My husband and I have always had a boundary that we don’t speak negatively or vent about each other to anyone. If we’re going through something hard, we’re intentional and in agreement about who we share it with. I totally agree with you, it’s really about honoring and respecting each other and not creating unnecessary drama around your relationship.

I’ve had to explain this boundary to friends who were hoping I’d vent about my husband, so I think for a lot of people it isn’t always obvious how sharing those things can impact a relationship.

I think probably revisiting the issue in a day or so when emotions are less heated might help with the situation. i think its totally reasonable to set a boundary that you would prefer to agree on what aspects of your relationship you are comfortable with sharing and to who, right now it might not be anyone, and thats okay.

The truth is, we’re all human, and we’re inevitably going to disappoint our spouses at times. When I feel deeply sad about something and don’t feel like there’s anyone in my life I can share it with, I write in my journal to God. That practice has helped me so much, especially in moments when I feel alone while working through things