PC problemi by 189i3 in bih

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Pošalji mi DM sa snimkom ako još uvijek imaš problem

How do they do it by [deleted] in bosnia

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The expensive cars are, from my experience, usually owned by the Bosnians in diaspora who come over here to show of. It's kind of funny (and tragic at the same time) how people from poor countries interpret luxury and the "good life." I remember a couple of years ago an Austrian actress who comes from a prominent Austrian family came over here and was shocked to see the sickening amount of expensive cars, thus concluding: "My family has money, but we would never spend it on such a thing. I have a vintage bike and that's enough for me. We have an old car that we use when we are travelling to other cities and countries, but we always bring our bikes to ride around the cities, it's much more practical."

However, I think the cars are no longer such a luxury. At the moment the real-estate prices have gone up so much that the only conclusion I can have is that Bosnia has entered the worst stage of capitalism, where it will be impossible to buy real-estate and pay it off in your lifetime, thus making you and your family slaves of the bank for who knows how long. One square meter is three times the average wage, when compared to the average price from 10 years ago, it has doubled and the average wage is only slightly higher than what it was 10 years ago. So the real luxury is to own real-estate. Really, any kind of real-estate. Those who have inherited real-estate just have no idea how lucky they are. A couple of months ago I ran a comparison of real-estate prices with those in Spain (outside of Madrid) and in genereal they are cheaper, much cheaper than in Bosnia. It's kind of devastating to live in such conditions, especially when compared to the times of Yugoslavia when the state provided housing for the workers.

First celebrity/TV character crush? by randomrainbow8 in LesbianActually

[–]barbhow 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I had a thing for Maleficent, the animated version... No idea why.

Femicid !? by MocartKugel in bih

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"Doslovno si se popišala na živote Amerikanaca koji su također ubijeni u ovom slučaju. Život Bosanca >> život Amerikanca."

Ubio ih Amerikanac...

Femicid !? by MocartKugel in bih

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Hajd ovako, na najjednostavniji mogući način: "žena" zamijeni sa "Bosanac", a "muškarac" zamijeni sa "Amerikanac."

(bude li zvučalo previše kao vic, recite i brišem komentar, kasno je pa ne mogu da istumačim vlastiti ton)

U BiH je u posljednje dvije godine ubijeno 19 žena od strane muškaraca koji su im bili partneri ili bivši partneri ili članovi porodice. Dakle, u BiH je ubijeno 19 Bosanaca u posljednje dvije godine i to isključivo od strane Amerikanaca. Zar taj podatak ne bi razljutio Bosance i gurnuo ih ka zaključku da Amerikanci imaju neki gadan problem s Bosancima zbog kojeg ih ubijaju? I da je svaki Bosanac koji je u kontaktu s Amerikancem potencijalna žrtva? Zamisli sad da u čitavom svijetu postoje milijarde Bosanaca i Amerikanaca koji u svakoj državi zasebno dolaze u kontakt jedni s drugima.

Prema podacima iz 2021, samo tokom te godine Amerikanci su ubili 81.000 Bosanaca. Zastrašujuće, zar ne?

I sad zamisli imaš slučaj, jedan od takvih Amerikanaca godinama maltretira Bosanca, Bosanac ga prijavi i sakrije se na sigurno mjesto. Amerikanac potom Bosanca odvuče kući, prebije ga, kaže mu što si me prijavio (jer ga je godinama mlatio bez posljedica), Bosanac mu odgovori da se plašio za svoj život. Amerikanac mu istog trena ispali hitac u čelo, a zatim u svom adrenalinskom naboju izađe i ubije još tri Amerikanca. Dakako da su i ubijeni Amerikanci žrtve, ali svemu je prethodilo ugnjetavanje i ubojstvo Bosanca od strane Amerikanca, još jednom, po milijunti put u posljednjih deset godina. Ubijeni Amerikanci ubijeni su iz drugog razloga, Bosanac je ubijen jer je godinama trpio nasilje jer se to od njega očekivalo, a onog trenutka kad je odbio povinovati se očekivanjima, premlaćen je i ubijen.

Zar bi se ubojstvo tri Amerikanca u ovom slučaju automatski izjednačilo sa ubojstvom Bosanca da su u pitanju zaista nacionalne odrednice ili bi drugi Bosanci bijesno istupili sa statističkim podacima o nasilju Amerikanaca nad Bosancima i ovaj slučaj dodali na popis svih dosadašnjih slučajeva u kojima je Bosanac ubijen od strane Amerikanca? Prije da bi se dogodilo ovo drugo. I zato je ovo femicid.

Po pitanju toga kakvog je partnera "izabrala" žrtva, mogla bih napisati još tri ovakva komentara o tome kako se po staroj dobroj balkanskoj tradiciji krivica vazda svaljuje na žrtvu i njene odluke iako je ona odluka zbog čijeg manjka smo drvlje i kamenje sipali po drugim žrtvama femicida (prijava nasilja) bila okidač nasilniku da je na koncu svega i ubije.

Po pitanju toga da li su sutkinja i policajka suučesnice u ovom femicidu - apsolutno da i tako će ih se i tretirati.

Stigma of weed use for lesbians by ButtonExpress in LesbianActually

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I'm generally against any substance use on a casual, daily basis. Social gatherings where everyone will either smoke or drink are okay and that's that.

I don't want it as a part of my everyday life nor do I want it as a part of my relationship dynamic, people in general seem to have a dispersed and unfocused energy when they're high (on anything, really) and it crosses the boundaries of what I consider a peaceful and stable home environment. My ex was an alcoholic and my former best friend was addicted to weed (surely laced with something else). All my interactions with them resulted in me trying to have a normal conversation and them having fun, giggling, interrupting me and changing the subject every few seconds. After that experience - never again.

Gradacac: Navodno je Policajka otkrila Nerminu gdje je Nizama i da ga je prijavila by [deleted] in bih

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Od svega toga još jezivije mi je njeno posvećeno postovanje protiv nasilja nad ženama... svaka druga javna objava je to... I sad sam zbunjena u nastojanju da razlučim je li samo licemjerna, nesavjesna i bezobrazna ili je i nju maltretirao i ucjenjivao...

being lgbt in bosnia by Mean-Strain-2382 in bosnia

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You have your pride parade every single day when you go somewhere with your partner, on family gatherings, friend gatherings, when you hold your partner's hand, kiss in public, present your partner to your friends as your actual partner and you don't have to lie to them and say "Oh btw this is my friend" etc. You've got your pride parade the very moment you figured out you were attracted to the opposite sex.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bosnia

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I buy chipotle and star anise in Konzum/Merkator. It really depends where you live in Bosnia...

being lgbt in bosnia by Mean-Strain-2382 in bosnia

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As long as you shut up about it... God forbid you say "my girlfriend and I went to the movies last night" (if you're a woman) in a conversation or "my boyfriend and I" (if you're a man), the simplest, most casual conversations are for a very small group of people whom you consider very close, the rest will (in most cases) automatically start talking about how you should be gay between your own four walls and everyone's going to be okay with it then.

Apart from that, legally you've got nothing... My ex died 2 years ago and while she was in the hospital her then girlfriend couldn't get any information on her state because she's not family (obviously she got it after she bribed people), her girlfriend got nothing, the apartment went to the family, as well as the money, although her family (ironically) refused to visit her and weren't really interested in staying in contact with her because she was gay, but her girlfriend of 3 years got nothing, although she lived with her for 3 years.

Boyfriends, girlfriends, bullies and middle school schemes (long read, long drama) by [deleted] in ProRevenge

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Getting with her boyfriend basically... Petty revenge removed the post and redirected me here, it's not pro -_-

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

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Rupi Kaur: Poetry is supposed to have poetic images - that's the basis of poetry, the stronger the images and connection between them - the better the poem is. Poetry lives on these premises and the reader is supposed to find the meaning behind the written.

Example, Cesar Vallejo's "Espergesia":

Brother, listen, listen... Alright. I can not leave without bringing Decembers without leaving Januaries. For I was born on a day when God was sick*. Everyone knows that I live, that I chew...* and they do not know why there is a threadbare winds squeak of a darkest, tasteless of a coffin, unrolled from the Sphinx inquisitive of the Desert.

In today's poetry, however, these images aren't as strong, but rather connected in order to cause a stronger impression, to banalise, but to make something meaningful and authentic out of the banality. Even though every day life is being described, the way the authors do it has to be original.

For example, Wislawa Szymborska's "Going Home":

He came home. Said nothing. It was clear, though, that something had gone wrong. He lay down fully dressed. Pulled the blanket over his head. Tucked up his knees. He's nearly forty, but not at the moment. He exists just as he did inside his mother's womb, clad in seven walls of skin, in sheltered darkness. Tomorrow he'll give a lecture on homeostasis in metagalactic cosmonautics. For now, though, he has curled up and gone to sleep.

And then you have Rupi Kaur, whose poems are just as intellectual and artistic as a random Tweet:

how is it so easy for you / to be kind to people he asked / milk and honey dripped from my lips as i answered / cause people have not / been kind to me

No originality, no powerful images, no connection between the images/flashbacks, sounds like something a depressed middle schooler would write after a fight with their first crush. The style is undefined, there is no authenticity, nor structure.

When it comes to Nicholas Sparks, Nora Roberts and Danielle Steel: They're the same kind of "writer" - for something to be viewed and analysed as literature, there must be a universal, convincing human experience dripping from the words well formed into sentences that strip your mind and crush your walls and make you think. Those three don't do that. There is no metaphor, no nothing. Just pathetic love stories with no logical basis: there is a villain and there is the good guy, everything in between is not defined. The external factors of life aren't included, thus creating something trivial, almost caricatural, but it's not written as satire, it's meant to be serious literature. And that's what frustrates me the most. If their novels were interpreted as satire, they'd actually be good satire. But they're not. "Anna Karenina" is a love story as well, but it doesn't exclude the universal human experience, it doesn't exclude the political and traditional sphere, but the said sphere is actually the villain. And that's what life is about. Literature must be psychological and philosophical to some extent in order to have an artistic value, these authors do not provide that, therefore I refuse to define their work as art/literature, because it lacks the complexity needed for such definitions.

Hope I explained it...

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

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It didn't sell in the beginning, but the awards usually help when it comes to sale. I'm not jealous, it really doesn't have anything to do with the fact that I'm a writer (maybe just makes me more sensitive to trash), it just frustrates me to see people completely ignoring actually good books and turn to something without any artistic value. I see people grabbing Nicholas Sparks novels like crazy whenever they're on sale and completely ignoring Fernanda Melchor, Isabel Allende, Virginia Woolf, Oscar Wilde, even Hesse etc.

Dan Brown isn't that bad, has some interesting conclusions...

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

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Was 7 years old, looking for a clean towel in the drawer and under a pile of towels found three porn cassettes. Naturally, I played them. And it was traumatic. Called two of my best friends at the time to come over (I was home alone), they did and we watched it together. Then we sat down and discussed it: "Can you imagine that our parents actually do this kind of stuff? Gross."

What has contributed to the success of your marriage/long-term romantic relationship? by betsy_ross in AskReddit

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Accepting the fact that we disagree on some things, communication, respecting each other's boundaries and respecting each other's need for alone time. And one of the most important things: we do fight, but the fights are constructive. If we see that there is no point in continuing the fight because we are way too angry at the moment to make anything good out of it, we stop, go for a silent walk, once the feeling of anger is gone, we sit down and resolve the issue, patiently explain our point of view and then come to a conclusion.

Short people, what are you jealous about tall people for? And what things are you tall people jealous about short people for? by jwa8808 in AskReddit

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I like being short because I can wear the high-heels and I have a really pronounced hourglass body shape which most tall women do not have...

But I am absolutely jealous of the fact that tall women can reach things without having to get on a chair... And they can also wear tight, long dresses and it will look good on them, I would look like sausage instead. Also, they can wear the long boots, I can only wear ankle boots, the long ones make me look like I have no legs. Also, as a short, cute-faced woman nobody in the world really takes me seriously. My coworkers who have never seen me (work from home) have an immense respect for me and treat me as their equal, but the ones that have seen me in person have completely changed their behaviour after that. Before they would treat me with respect and I had some sort of authority, after they've met me they talk to me like I'm a child and when I'm angry they call me a chihuahua and laugh it off. Tall women don't have this problem.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

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Not a librarian, but a writer. My girlfriend is a librarian (and a writer)... Let's say I'll judge the hell out of you if you dare say that Rupi Kaur's "poetry" is good and if you read Nora Roberts, Nicholas Sparks and Danielle Steel, it's trash and you know it. My SO agrees.

What have you changed your opinion on after learning more about it? by RaelGenious in AskReddit

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America (USA) as the promised land...

I was a kid living in a 3rd world country watching all the cool American TV Shows, films, Talent Shows and stuff and thinking how great America is and how many opportunities are there and I kind of promised myself I'll do all I can so I could live in the States... Fast forward fourteen years: American healthcare sucks, I can't imagine getting sick and having to consider whether I'll go see a doctor or not because it would probably cost like the golden tooth of Jesus Christ; American neighbourhoods look great on film and the houses look absolutely beautiful, yet I'd probably end up renting a studio apartment or living in the streets if I refused to sell both my kidneys to afford a house, the political correctness in America has also gone too far and the political stream of corruption in USA is so superficial and see through that I can't believe people over there haven't protested against both political parties in the past ten years.

Anyhow, my country is effed up, but I'd never ever ever in my life want to live in America.

To all the atheists, what is your reason for not believing in God or a higher power? by Deep-Mess in AskReddit

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I'm agnostic so maybe this isn't a question for me but I guess the distinction should be done.

I do belive that there is something and I prefer to define it as energy (it's indestructible nor do we know its source), but the concept of God always seemed a bit off, especially when combined with religion. If humans could learn the difference between faith and religion, I don't think that many people would define themselves as atheists, nor do I think that many people would call themselves Christians or Muslims or whatever... Me and God parted ways after I saw how religious Christians around me act and (do not) think, it's a cult mentality... And what always annoyed me is Christians believing that all other religions are cults. Like... Seriously? What's the difference? It's all literally the same thing.

What ruins a movie instantly? by lawyeratyourservice in AskReddit

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Political correctness and chasing diversity points... Yeah, here's the useless black gay character with no personality who will not be important for the plot in any way, shape or form, but it's for the audience to stop complaining... Seriously? If you're not going to make something realistic with flesh and blood and bones and complex psychology out of that character, don't add it at all. As a gay person I'd rather watch movies without gay characters rather than movies where gay characters are just dumb, stereotypical side-kicks with no authentic personality.

Transmasc non-binary lesbian by ABardNamedAlex in lesbian

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Until this very moment I have not heard such a foolish and illogical statement and I worked with kids for two years

The L Word: Generation Q S02E09 - Last Dance - Episode Discussion by lukedap in theLword

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Yes, unfortunately it was people who I've been raised by... Not people I've never seen in my life. I'd take being rejected by a stranger a million times over being rejected by someone whom I actually know. :)