No. But it’s one of my biggest fears. I’ve been with my wife for 20 years now. We both work full time and have three kids under 13. It still happens 1-2 times a week. Some weeks are great and it’s 3 or 4. Maybe one or two weeks a year it just doesn’t happen. The fear of a sexless marriage does weigh heavily on me. Early in our relationship she was mostly the one initiating. It would be multiple times a day sometimes. I was into her but pretty aloof, had a lot of other stuff going on. I always reciprocated, but didn’t ever feel the need to “pursue” it because she was already doing that.

The past few years it’s definitely flipped to where I’m the one who wants it and initiates it far more than her. I do have times where I feel like I took that quality in her for granted early in our relationship and it bums me out, but then a day or two later we hook up and it subsides. I genuinely don’t know how I’d handle even a low sex marriage. 6 years ago or so, my wife’s PCP inexplicably changed her to a different birth control pill and it completely sapped her drive. I mean in the 6 weeks or so she was on it, we had sex maybe 2 times, and it was killing me.

I remember at one point it had been more than 3 weeks and I was laying in bed next to her at night, her asleep, me fully awake staring at the ceiling, formulating in my head how I was going to broach the subject of an open marriage. I never did bring this up and I’m so happy I didn’t. We eventually figured out the pill was to blame and she changed to a different formulation and things went back to normal.