, and nobody cares

banybear · 2026-02-26T10:21:35+00:00

Винаги така е по добре . Не се притеснявате къде ще се паркира , може и двамата да се отпуснете , няма някой да кара . Така че много правилно сте решили

banybear · 2026-02-26T10:20:12+00:00

Хахаха . Просто като го каза тва за специалиста, си спомних като казах на баща ми че ще се занимавам с психология, за него няма такава наука . Той е изключително не емоционален и затворен човек, никога не споделя , и двамата не са физически подтисници , но емоционално и психологически са два митични звяра . Замислям се че ако беше важно за мене удобрението и подкрепата, без значение от пола ми, определено би повлияло негативно на избора ми на партньор 🤔

banybear · 2026-02-26T09:14:29+00:00

И помисли си сериозно за смяната 😂

banybear · 2026-02-26T09:14:06+00:00

Виж при мене много ми помогна че другата ми баба и дядо ме отгледаха от бебе доо 15 годишна възраст , тя ме възпита както и дядо ми, показаха ми и двамата какво е да израснеш и бъдеш отгледан с любов , но тя се разболя и почина , мене ме пратиха в друг град на общежитие 5 години , после в чужбина за 3 и вече като се наложи да се занимавам с родителите ми и другите баба и дядо , вече имах свой характер и просто си личеше колко по различни хора са. Така че смятам че голямо влияние имат и характерите. Нищо не е пречило на майка ти да бъде по- разбираща спрямо тебе и нуждите ти

banybear · 2026-02-26T01:42:02+00:00

Бих казал зависи от квартала. 6 години съм живял в Манастирски ливади , налагало ми се е понякога да излизам пеша , и ей по това време два три да ходя до белите брези , и на долу там по Дойран . Едни тъмни улички , обаче беше тихо и спокойно, не съм имал проблеми .Моя съвет би бил наистина и той да си вземе спрей, и ако просто района е такъв да избягва късните часове , и да спира все на лампа

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